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- Feb 28, 2017
I can see that to a degree. But you're right and I agree that any kind of bullying can be dissected into the specific elements that cause any psychological trauma.Sorry if I came off as defensive.
My opinion is the some ways it might make it slightly harder than some other teasing is that it ties into your romantic longings as a young adult, and worrying about not being able to attract your preferred gender because you 'act gay' (I'm talking more specifically about kids being teased in middle school-early college rather than as a little kid) And the fact that the teasing would be 'politically' charged and come from two sides, one side pressuring you to 'man-up' or 'dress pretty' and the other side bitching at you for 'hiding who you are'. And I'm more specifically talking about a pro-gay badgering of non-conforming kids to just 'come out' already. You're right that Homophobic teasing is as old as Aristophanes.
But yeah, no one should use being teased as a kid as an excuse for languishing as an adult. Every different kind of teasing can be dissected and analyzed from a social perspective. I knew nerdy drama girls who relentlessly teased preppy girls for being airheaded bimbos. Everyone gets teased.
Really I'm just complaining about people who try to force a different kind 'more progessive' kind of gender conformity on people by tying hobbies and how well groomed you are, and how forceful or passive you come off, to which sex your're attracted to.
At the end of the day, Desmond might be gay if he's genuinely gender non-conforming because while straight guys do exist like we're talking about, studies have shown and overwhelming anecdotal evidence suggests that these kids usually do turn out gay. But I'm not convinced Desmond is anything but his mother's puppet in the first place. I honestly cannot tell if he's genuinely a feminine little boy to this degree or if he's just a massive emotionally neglected autist trying to win his mother's affections.
I mean, usually drama kids actually appear to enjoy being dramatic and have some vague amount of natural talent and/or charisma. This kid has neither. Either way, the kid's balls haven't even dropped yet so no one should be putting a sexuality on him yet. The fact that he says he's gay before puberty is a red flag imo.