You can see that any time a MtF troon loses his temper. like the Gamestop guy. It's very masculine and violent. In fact, I'd say it's worse then normal men, kind of roid ragey.
I reckon this is because of two reasons; the first being MtF troons are more likely to be mentally ill/have personality disorders and therefore are more unstable/inclined to explosive anger (especially with their sense of entitlement and collective victim complexes), and the second being because their own self-perception has changed.
They now believe themselves to be women and they feel they are permitted to act within women's standards of behavior instead of men's, and that the world will perceive their behavior as they would perceive any other woman's behavior. The problem is that they actually have no clue what women's standards of behavior are; real women spend their entire childhood and young adulthood learning what is socially deemed "okay" and "not okay" for women/girls to behave; that's years of social reinforcement of certain behaviors by family, friends, classmates, teachers/authority figures, media, and pop culture.
Adding onto that, women as a group also tend to have more intricate, unspoken rules of conduct among other women (likely because women are better at understanding social cues and nonverbal communication). Some dude who decides he's a woman as an adult is absolutely
not going to be able to understand the expectations of women, let alone act in a way acceptable of women, because there's just so much ingrained during a girl's formative years that you can't replicate any other way.
Not to mention the over-simplified idea a lot of men have about how life as a women actually is (see: the "life on easy mode" meme). Their frame of reference is what they see on TV and in movies, in which most of the writers
are men, and believe those things to be what life as a woman is really like. They only see the surface of the lives of the women they know and they're too self absorbed to realize that each woman is also her own person with her own complex thoughts and problems, that they still exist even when out of the public eye or without said troon to witness them.
So you get troons who fall back on really general cliches like "being a woman makes it okay to be outwardly emotional", but what they
don't understand is that it's not necessarily being "emotional", it's being vulnerable that is acceptable, and not always for... moral reasons, nor out of benevolent sexism. But they don't know that, or that it's socially unacceptable for women to be angry in a way that is confrontational and aggressive - it doesn't cross their mind because they don't often see angry women, since most women redirect their anger either inwardly or express it in more passive ways (ie passive aggression or being "snippy" or unfriendly). The female anger they
do see is often defanged by their perception of it: the naggy shrew of a mother/wife; the passionate, but not serious or intimidating, fury of a girl who is "cute when she's angry".
They think being a woman means they can make a big scene and be dramatic,
oblivious to the fact that most women loathe being seen as "dramatic" and will intentionally hold back when expressing themselves, because being called "dramatic" or "overemotional" is often used as a way to brush off their feelings. But "dramatic" behavior has feminine connotations and so, to troons, it's an
affirming way of conducting themselves because they're "acting femininely". You also see this a lot with gay men who haven't had the significance of their feelings dismissed on account of being too theatrical.
I've also come to realize this explains why a lot of seemingly normal men become absolute trainwrecks after they troon out - it's not that they suddenly become incapable of being a functioning member of society or behaving in socially accpetable ways, it's because they think they're allowed to be lazy since
they're a girl now, and they should be taken care of and provided for. They attribute a lot of feminine vulnerability onto themselves that no one else does. They also tend to think they're hot women and therefore should be put up on a pedestal (like how they did to actual hot women before they trooned out) and start acting overtly narcissistic and egotistical, like in the case of Cosmo Wright.
In the end, they're still perceived as men, and their behavior is just odd and baffling, because we don't project onto them the stereotypical female traits they're trying to embrace. Sometimes it comes across as a caricature of womanhood, but other times it just seems contradictory or plain odd. Because they're men, and they underestimate the social intricacies of perception and gendered behavior.
edit: formatting
also sorry for the wordy post I'm on adderall
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