If these secret Skylwalker rumors are true, the trilogy is fucked.
Either, Rey is upstaged by some newcomer that happens to be a Skywalker and it invalidates her character or she is the Skywalker and it invalidates the precious TLJ theeeeeeeme of killing the past.
No matter how they'd do it, it would be a blatant and desperate attempt to recover some old fans and I hope they'll see right through it. The title of the movie alone makes me laugh.
"Rise of Skywalker", might as well have called it "Please come back old fans!"
Also: when your soldiers know why they do what they do, they can adapt their own strategies to the situation, should it change. If all they know is to go somewhere and be ordered around like robots every step of the way, the moment they have to actually react to a new situation, they are unable to fulfill their duty until they have communicated that new situation to their higher-ups.
Say, you have soldiers that are tasked with taking a hill to capture their enemy's radio communication equippement, if they only know that they are supposed to take the hill, that's all they are going to do.
If they know they are supposed to capture the radio equippement and halfway through their mission, they realize the enemy has relocated said equippement, they can actually react to that immediately instead of assaulting a now useless position on a hill.
And when your soldiers start begging you for answers, the worst thing to do is to blow them off.
But here's the funny thing: This is how SJWs think a hierarchy functions.
You have your higher-ups and they can do whatever the fuck they want to (including physical violence against their subordinates!) and they never have to explain or justify themselves to anyone below themselves.
They are unconditional, supreme rulers, above being questioned and not bound by rules. Everyone else has to scramble, to fulfill their wishes without delay. No one has the right to interfere or even just ask anything.
This isn't how SJWs perceive the military. This is how SJWs work within their own group, so they think every hierarchy works this way.
Unsurprisingly, that's how any dictatorial government has treated a hierarchy, too.
So you're mad at the franchise for your own headcanon. Okay I guess.
Saying they kidnap children makes it sound as if Jedi were traveling around in an old cargo freighter with "Free Candy" written in Aurebesh on the side.
If they go to the parents, explain to them why it is necessary that their kid gets special education (I mean, an unsupervised Force user is dangerous after all - and could become a huge threat to a lot of people in the long run) and the parents agree ... well that's not kidnapping. Sure, the parents are going to be sad that they won't be seeing their children again, but it's still not kidnapping.
The fact that the EU has conflicts between Jedi that actually abduct children and Jedi who think that's a dick move should highlight that kidnapping was not their regular MO.
But the original point is, that this is seen as morally good. Which it isn't. It's part of the Jedi hubris that leads to their downfall. It is not seen as "morally good". It is seen as "pragmatically necessary".