Okay: I'm just going to draw a line here, I'm not going to respond to any posts that don't address this directly.
The consensus of the forum thus far seems to be:
The trans community, as a whole, does not think like I do, and in fact holds it is acceptable to refer to transwomen as he, men etc. as well as engaging in stalking, d0xing and other behaviours("just talking about them") that potentially put them at greater risk for suicide. It is acceptable to deadname trans women, and nobody has a right to say otherwise or they're policing them. It's also acceptable to attack a trans woman for her appearance, despite dysphoria being one of the most prominent aspects of being a trans woman.
Is this the agreed upon bottom line of this community?