She has quite a few admissions in here.
So, by her own words it looks like she wanted to be an independent party in the relationship, she didn't want to bend-a-knee to him. Already is in conflict of what Vic seemingly was seeking (which she outlined clearly), someone to capitulate to him.
So, already it's a bad relationship pairing.
Recognizing that, the relationship might have worked had they come to terms with that and either reconciled through Vic backing down and allowing Michelle to have more independence, and Vic relinquishing his dominating nature, or by agreeing to have an open relationship and allow Vic to pursue relationships that satiated his desire to feel powerful.
Just judging by the tone of the reply, it looks as though Michelle does not seem to be the type to be malleable. Seems very rigid in thought, based on her trusting him without reason beyond belief.
Also, it's a shame that she can't see that his acts of deception were to preserve her immediate feelings (among other things). Vic did seem to love her, in the very least he cared about her enough to try and keep up the appearance, instead of just being flagrantly cheating and not showing remorse in her face.
Vic seemed to feel guilty, which is why he hid what he did. So, while his actions were careless, they weren't without a degree of care.
All of this could have been avoided with a simple fucking discussion, and at most some couple's counselling.
They really weren't compatible, being both alpha personalities; but if they really wanted it to work, they could have found a way. Neither did.
Vic didn't try to torch her to the ground, though I'm sure that's how Michelle sees it; and Michelle should just nut-up and move on instead of being mad at Vic that she ignored signs several times, because she didn't want to admit she was wrong.
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