The grading isn’t wrong. Nobody just grades up sizes like that. You have very different proportions for each stage of life - babies are different to toddlers, who are different to small kids, middle sized kids, tweens, teens and adults. Clothes aimed at older adults have subtly different proportions too. You can grade up a three year old to a four year old easy, or a UK 8-14 up or down. Past about an 18 It’s very difficult. A very big person might be skinny legs and apple shaped or shaped like glitter and lazers with a pear shape. You can’t make a garment that size and expect it to fit even a third of people, because fat distributes weirdly from then on.
And god, I’m glad I’m not the only one who sewist annoys. Ffs. Sewer or seamstress.
It is. I can laugh at the people who promote this but this is the dark side of it. You can not rely on medication to control diabetes. You MUST manage your diet. There’s no easy out.
I wasn't aware there were serious proponents of eating whatever you want after a diagnosis of diabetes. I know very little about diabetes past the most basic stuff but that sounds ridiculously dangerous. Going to have to see what I can find out about that as I have similar questions, mostly involving how DO you eat without limiting carbs in her circumstances.
you can’t.
She could effectively cure her diabetes if she went to her doctor and requested to be put on something like the Newcastle protocol (v low cal, most patients end up with vastly better blood sugar control, lower med requirements and many are functionally cured. . That requires medical oversight and serious willpower. But it’s a cure for many.
if she could lose weight and control her intake she’d be able to live a normal life. You cannot do it without altering your diet. It is not possible. All those people telling her she can are lying. Lying because they are ashamed, ignorant or lying because getting others to follow them validates their choices.
If your blood sugar is too high too consistently, tissue damage occurs. The body is an amazing thing and can take a lot of hammer, until one day it can’t and things go downhill fast. She’s 32, she’s at that tipping point, and she’s being lied to, and it will kill her. That’s the real horror of HAES.
to sperg on about depression a bit... I think we have forgotten that depression is, at its core, unhappiness. It’s not some magical disease state that appears from nowhere. If you’re depressed (outside of a very few actual physical causes) something in your life is wrong for you. You may be unable to realise what it is and a lot of people feel guilty because they think they shouldn’t be depressed, there nothing to be sad about, but at its heart, depression is a sign something is wrong. Modern life can be very weird and toxic. Treatment can include drugs but the best treatment is listening to people, and supportive but firmly helping them look at why they feel shit And what they can do about it.
Antidepressants work as part of that for some people. About 1/3 IME. Nobody gets better without addresssing whats making them miserable.
