r/polyamory

[KifflomKween]

^These people are crazy. Why don't they just get with other poly people if they want to be in a poly relationship so bad? They wouldn't object and wouldn't have any reservations about it like a monogamous person would.

This is a pattern I see all the time with lgbts/non-traditionally-hetero people. They will go on and on about how proud they are in their snowflakeness, heteros bad, how everyone should be like them, and they always get together with heteros in the end and then complain about it.

I think it's because monogamous, hetero relationships are the ones that bring the greatest stability, or at least thats the idea, and thats why they are the best for child rearing.
Now imagine you are a parasite. Finding a hetero monogamous partner who wants stability is hitting the jackpot. Parasites don't get together with other parasites.
If there's kids involved, even better. You know for sure your cuck partner will take care of them because that's what they are wired to do, and since they are too spineless to stand up to the narcissistic parasite, the parasite gets to di whatever they want with the kids.

Since when have heteros become so cucked?

 

[NoReturn]

This is a pattern I see all the time with lgbts/non-traditionally-hetero people. They will go on and on about how proud they are in their snowflakeness, heteros bad, how everyone should be like them, and they always get together with heteros in the end and then complain about it.

I think it's because monogamous, hetero relationships are the ones that bring the greatest stability, or at least thats the idea, and thats why they are the best for child rearing.
Now imagine you are a parasite. Finding a hetero monogamous partner who wants stability is hitting the jackpot. Parasites don't get together with other parasites.
If there's kids involved, even better. You know for sure your cuck partner will take care of them because that's what they are wired to do, and since they are too spineless to stand up to the narcissistic parasite, the parasite gets to di whatever they want with the kids.

Since when have heteros become so cucked?

Leech ouroboros

 

[Viv221]

This is a pattern I see all the time with lgbts/non-traditionally-hetero people.

Honestly I don't think it's an LGBT related thing. In these relationships it's usually one man and two women, or one women and two men. I haven't seen a single one of three women or three men, or other numbers of such. I think it's just indecisiveness and refusal to make hard choices.

I bet a lot of hetero men get roped into this with a hetero girl who just doesn't want to make hard choices, and want nothing to do with the other men the chick is dating. They just have been told that this is the way it should be by all of this gross propaganda. I can imagine two hetero chicks who hate eachother dating the same guy and cucking themselves just because they've bought into a bunch of bullshit as well. That's why they flaunt it, because they're trying to convince themselves they aren't miserable.

There's far more propaganda out there of "poly is better than mono" than "gay is better than straight". I know a good amount of gay ppl who hate the poly community for giving them a bad rep.

 

[Ear]

I know a good amount of gay ppl who hate the poly community for giving them a bad rep.

Yup. Also it gives straight people an opt in to ‘queer’ because poly is inherently ‘queer’ somehow.

checking in on my local polycule. The woman who started the whole thing’s husband immediately fell in love with someone else, forming a new primary couple, her metamours dumped her and she got relegated to childcare for the large blended flock of children. She has now copied one of the kids and become a they/them in an attempt to regain attention. Predictable. It’s now one straight relationship with a support structure rather than the intended ‘loving anarchy’ of multiple LGBT+ pairings originally envisaged.

 

[Viv221]

In yet another wild turn of events: stable long term relationships and "anarchy" turn out not to be a good combination. Who would have thought?

 

[Buer]

Yup. Also it gives straight people an opt in to ‘queer’ because poly is inherently ‘queer’ somehow.

checking in on my local polycule. The woman who started the whole thing’s husband immediately fell in love with someone else, forming a new primary couple, her metamours dumped her and she got relegated to childcare for the large blended flock of children. She has now copied one of the kids and become a they/them in an attempt to regain attention. Predictable. It’s now one straight relationship with a support structure rather than the intended ‘loving anarchy’ of multiple LGBT+ pairings originally envisaged.

Poly people get made fun of and no one really takes them seriously and poly people see this as some form of oppresion for some reason. They can't tell their coworkers/family/friends their relationship status and not be judged for it. They're sensitive cry babies basically. The most they'll ever have to deal with is their parents disapproving of their relationship and a lot of people saying something about it(which wouldn't happen if they just shup up about it).

 

[Opabinia]

Yup. Also it gives straight people an opt in to ‘queer’ because poly is inherently ‘queer’ somehow.

Possible PL but my mom works at a decently conservative college and she recently had to do an LGBT sensitivity course thing. Part of what they learned about was polyamory. This shit is starting to seep into the mainstream and it seems that they're shoehorning it under the "queer" umbrella. Not looking forward to this being the next big thing.

 

[Ear]

Possible PL but my mom works at a decently conservative college and she recently had to do an LGBT sensitivity course thing. Part of what they learned about was polyamory. This shit is starting to seep into the mainstream and it seems that they're shoehorning it under the "queer" umbrella. Not looking forward to this being the next big thing.

I guess some mainstream awareness is necessary as, sadly, children are being raised in these messes and they don't need to feel any more abnormal when they disclose their family situation at school. Their parents' poor life choices are not their fault.

Anyway, here are some definitely happy poly people, seeing the New Year in with a grimace and the most inept eyeshadow application I've seen outside the ForeverKailyn thread.

 

[Wallace]

Longtime lurker who made this account just to say thank you. I live in an area where "free love" (codeword for swinging and poly shit) is often touted by those around me as the truest, purest, and best form of love, the ultimate goal and bestest ever relationship. It's suffocating, nauseating and horrific. If you refuse to cuck yourself, you're seen as proto-abusive, because "don't you want your partner to be happy?"

To be honest, I was breaking, it was getting to me. I feel like I get surrounded by people like this and seriously gaslit into believing this is the way the world is now. I've expressed issues with polyamory online before, and just got told to "read books and go to therapy". Even googling polyamory sends you to crack psych blog posts telling you that "it's not about you, it's about your partner". It sounds stupid, but places like this remind me that I'm sane. I feel like I'm being brainwashed at every corner to resign to a life of being cucked, but nothing is more empowering than remembering these people aren't the majority. Most of these stunted twenty-somethings grow out of it. It'll pass.

The recent online predominance of pro-poly anti-monogamy shit is a serious problem that seriously fucks with people.

Because nothing makes for a healthy relationship like emotional blackmail. It is genuinely impressive how Ayn Rand-esque narcissism is being spun as self-care these days.

The purpose of your partners is to provide you with affirmation and acceptance on demand. Therefore, you should take the maximum amount of care you can get from them. When they ask you for care, you can either give it if you feel like it and bask in the affirmation of your virtue, or you can turn it into pathology on their part.

 

[KifflomKween]

The purpose of your partners is to provide you with affirmation and acceptance on demand. Therefore, you should take the maximum amount of care you can get from them. When they ask you for care, you can either give it if you feel like it and bask in the affirmation of your virtue, or you can turn it into pathology on their part.

Compare with a healthy relationship, where there is an implicit tit-for-tat dynamic.
This is why these ppl go for "boring" monogamous partners who always provide validation because they expect you to do the same. If they went for people like themselves, who take what they can get and give little if any in return, it just wouldn't work.

 

[Viv221]

Apologies if this was posted already but this video https://youtu.be/IAE8uQUU4Pw is pretty interesting, and also infuriating jn a lot of ways. Shout-out to the redhead chick and the Asian girl for standing their ground among the psychosis around them. My favorite part is when the poly woman is talking about how much better it is so be poly because open love is challenging and rewarding and monogamy is easy and simple. To which the redhead replies "monogamy isn't easy" and stands up for herself against the poly woman's retarded argument.

Also, a couple of comments I agree with. Really makes you think about how much this "free love" is really selfishness in disguise.

 

[AnOminous]

My favorite part is when the poly woman is talking about how much better it is so be poly because open love is challenging and rewarding and monogamy is easy and simple.

What a load. That's so ass backwards it makes my head hurt. Somehow being faithful and capable of restraining your animal urges is easy and simple, while just giving in to every desire to fuck anything that moves and being a complete narcissist is "challenging."

 

[Crunchy Leaf]

What a load. That's so ass backwards it makes my head hurt. Somehow being faithful and capable of restraining your animal urges is easy and simple, while just giving in to every desire to fuck anything that moves and being a complete narcissist is "challenging."

I wonder how many poly people struggle with impulse control in the rest of their life?
Normal people can think someone is attractive and not cheat on their partner, and they can also walk by a McDonald’s and not buy anything, walk by a bar and not get sloshed, walk through the electronics aisle and not buy a new Xbox. It’s part of being a responsible adult.

 

[Buer]

^These people won't even say that their friends are off limits so I assume a lot of them do struggle with it. They think just communicating will stop all disasters from happening but it wouldn't be a disaster in the first place if they limited who they slept with like not sleeping with their friend or coworker. They create a lot of their own problems and then think just communicating with each other will fix everything.

 

[KifflomKween]

These people are so pathetic. How desperate do you have to be to subject yourself to this kind of an arrangement and keep up the good, supporting partner act like this chick?

 

[Brain Problems]

I will never stop reading the phrase "sexy time" without thinking of the 30 something cat lady/soyboy redditor who wrote it thinking they were being cute and chill about using a euphemism for fucking that an actual adult would be too embarrassed to use around kids even.

The autistic responses to this are even better: "Use headphones!" "Go to a hotel!" "Make a schedule!". All I can see is that hair-raising image of the sticker chart.

 

[Dante Alighieri]

I just discovered an old ex of mine is now in an open marriage. She ticks every basic tumblr bitch box. Danger hair, pronouns, every stupid hashtag and buzzword.

Oh, and she has a kid. Poor kid.

 

[Dafuqisdis?]

Apologies if this was posted already but this video https://youtu.be/IAE8uQUU4Pw is pretty interesting, and also infuriating jn a lot of ways. Shout-out to the redhead chick and the Asian girl for standing their ground among the psychosis around them. My favorite part is when the poly woman is talking about how much better it is so be poly because open love is challenging and rewarding and monogamy is easy and simple. To which the redhead replies "monogamy isn't easy" and stands up for herself against the poly woman's retarded argument.

Also, a couple of comments I agree with. Really makes you think about how much this "free love" is really selfishness in disguise.

Psychopathy, it's psychopathy. Psychosis is a delusion, an inability to tell fantasy from reality. Psychopathy is manipulative behavior.

I'm going to keep correcting this until people start getting it right.

 

[AnOminous]

Psychopathy, it's psychopathy. Psychosis is a delusion, an inability to tell fantasy from reality. Psychopathy is manipulative behavior.

I'm going to keep correcting this until people start getting it right.

It can be both you know. Thinking "I can just fuck every single person I meet and there will be no consequences" is pretty delusional.

 

[Rorschach Test]

Nobody (I mean, nobody) likes to acknowledge it, but some of the most extreme second-wave feminists like Andrea Dworkin were calling out the dynamic you see in r/polyamory in its previous iteration. “Free love” was used by older men in the 60s and 70s as a way to pressure women into uncomfortable relationships, lest they seem insufficiently radical. The only thing that was really “free” was the men seeking to be “free” of consequence, disappearing when they knocked someone up or passed on the clap. In my opinion, you still see the worst of this manipulative stuff with the men trying to pressure women into being woke and miserable.

Honestly, the least-suspect version of this poly stuff is when it’s being done by LGBT people among themselves. They’ve usually done some homework.