Hear me out on this for a second.
Imagine you’re a lesbian, married to another lesbian. Now imagine that the lesbian you are married to is a Hollywood actress. Already, a bit of pressure but that’s what you know you signed up for.
Now imagine that your Hollywood actress wife comes out as a ‘man’. Maybe you’re accepting of it, maybe it’s all ok. But now, what if you try to leave? For any reason at all, you feel you want to leave. But you know that you will be branded as a transphobic bigot TERFbian the second you do, and you’re in Hollywood.
Like, bro, that’s a bit fucked up of a situation to find yourself in, and you didn’t sign up for that when you got into this relationship.