I don't disagree that her childhood was shit. But as a 29 year old woman with the time, money and every resource at her fingertips, I can't feel sorry for her either. Her
adult life has been one handed to her on a silver platter, so I do agree in that sense. She's never had to struggle, really. She's never had to work. Her choice in partners ensures that her every need is catered to, which is why she can confidently assert that she'll never get a driver's license, for example. Easier to say she's "afraid" of driving, rather than admit that apathy is her default state and will continue to be her default state until 1) Becky grows a spine or 2) Becky's driving becomes so dangerous that Amber decides it's not worth risking HER personal safety anymore.
So never.
It's very hard to find any sympathy for someone that never tries, never considers others, and is so content to stay that way.
So in summary, everyone has a point here. It's not black and white, but given Amber's choice to remain stagnant for the past couple decades, she doesn't deserve the benefit of the doubt either.