God it's like picking between two bowls of shit. It fucking hurts me to say, but in this particular argument I think I would side with Shane. For as fucking stupid an idea as ConsentCon is, at least Shane is trying to "be the change", as he says. Manjaw wants shit to change but doesn't describe anything about how to implement any of those changes, let alone lift a finger to actually help make those changes.
Shane might help improve a small subset of the community, even if it's likely not done by his own direct intended actions. Manjaw definitely won't help anyone because she's too busy screeching with authority that she doesn't have (and never had).