When I used public transit to commute I wore a fake engagement/wedding ring set to head all of this shit off at the pass. It usually worked, although some creeps don't give a shit.
Where I live my biggest problem is military dudes. When they’re not busy preying on girls who can’t even speak English, they pounce on me in the dumbest fucking places (at the gym, at an electronics store, in a family restaurant
with my boyfriend sitting right across from me).
And I have been through this far too many times to bother ‘letting them down easy’ (nicely summarized in a post on the last page about how well that works), so I just start calling them faggots now. I’m not kidding. I just say the foulest things I can to them, in the harshest manner possible, and I’m able to end the exchange with them calling me any combination of bitch, slut, cunt, whore etc and walking away in about a minute.
It’s not a ‘clever trick.’ I don’t feel good or proud of myself for doing it. I’ve gone off on one young man who was genuinely surprised and apologized sincerely to me before walking away with his head down, and I felt like I had just kicked a puppy. There are good men out there who are fine with giving you a compliment and taking the rejection if you’re not interested, and they don’t deserve to be called bootlicking pieces of shit just for approaching you, but when this happens
literally every single time a white man is around? And of probably fifteen exchanges so far, fourteen have ended in rage and pettiness out the ass no matter how hard I tried to pacify them? The kinder I am in the beginning, the meaner they are when I finally put my foot down. If it was a bar or a club and I didn’t have my boyfriend with me I would totally get it, but when I’m just trying to get my shopping done and catch the bus, I don’t have much other choice then to nip it in the bud.
The worst thing about my area is everyone,
especially my native friends, all justify it by saying that they’ve been away from their girlfriends/wives for so long and that’s why they’re pent up. As if that a. entitles them to cheat and b. entitles them to be aggressive when they get turned down for cheating. It’s insane, and it’s taught me to have zero tolerance for entitlement, which is not the kind of woman I’m entirely proud of turning into.
So when I hear about women’s’ encounters with Russ, all I can think is, “why didn’t you just call him shitlips and tell him to take a hike off a cliff? Why tolerate it?” Because yeah, maybe upon first sight he does look like a guy who’s had a tough break in life and might be really sweet deep down, but life ain’t a fairy tale, and some men who look nasty just are nasty. IME the existence of creeps like Russ forces women to make a choice; pride yourself on being a kind person only to grin and bear the harassment, or live with “bitch” stamped across your forehead and stop them in their tracks. I think personally, I’d rather ruin a completely good-intentioned man’s day then get stalked and sued by a Russ.