"This is a short analysis of how and why i think these memes are frustrating / wider connotations. A heads up: i will be discussing genitalia + transphobia and s*x
We cant tell someones gender because of their genitals. genitals are not inherently "male" or "female" theyre organs. genitals arent gender identity.
The femimist movement has been working for decades to ensure that women are not defined by their biology. That women are more than 'walking vaginas'. is who you are so much more than your ability to have children or to have a period etc? Great. So why is it so easy to apply this to other cis women whos bodies dont perform this biology? Yet not amab non binary people? Trans Women? Or TGNCI people? Feminism that defines women as nothing more than 'vagina owners' is sending the movement decades backwards. And it also erases the existence of trans men, non binary and intersex people.
Its terf ideology which reinforces the cisheteropatriarchy. Terfs want to fight for THEIR right to not be judged on their bodies, but want to turn around and use that to define OTHERS by their bodies. The truth is that we cant blanket the gender experience of women to a small universal box. And when we do, its a reinforcement of patriarchy. Its erasure. And its gender based violence.
I see terf ideology alive in the lesbian community, where you can hear of "preferences" sounding like "ew i could never have s*x with a penis".. Like we arent already using straps

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Its transphobia. We are talking as if lesbians dont have dicks. And they do. its transphobia. Because you fall in love with PEOPLE not a genital?! And if people drop other people because of their genitals - that is weird.
I see terf ideology from cis feminists who constantly assert that men dont have vaginas, and that women don't have penises. They do. Any gender can have any genitals. How frustrating is it that we are still so obsessed with defining people by their genitals? How frustrating is it that people will say "Destroy the binary!" And then fight back everytime someone acknowledges the violence of it? Or deconstructs the lies its told us?"
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