Lolcow Andrew Peter Carlson / Anaiah Carlson / Tamarlover / Xtamarlover - Jewish/Christian Wannabe Cult Leader, Stalker, Ugly af, dogfucker, mayor of spitsville

[Diana Moon Glampers]

What are these expensive DNA tests for?

 

[Deadpool]

What are these expensive DNA tests for?

Hopefully autism and mental illness detection. Seriously though my best advice is instead of paying minimum payments every month on every card he should skip out on some of the larger debt payments for a month or two (because there is some leeway) and pay off the smaller credit card debts. After the small shit is taken care of start paying the larger debts off. At least that way he doesn't have interest building on all of them at once. Or cross his fingers and buy lottery tickets with all his money hoping his bro Yahweh helps him out.

 

[Anaiah Carlson]

What are these expensive DNA tests for?

Family tree DNA has a basic general dna test called Family Finder which is their main primary dna test. Ive gotten a Family Finder test for 15 people: 2 of my siblings have taken the test. Both my parents and 2 of my grandparents. My mom's cousin took one from me as well. My brother in law took one from me. 2 i just purchased are for my 2 sister in laws. i gave a test to my dad's cousin as well as 3 tests to my aunts family. But those 4 tests they didnt taken them due to lack of interest. So they are either lost or still have them somewhere just sitting there.

In addition I purchased for myself the full mother line test as well as the full y line test. The y line test is $650. And in the most recent purchase, I purchased the full mother line test and full y line test for my grandfather. I got the tests about $250 discount.

Hopefully autism and mental illness detection. Seriously though my best advice is instead of paying minimum payments every month on every card he should skip out on some of the larger debt payments for a month or two (because there is some leeway) and pay off the smaller credit card debts. After the small shit is taken care of start paying the larger debts off. At least that way he doesn't have interest building on all of them at once. Or cross his fingers and buy lottery tickets with all his money hoping his bro Yahweh helps him out.

Thats what ive been doing but then things comes up and need to spend again. My current policy is just to dump the entjre of my paychecks into the credit cards and then use the credit cards for things i need. For example the guy i pay to do work for me i pay him $125 a month now.

 

[Rumpled Foreskin]

If this isn’t proof of you needing a wrangler, I’m not sure what is.

 

[Fareal]

Thats what ive been doing but then things comes up and need to spend again. My current policy is just to dump the entjre of my paychecks into the credit cards and then use the credit cards for things i need. For example the guy i pay to do work for me i pay him $125 a month now.

Okay. You posted back in... February? the state of play with your debts and cards then.

Where are you now? This is May. What's the balance on each of your cards/loans?

 

[Rumpled Foreskin]

What’s new @xtamarlover ?

 

[💗Freddie Freaker💗]

I was budging for her extremely, radically altering my lifestyle and goals and plans and desires to try to make things work with her. I changed positions, constantly sought compromises, etc. I will say my view on homosexuality was not the sole reason but it was the primary reason. Basically there was a number of things she didnt like about our differences but homosexuality was the main thing that made her unable to handle our differences.

So what were the other differences?

I think we as in i and kiwifarms have been through this before, if you become my friend, i believe as long i didnt do anything to deserve ending the friendship, the person owes me their friendship. so yes, their time affection is I actually am entitled to.

Do you think your ex now owes you her affection?

As for what the bible says on the issues you spoke of, i accept it, with the partial exception of rape. Because society's definition of rape today is ludicrous. Also the bible does support the punishment of both rapists and rape victims if they allow the rape to happen aka they arent rape victims if they actively choose not to resist a "rapist". Also as i said rape by deception doesnt exist. And statutory rape is a misnomer. It doesnt exist. If they choose to have sex it isnt rape. And the whole me too movement wirh the power dynamic being called rape is ridiculous. If you choose/agree to have sex with a person of authority over you, it isn't rape.

If someone doesn't resist a rapist because they're being threatened at gunpoint, is it rape? What if they're unconscious and therefore can't fight back? Do you think five year olds can consent to sex with adults?

Doesnt take the bible to conclude homosexuality is wrong though. Just takes common sense.

How so, though? Homosexuality just means someone has sex differently. A dude who puts his penis in a dude's butt won't necessarily have a life radically different from a dude who puts his penis in a lady's butt.

Also, I noticed that your avatar now says "I hate my ex". Are you just bitter because she dumped you or did something new happen?

 

[Diana Moon Glampers]

What a surprise, women who stop giving him affection are objects of his hatred. Never has "move on" been better advice for a human being, and never has there been one less likely to take it.

 

[Jaded Optimist]

Also, I noticed that your avatar now says "I hate my ex". Are you just bitter because she dumped you or did something new happen?

Amazing since they said things like this back in March

I already answered before what I think about the drama. I am no longer involved in the drama. I will not speak on this website about Melinda any further. I wish to move past my bad past and be a better person. I think any further discussion about Melinda on this forum is detrimental to my personal progress.

No i never left crazytown. I moved to a better neighborhood. Im still over Tamar and no longer obsessive or stalking her or anyone

Or is the "I hate my ex" about your last girlfriend, Andrew? What changed?

 

[Anaiah Carlson]

Hi I don't really want to post here anymore I'm trying to move on and get my life together. But I'll respond. I hate my ex girlfriend is what my profile pic means. Because she jumped the gun and immediately started claiming that I was stalking her even though I had sent her only a few emails. I just want to be her friend. But contra Melinda, the only reason my ex girlfriend doesn't want to talk with me is because she believes if you break up you cannot be friends and should not ever talk to each other ever again. Which I find the most absurd and illogical thing ever. Whereas with Melinda we had a fight when we were friends, but with my ex girlfriend, we broke up because she doesn't agree with my religious views. Which is fine perhaps we aren't good for each other as a couple. But instead of being mature and breaking up with me in person and having a final talk, she cut me off and refused to talk about things. That is a very weak and immature way to handle a breakup. So many people can be friends or at least be on speaking terms after a breakup. The fact she automatically resorted to no contact at all even though I told her that is my biggest fear if there is a break up, shows she never truly cared about me and makes me hate her. If she is willing to be my friend again someday or at least an acquaintance, I would not hate her anymore. Once I found out she was threatening to get a protective order, I told her I'll leave her alone but please don't do the protective order. Its not right, because with Melinda, she had legitimate reason to get a protective order. But with my ex girlfriend, she immediately considered resorting to it only because I had told her about my past with Melinda. Thats not fair to subject me to that simply because of my past issues with Melinda.

The theological questions: I am inclined to think that if they have a gun to someone's head, the victim is entirely innocent, but I am not 100% sure; I would have to think about it more. Sexuality is basically something very holy, so if you abuse it improperly, its so heinous it deserves death. Otherwise, if sexuality was simply just "something fun" you could do with your dick, then it wouldn't be a big deal to use it by force for anything. it'd be no different than playing a video game. The fact that we find it so heinous for pedophiles and bestiality and cheating and such is a demonstration of our innate understanding that sexuality is very special and holy and that it is meant to be respected. And if you don't respect it properly it is extremely heinous. No one cares if an adult forces a child to play a video game. As its not a big deal. They care about sexual abuse because sexuality is so holy and deserves the utmost respect. Homosexuality is a grotesque disgusting violation of sexuality and it is incredibly heinous. It deserves death, thats how disrespectful it is to homosexuality. It is comparable to raping a child or animal. It is comparable to cheating and prostitution. Of course I didn't tell her my views about homosexuality in this kind of way. And besides, because we live in a secular society, the standard is different. Since the society is ignorant about the law, its makes homosexuality less deserving of death. Since society is taught to embrace homosexuality, those who engage in homosexuality have been brainwashed by the culture so they are less deserving of death than in a society like muslim society where the society clearly says its wrong and if you commit homosexuality you will be killed. Muslim nations in many ways are very honorable and righteous in how they enact justice. But Muslim societies have their own issues as well that need to be fixed.

Moving on is something i'm being forced to do, but I shouldn't have to move on since there's nothing I did wrong to my ex girlfriend to warrant her cutting me out of her life. And breaking up in a relationship is a lame shitty excuse to cut off all contact with someone for the rest of their life.

 

[Jaded Optimist]

Got it, you hate the gays and hate woman who don't want to talk to you. You did the same thing with Melinda when she went no contact. You don't get to control how someone reacts or if they have to be friends. You have control issues and need therapy.

How the financial situation?

 

[Anaiah Carlson]

Got it, you hate the gays and hate woman who don't want to talk to you. You did the same thing with Melinda when she went no contact. You don't get to control how someone reacts or if they have to be friends.

I dont get to control it, but they are in the wrong, period. I am in the wrong if I harass them to be my friend. They are in the wrong if they refuse to be my friend. It goes both ways. So the right thing to do is me to leave them alone and hope they do the right thing and eventually apologize and agree to be friends. And I am leaving her alone. Haven't contacted her in 3 months and I won't be contacting her again in the forseeable future. But I'm sure I'll contact her at least one more time in the distant future, since I didn't do anything horrible.

 

[Jaded Optimist]

. But I'm sure I'll contact her at least one more time in the distant future, since I didn't do anything horrible.

That's being controlling you dolt! She set a boundary and you refuse to accept it.

 

[Anaiah Carlson]

That's being controlling you dolt! She set a boundary and you refuse to accept it.

Just because someone says "don't talk with me" doesn't mean you cannot talk with them ever again. A simple email saying "can we talk?" after 10 years for example, there's no harm in that. And to think that you magically can force everyone to respect your arbitrary boundaries you put up is ridiculous. There are many legitimate reasons to go against someone's boundaries. If a parents 6 year old child says "I hate you don't talk to me ever again" to their parent, does their parent have to never talk to them again unless the child says its ok? of course not. So the reality is, simply making a declaration that someone is "forbidden" to talk with you, is not valid. the USA doesn't have such a concept either. for example, protective orders don't last "forever". They last typically 2 years. Some places longer like 5 years. But no protective that I am aware of lasts one's entire life banning contact with someone forever. That is because it is understood logically that there should be room for dialogue to reassess if the person still wants them out of their life.

"Can we talk?". Reply: "No, leave me alone." reply: "ok ill leave you alone."

very long time later. "Hey its been a while. Do you still want me to leave you alone?" reply: "Yes, please leave me alone." Reply: "ok will do."

very very very long time later. "Its been a very long time. I was hoping we could put the past behind us and be at peace with one another. Can we talk about things?" reply: (no reply; doesn't respond). reply: (no reply; doesn't respond; understood the answer is no if they don't respond)

 

[Jaded Optimist]

If a parents 6 year old child says "I hate you don't talk to me ever again" to their parent, does their parent have to never talk to them again unless the child says its ok? of course not.

You are comparing an adult woman to a child? Ffs...

But no protective that I am aware of lasts one's entire life banning contact with someone forever.

There are permanent restraining orders actually. As a collector of restraining orders you should probably read up on them more.

 

[KimCoppolaAficionado]

Hi I don't really want to post here anymore I'm trying to move on and get my life together. But I'll respond. I hate my ex girlfriend is what my profile pic means. Because she jumped the gun and immediately started claiming that I was stalking her even though I had sent her only a few emails. I just want to be her friend. But contra Melinda, the only reason my ex girlfriend doesn't want to talk with me is because she believes if you break up you cannot be friends and should not ever talk to each other ever again. Which I find the most absurd and illogical thing ever. Whereas with Melinda we had a fight when we were friends, but with my ex girlfriend, we broke up because she doesn't agree with my religious views. Which is fine perhaps we aren't good for each other as a couple. But instead of being mature and breaking up with me in person and having a final talk, she cut me off and refused to talk about things. That is a very weak and immature way to handle a breakup. So many people can be friends or at least be on speaking terms after a breakup. The fact she automatically resorted to no contact at all even though I told her that is my biggest fear if there is a break up, shows she never truly cared about me and makes me hate her. If she is willing to be my friend again someday or at least an acquaintance, I would not hate her anymore. Once I found out she was threatening to get a protective order, I told her I'll leave her alone but please don't do the protective order. Its not right, because with Melinda, she had legitimate reason to get a protective order. But with my ex girlfriend, she immediately considered resorting to it only because I had told her about my past with Melinda. Thats not fair to subject me to that simply because of my past issues with Melinda.

The theological questions: I am inclined to think that if they have a gun to someone's head, the victim is entirely innocent, but I am not 100% sure; I would have to think about it more. Sexuality is basically something very holy, so if you abuse it improperly, its so heinous it deserves death. Otherwise, if sexuality was simply just "something fun" you could do with your dick, then it wouldn't be a big deal to use it by force for anything. it'd be no different than playing a video game. The fact that we find it so heinous for pedophiles and bestiality and cheating and such is a demonstration of our innate understanding that sexuality is very special and holy and that it is meant to be respected. And if you don't respect it properly it is extremely heinous. No one cares if an adult forces a child to play a video game. As its not a big deal. They care about sexual abuse because sexuality is so holy and deserves the utmost respect. Homosexuality is a grotesque disgusting violation of sexuality and it is incredibly heinous. It deserves death, thats how disrespectful it is to homosexuality. It is comparable to raping a child or animal. It is comparable to cheating and prostitution. Of course I didn't tell her my views about homosexuality in this kind of way. And besides, because we live in a secular society, the standard is different. Since the society is ignorant about the law, its makes homosexuality less deserving of death. Since society is taught to embrace homosexuality, those who engage in homosexuality have been brainwashed by the culture so they are less deserving of death than in a society like muslim society where the society clearly says its wrong and if you commit homosexuality you will be killed. Muslim nations in many ways are very honorable and righteous in how they enact justice. But Muslim societies have their own issues as well that need to be fixed.

Moving on is something i'm being forced to do, but I shouldn't have to move on since there's nothing I did wrong to my ex girlfriend to warrant her cutting me out of her life. And breaking up in a relationship is a lame shitty excuse to cut off all contact with someone for the rest of their life.

You are either severely autistic or just a sociopath. Either way you're a repugnant failure of a human being. Also, your behavior would make you unqualified as a husband in Islamic countries: you can't provide for the family of your wife due to your comical fiscal irresponsibility, and thus are an unfit husband.

Just because someone says "don't talk with me" doesn't mean you cannot talk with them ever again. A simple email saying "can we talk?" after 10 years for example, there's no harm in that. And to think that you magically can force everyone to respect your arbitrary boundaries you put up is ridiculous. There are many legitimate reasons to go against someone's boundaries. If a parents 6 year old child says "I hate you don't talk to me ever again" to their parent, does their parent have to never talk to them again unless the child says its ok? of course not. So the reality is, simply making a declaration that someone is "forbidden" to talk with you, is not valid. the USA doesn't have such a concept either. for example, protective orders don't last "forever". They last typically 2 years. Some places longer like 5 years. But no protective that I am aware of lasts one's entire life banning contact with someone forever. That is because it is understood logically that there should be room for dialogue to reassess if the person still wants them out of their life.

The fact that your reaction to being told "don't talk to me" is to infantilize the other person and immediately draw up a 10-year plan to get back in a relationship shows that your understanding of relationships is profoundly warped. Also, your constant equivocation of what is socially acceptable and what is legal.

"Can we talk?". Reply: "No, leave me alone." reply: "ok ill leave you alone."

very long time later. "Hey its been a while. Do you still want me to leave you alone?" reply: "Yes, please leave me alone." Reply: "ok will do."

very very very long time later. "Its been a very long time. I was hoping we could put the past behind us and be at peace with one another. Can we talk about things?" reply: (no reply; doesn't respond). reply: (no reply; doesn't respond; understood the answer is no if they don't respond)

The problem with this is that your past behavior reliably indicates that you cannot do this. You have no understanding or respect for the personal boundaries or desires of other people. Even if you change, it will take a long time for people to believe you.
As for all of your whining overall that things aren't "fair"? Sorry, life just isn't fair sometimes. You can either deal with the world as it is, or you can whine and whine about how it should be.

 

[Anaiah Carlson]

You are comparing an adult woman to a child? Ffs...



There are permanent restraining orders actually. As a collector of restraining orders you should probably read up on them more.

A permanent restraining order only lasts for a limited amount of time. A temporary protective order lasts until a hearing. A permanent protective order is permanent until the duration ends. A temporary protective order is just until there can be a hearing to provide temporary protection just in case. A permanent protective order is issued if it is demonstrated in the hearing that it is indeed needed for a specific length of time.

Domestic Violence: Getting a 'Permanent' Restraining Order

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You are comparing an adult woman to a child? Ffs...



There are permanent restraining orders actually. As a collector of restraining orders you should probably read up on them more.

Men and women are both equally comparable to children. I'd make the same comparison if I was a woman wanting a man's friendship who refuses to give me it. The other comparison that can be given is law enforcement doesn't have to respect what you say. If you say to police "GET AWAY FROM ME" they have no obligation to stay away from you because they have the right to go near you and arrest you if necessary. Even so, if a former friend wrongfully cuts off friendship, you have a right to attempt to reconcile with them even if they say no you have a right to try periodically. Just like the police officer, your identity and status as a former friend gives you that right to attempt restoration of what has been deprived from you invalidly.

With a little more research, it looks like some states allow for permanent protective orders whereas others do not. So I was in error when I said before that no states do that.

 

[Jaded Optimist]

With a little more research, it looks like some states allow for permanent protective orders whereas others do not. So I was in error when I said before that no states do that.

And Canada, so don't stalk any Canadians.

Have you stopped seeing a therapist?

 

[LD 3187]

I'm absolutely not surprised that you ruined your relationship by refusing to understand boundaries and your sheer inability to live with differences in opinion. With that said, at least your rants while trying to rationalize your insane M.O. are very funny. You don't have a bright future ahead of you but at the very least you are funny, for all the wrong reasons.

 

[Anaiah Carlson]

I'm absolutely not surprised that you ruined your relationship by refusing to understand boundaries and your sheer inability to live with differences in opinion. With that said, at least your rants while trying to rationalize your insane M.O. are very funny. You don't have a bright future ahead of you but at the very least you are funny, for all the wrong reasons.

How do you think I ruined the relationship? She said when she broke up with me before I contacted her at all that in her view, we can't be friends period, simply because we broke up. So the relationship was already ruined by her before I sent her any messages asking her to change her mind.