r/polyamory

[FatalTater]

The kids of the poly pervs, if they don't manage to off themselves before adulthood, are likely to become the most anti-sex fire and brimstone preachers that have ever existed. They will have seen firsthand the trouble promiscuity causes and will want to cure it.

 

[fuzzyrodent85]

The kids of the poly pervs, if they don't manage to off themselves before adulthood, are likely to become the most anti-sex fire and brimstone preachers that have ever existed. They will have seen firsthand the trouble promiscuity causes and will want to cure it.

Or they will start a polycule of their very own like mommy and daddy.

 

[FatalTater]

Or they will start a polycule of their very own like mommy and daddy.

Ew.
Also a possibility, but ew.

 

[Gingervitis]

Or they will start a polycule of their very own like mommy and daddy.

Ew.
Also a possibility, but ew.

Mild powerlevel (btw, what happened to the TMI emote?). There was a girl I knew who was poly. It turned out, her parents were both poly as well. And they were both unmarried, to boot. She was also a they/them, despite showing her tits and ass with her outfit (and now you know why I hung out with her for a semester in college).

My point is that this stuff does run in the family.

 

[fuzzyrodent85]

Mild powerlevel (btw, what happened to the TMI emote?). There was a girl I knew who was poly. It turned out, her parents were both poly as well. And they were both unmarried, to boot. She was also a they/them, despite showing her tits and ass with her outfit (and now you know why I hung out with her for a semester in college).

My point is that this stuff does run in the family.

Tell me more about this degenerate please.

 

[Bad Take Crucifier]

There was a girl I knew who was poly. It turned out, her parents were both poly as well. And they were both unmarried, to boot. She was also a they/them, despite showing her tits and ass with her outfit (and now you know why I hung out with her for a semester in college).

My point is that this stuff does run in the family.

Does it really run in the family? Or did they just teach her to behave that way by raising her in that environment?

 

[Gingervitis]

Does it really run in the family? Or did they just teach her to behave that way by raising her in that environment?

I mean, that's what I meant.

Tell me more about this degenerate please.

The only other things I remember were her being usual tumblr trash ("crave that mineral", hates trump, etc) and telling me about the abortion she got in high school a day after we first met.

 

[Bad Take Crucifier]

and telling me about the abortion she got in high school a day after we first met.

This is really making me hate polyamory.

I know abortions happen to some teens during school, no matter what... But I mean polyamory sounds like a slam dunk guaranteed situation of slutting out or even trooning out the kids.

Like: "I'm so poly haha. My daughter is totally going to get knocked up after fucking 30 guys in high school because I said it was fine to fuck at our house, lol abortion time."

 

[Gingervitis]

This is really making me hate polyamory.

I know abortions happen to some teens during school, no matter what... But I mean polyamory sounds like a slam dunk guaranteed situation of slutting out or even trooning out the kids.

Like: "I'm so poly haha. My daughter is totally going to get knocked up after fucking 30 guys in high school because I said it was fine to fuck at our house, lol abortion time."

The grammar nazi in me wants to correct you on that somewhat. She got the abortion in high school. We shared a class together in sophomore year in college. Yeah, its unfortunate, but she's also fucking weird for telling me this a couple days after we first met, considering the abortion was long past relevant at the time.

 

[sperginity]

Mild powerlevel (btw, what happened to the TMI emote?). There was a girl I knew who was poly. It turned out, her parents were both poly as well. And they were both unmarried, to boot. She was also a they/them, despite showing her tits and ass with her outfit (and now you know why I hung out with her for a semester in college).

My point is that this stuff does run in the family.

I have seen similar cases come out of polygamist mormon families (not the compound kind, the normal society kind), but they are the minority. Most of them only get one spouse when they grow up.

Whenever a family makes a weird decision about their lifestyle, it seems like most of the kids abandon it if they have been exposed to normality. The kids that felt unloved or ignored will embrace the parent's belief system or lifestyle as a way to get approval and closeness as adults. This is pretty true of most dysfunctional families, in my experience, this includes major fuck ups like addiction.

 

[Captain Hastings Official]

The only other things I remember were her being usual tumblr trash ("crave that mineral", hates trump, etc) and telling me about the abortion she got in high school a day after we first met.

How embarrassing, to be a tumblrina without even the excuse of rebelling against your stiflingly conservative parents.

 

[Fractal Lifeform]

Sorry if this is a stupid question. Its a 138 page thread and I haven't read it all.

But what do you guys think of Swinging and Open relationships?

For Poly? We have this entire thread so hence I'm interested in your guys opinions on the specific previously mentioned.

 

[Otis Boi]

Sorry if this is a stupid question. Its a 138 page thread and I haven't read it all.

But what do you guys think of Swinging and Open relationships?

For Poly? We have this entire thread so hence I'm interested in your guys opinions on the specific previously mentioned.

I honestly think these is a weird simple honesty in an open relationship/stingers, I personally known a few, I could never be in a relationship like that but at least they are honest about just saying "we just want to have a threesome/orgy very once in awhile" as for poly its fundamentally people lying about their modavations which will never work.

 

[Fractal Lifeform]

I honestly think these is a weird simple honesty in an open relationship/stingers, I personally known a few, I could never be in a relationship like that but at least they are honest about just saying "we just want to have a threesome/orgy very once in awhile" as for poly its fundamentally people lying about their modavations which will never work.

Thanks for the reply but would what you say in the bold really be called Open relationship or Swinging?

I mean from what I understood, Swinging was where couples would at the same time fuck other people and there were like groups for this or they do orgies as you said. Whereas Open relationships was they were no longer exclusive and were free to find other partners or lovers?

The bold more describes a somewhat exclusive relationship occasionally inviting people in but only for threesomes. Except the Orgy part. Thats in Swinging for sure.

Also, from what I have heard, women are the primary winners in Open relationships cause its easy for them while men are shit out of luck, is this correct?

 

[Old Wizard]

But what do you guys think of Swinging and Open relationships?

I think they have an "Ethics of Polyamory" (not actual name) thread in Deep Thoughts somewhere.

Lots of crossover with polyamory. I honestly think that Polyamory is just the SJW version of swinging, but with more emotions involved. Probably why polyamory seems to work out less often than purely sexual swinging. Polyamorous people just seem much more like cows than swingers because polyamory as a concept is childish. Simply put, being emotionally and sexually involved with multiple people and no jealousy is unrealistic- humans are hardwired to look for unfairness and you can never spend an equal amount of time with four different people, or even genuinely like them all equally. There will always be a least favorite. And they will know.

Open relationships are either for people who are not mature enough to have a real relationship (or maybe I am mistaking open relationships for "dating around"?) and people who think their marriage can be saved by showing their dissatisfied spouse what other, better people have to offer.

Polyamorous people also seem to have a lot more SJ attached to their lifestyle, complete with Instagram infographics and Hot Topic pins and a pride flag and "POLYAMOROUS PEOPLE ARE ____________" mantraposts on Tumblr. I have more respect for people who are quiet about weird shit they're into.

 

[Fractal Lifeform]

I think they have an "Ethics of Polyamory" (not actual name) thread in Deep Thoughts somewhere.

Thanks for the reply. May well take a look when I have time.

Lots of crossover with polyamory. I honestly think that Polyamory is just the SJW version of swinging, but with more emotions involved. Probably why polyamory seems to work out less often than purely sexual swinging. Polyamorous people just seem much more like cows than swingers because polyamory as a concept is childish. Simply put, being emotionally and sexually involved with multiple people and no jealousy is unrealistic- humans are hardwired to look for unfairness and you can never spend an equal amount of time with four different people, or even genuinely like them all equally. There will always be a least favorite. And they will know.

Interesting.

Open relationships are either for people who are not mature enough to have a real relationship (or maybe I am mistaking open relationships for "dating around"?) and people who think their marriage can be saved by showing their dissatisfied spouse what other, better people have to offer.

One could also say to find outside their marriage what they feel is missing in their marriage. There is that saying that if your SI is talking about Open relationships despite not being for it before, they already have someone in mind and may well already be cheating on you with them but now want to do it openly for reasons.

I think that people consider the honeymoon feelings in the begining of relationships as the Love part and this is what poisons relationships now cause said feelings disappear with time, its inevitable and cause its not there. People think they don't love their partner anymore or all sorts of other reasons one could mention.

Polyamorous people also seem to have a lot more SJ attached to their lifestyle, complete with Instagram infographics and Hot Topic pins and a pride flag and "POLYAMOROUS PEOPLE ARE ____________" mantraposts on Tumblr. I have more respect for people who are quiet about weird shit they're into.

yeah, they do seem to be trying to normalize it to everyone like propaganda, no?

 

[Bad Take Crucifier]

Sorry if this is a stupid question. Its a 138 page thread and I haven't read it all.

But what do you guys think of Swinging and Open relationships?

For Poly? We have this entire thread so hence I'm interested in your guys opinions on the specific previously mentioned.

It's not committed like a polycule is and I think that makes more sense. An open relationship, in my opinion, cannot possibly work if you have kids. if you're single, or way older and kids are not living with you, OK I guess. But the problem I see with poly and swinging is mostly it's hurting kids... and also if you want kids, it will fuck you up.

 

[DumbDude42]

Imagine being raised by a single mom who is trying to date while working and raising you.

Now imagine your parents are actually still together, but they're trying to date, while working and not raising you.

 

[Bad Take Crucifier]

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This must be what Pick up artists and polycules have in common. Scarring kids who don't understand why their parent is out fucking a new person every week.

 

[Kosher Dill]

Also, from what I have heard, women are the primary winners in Open relationships cause its easy for them while men are shit out of luck, is this correct?

Whoever has the most power (in whichever sense is most relevant to the situation) is the winner. That's usually the woman in a middle-class Western situation.