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Weekend Reading Project Update 4 - Ostracism Awareness Theme
Thank you all for reading through all this. Sorry for the delay, too. Here is the last part of the Deconstruction. Just like the last reports, I use spoilers and quotes heavily. This is to make this post concise and avoid adding extra length to the thread. Each Spoiler has quotes and commentary.
Thank you all for reading this. It is a lot of text.
Thank you all for reading through all this. Sorry for the delay, too. Here is the last part of the Deconstruction. Just like the last reports, I use spoilers and quotes heavily. This is to make this post concise and avoid adding extra length to the thread. Each Spoiler has quotes and commentary.
Once these 2 overarching themes were removed the true nature of the Fox Familiar became clear. After seeing the rest of the document taken apart, a new darker theme began to emerge. From her activity, it became clear that she was compensating; she was seeking power and attention. Ostracism seemed like the likely incident. Below is an article by Kipling D. Williams, a Purdue professor of psychological sciences.
https://archive.today/Y2Hnz
Her quick and rapid changes in dialog, indicated that there was someone else writing sections of her intro besides an adult. A wounded child was writing these sections, too. I had seen this type of behavior before. Understanding that she likely had now descended into this phase, it became clear that there was another aspect that had formed after her moment of severe ostracism, Extreme Narcissism. Narcissism is a very misunderstood mental disorder. Narcissists are self-centered and seem confident, yet the truth is that they are actually some of the most insecure people you will ever encounter. They live their entire lives behind masks, with the goal of no one ever knowing who they are and never being hurt again. Often this condition comes from severe emotional trauma.
Her new mask was now the Fox Familiar.
She would be a person without a real place, since her original place of belonging was gone. She in her own mind, would rain perdition upon any she deemed fit.
The desolate one would become the desolator.
She would use a mask of anonymity to undress and expose any who violated her personal norms. To her, this is a campaign. She would flame anyone she reviled and broadcast their responses to everyone.
She became a troll, seeking responses and recognition rather than just laughs.
Notice she is concerned about whether people may eventually accept her. She wants to be useful, and she ultimately wants to be accepted. She wants to be a mentor, but her own methods leave very little left of the protégé. How can a person learn if they are forced to give up in the very beginning?
Sadly, the Fox Familiar forgets a very important aspect of flamers and literary critics. No one ever remembers them, only the authors are allowed to have legacies.
Her two favorite lines bolded and italicized, “you have no rights” and “there’s nothing you can do about it” are simply a legacy of her pain and a scar she will brand on everyone else. To a person as hurt as her she places them on everyone else, wearing a mask similar to the person or group who hurt her.
Bullet point 13 -
Bullet point 13 is simply a reaffirmation of this cycle. She wants people to ask for reviews and opinions and to have an opportunity to “tear apart” their stories and have the pain of this incident “burned in your(the author’s) mind that I was there, and that your (the author’s) blood, sweat, and dirt was for nothing.” She still wants to be accepted and for her criticism to be wanted, but the sad truth is that she cannot help replaying the exact incident that destroyed her.
This gives her control - something she lost long ago and cannot find in real life.
She does this to get the power over those she flames; the control over them that she needs to feel powerful. She wants a confrontation and she clearly enjoys the attention it brings her. She will accept this type of attention just as happily as acceptance. Here she has a place and position in the other person’s life. She is not just forgotten.
She continues this move.
This is part of a paragraph in which she is describing her jump to AO3. She is a wanderer after all and must move to find new hunts and new victims. Her quest is “justice” not literary excellence.
She is moving to repeat this cycle again as Fan Fiction.net has become stale to her. She wants the thrill of the fight and will continue this cycle until she has finally purged all that hurts her.
He quest is still the same; recognition, "justice", and a place to belong. And it continues:
As a person who seeks to remove everything that offends her, which to be honest is a very long detailed list ; she still seeks recognition, responses, attention, and acceptance.
She continues this hunt seeking these things. This is her purpose the meaning of her existence as the “Flamer Extraordinaire and Wanderer”; to burn that which hurts her, to seek acceptance and a place to find acceptance.
The sad fact is that her life as a wandering flamer will never giver what she seeks. It is a dead end. A life lived behind a mask, is barely a life at all. There is no real legacy for a fan fiction literature flamer.
https://archive.today/Y2Hnz
Here he goes into extensive detail describing what can happen to a person after they are ostracized. The third phase resignation is to me where the Fox Familiar belongs:
"At some point, they stop worrying about being liked, and they just want to be noticed," Williams said.
However, if a person has been ostracized for a long time, they may not have the ability to continue coping as the pain lingers. Some people may give up, Williams said.
"The third stage is called resignation. This is when people who have been ostracized are less helpful and more aggressive to others in general," he said. "It also increases anger and sadness, and long-term ostracism can result in alienation, depression, helplessness and feelings of unworthiness."
Williams is trying to better understand how ostracized individuals may be attracted to extreme groups and what might be the reactions of ostracized groups.
"These groups provide members with a sense of belonging, self-worth and control, but they can fuel narrowness, radicalism and intolerance, and perhaps a propensity toward hostility and violence toward others," he said. "When a person feels ostracized they feel out of control, and aggressive behavior is one way to restore that control. When these individuals come together in a group there can be negative consequences."
Her quick and rapid changes in dialog, indicated that there was someone else writing sections of her intro besides an adult. A wounded child was writing these sections, too. I had seen this type of behavior before. Understanding that she likely had now descended into this phase, it became clear that there was another aspect that had formed after her moment of severe ostracism, Extreme Narcissism. Narcissism is a very misunderstood mental disorder. Narcissists are self-centered and seem confident, yet the truth is that they are actually some of the most insecure people you will ever encounter. They live their entire lives behind masks, with the goal of no one ever knowing who they are and never being hurt again. Often this condition comes from severe emotional trauma.
https://archive.today/CBXjS
A key section of this article:
From her behavior and the sections of the intro I will now introduce, it is obvious, to me at least, that an incident happened in her life that was traumatic enough to create an attachment dysfunction inside of her. She had to a create a new identity. A mask to make sure she was never powerless or lonely again.
A key section of this article:
The extreme narcissist is the center of his own universe. To an extreme narcissist, people are things to be used. It usually starts with a significant emotional wound or a series of them culminating in a major trauma of separation/attachment. No matter how socially skilled an extreme narcissist is, he has a major attachment dysfunction. The extreme narcissist is frozen in childhood. He became emotionally stuck at the time of his major trauma of separation/attachment.
In my work with extreme narcissist patients I have found that their emotional age and maturity corresponds to the age they experienced their major trauma. This trauma was devastating to the point it almost killed that person emotionally. The pain never was totally gone and the bleeding was continuous. In order to survive, this child had to construct a protective barrier that insulates him/her from the external world of people. He generalized that all people are harmful and cannot be trusted.
The protective insulation barrier he constructed is called a false persona. He created a false identity. This identity is not the true person inside. The many types of false personas or identities that an extreme narcissist creates can vary.
From her behavior and the sections of the intro I will now introduce, it is obvious, to me at least, that an incident happened in her life that was traumatic enough to create an attachment dysfunction inside of her. She had to a create a new identity. A mask to make sure she was never powerless or lonely again.
Her new mask was now the Fox Familiar.
Greetings. I am the Fox Familiar, flamer extraordinaire and wanderer.
She would be a person without a real place, since her original place of belonging was gone. She in her own mind, would rain perdition upon any she deemed fit.
The desolate one would become the desolator.
Regardless of this, I have an uncanny ability to show people for who they are, while they haven't a clue as to who I am. It's a legendary and long sought after tactic for military leaders. The best men had this trait, and I suppose I am lucky to share it with them. I also see it lucky to share their antics and responses to the wide viewing world, and I hope that some of you, the shy ones or sane ones that want nothing to do with these people, will see it, have a laugh, and be content that they are not like them.
She would use a mask of anonymity to undress and expose any who violated her personal norms. To her, this is a campaign. She would flame anyone she reviled and broadcast their responses to everyone.
She became a troll, seeking responses and recognition rather than just laughs.
My purpose is to please, so if I made your day with these responses, I'll tip my hat to you.
As much as people wish it, I do not flame everything. There are some stories that I see that have great potential that need a little push, or some that are truly gems that need some attention. There are those that I have flamed in the past that have sent me PMs thanking me for setting them straight and helping them improve. Not only did I improve their work, I improved their character, and that is a job well done to me. Of course, all good things must come to an end, and one day, like all the other flamers, I will leave this site and my legacy will remain, but for now, I am here, and expect me.
Notice she is concerned about whether people may eventually accept her. She wants to be useful, and she ultimately wants to be accepted. She wants to be a mentor, but her own methods leave very little left of the protégé. How can a person learn if they are forced to give up in the very beginning?
Sadly, the Fox Familiar forgets a very important aspect of flamers and literary critics. No one ever remembers them, only the authors are allowed to have legacies.
Now, time for a truth that many don't want to admit: as a fanfic author, you have no rights. If it's not your property and you don't have those touchy, touchy laws around ownership and copyright and those documents that prove you are the owner, there's nothing you can do about it. So, that said, since you are on this site, there are some rules that you need to follow.
Her two favorite lines bolded and italicized, “you have no rights” and “there’s nothing you can do about it” are simply a legacy of her pain and a scar she will brand on everyone else. To a person as hurt as her she places them on everyone else, wearing a mask similar to the person or group who hurt her.
Bullet point 13 -
13) If you ask for reviews, or beg for them, or any form of criticism, and react like a shrieking wombat when I give it to you, you should consider what you're showing to the world. If you respond with a childish 'lol, you're so silly/funny', then I rightly assume that you never wanted criticism in the first place. It is true I can't criticize everything in a story chapter, since the limit is 1500 words, I will and can tear apart your story, and no matter how many white knights tell you to ignore me and keep writing, it will forever be burned in your mind that I was there, and that your blood, sweat, and dirt was for nothing.
Bullet point 13 is simply a reaffirmation of this cycle. She wants people to ask for reviews and opinions and to have an opportunity to “tear apart” their stories and have the pain of this incident “burned in your(the author’s) mind that I was there, and that your (the author’s) blood, sweat, and dirt was for nothing.” She still wants to be accepted and for her criticism to be wanted, but the sad truth is that she cannot help replaying the exact incident that destroyed her.
This gives her control - something she lost long ago and cannot find in real life.
People don't forget that. Even if they do continue, the people that I flame end up like those drama cows on Encyclopedia Dramatica: they are the ones that are ultimately forgotten. If, of course, when the world stops laughing at them.
15) The cockier you are, the snarkier you are, the more snarkier comments you'll get. I love seeing you squirm when someone of actual taste puts you in your place![]()
She does this to get the power over those she flames; the control over them that she needs to feel powerful. She wants a confrontation and she clearly enjoys the attention it brings her. She will accept this type of attention just as happily as acceptance. Here she has a place and position in the other person’s life. She is not just forgotten.
She continues this move.
Only a matter of time, folks, but with your help, we can all get justice. (I'm considering making an account there and see how long I can last :3)
This is part of a paragraph in which she is describing her jump to AO3. She is a wanderer after all and must move to find new hunts and new victims. Her quest is “justice” not literary excellence.
She is moving to repeat this cycle again as Fan Fiction.net has become stale to her. She wants the thrill of the fight and will continue this cycle until she has finally purged all that hurts her.
He quest is still the same; recognition, "justice", and a place to belong. And it continues:
Upset? Grateful? Angry? Concerned? My PM's up there. If you've got something to say, say it. If you don't, then sit back and learn how to ask.
And so the fox moves, in and out, through a wilderness of insanity and misfortune. Which secrets will it find? Which fools shall it anger? All in due time, and all in due skill, watch and wait and see if the fox approaches you.
As a person who seeks to remove everything that offends her, which to be honest is a very long detailed list ; she still seeks recognition, responses, attention, and acceptance.
She continues this hunt seeking these things. This is her purpose the meaning of her existence as the “Flamer Extraordinaire and Wanderer”; to burn that which hurts her, to seek acceptance and a place to find acceptance.
The sad fact is that her life as a wandering flamer will never giver what she seeks. It is a dead end. A life lived behind a mask, is barely a life at all. There is no real legacy for a fan fiction literature flamer.
Thank you all for reading this. It is a lot of text.
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