I pretty much entirely agree with you, though I don't think the comparison with /r/aspergers or /r/egg_irl is quite fair. I do think about it constantly and ask myself whether I am at risk of falling down the confirmation bias hole.
I also think that it's important to always remember that it is only meaningful to describe someone as having ASD if there's a plethora of coincidental different features. There is no sense in suggesting ASD, if all the signs are all down a single axis, e.g. not having friends, a girlfriend and being a virgin are all similar and highly correlated independent of any autism. Something like that can be just as labelled as 'socially awkward/inept' or something like. Slapping the autism label on it doesn't offer any real explanation or practical benefit and as @Crunchy Leaf points out, it can be actively harmful.
The Ayla/'Alan' girl is interesting in part because she has a whole set of orthogonal signs including sensory issues (clothing as a child, aversion to touch), social issues (highly introverted*, anxiety), identity issues (uncertain sense of self, highly conscious sense of wearing a mask, trooning out) and sexual issues (sex aversion, uncertainty over what 'sexual attraction' is, inability to discern targets of sexual attraction). It's the combination of signs that makes autism seem likely.
Additionally, she impresses me as someone who would actually benefit from having the label since she is actively looking for explanation regarding her feelings and sexuality which means there is probably some very real practical benefit. Especially, if it helps her get out of troondom (even if she shouldn't think of it like that, or of autism as a totalizing replacement for 'gender dysphoria' for that matter).
*There was a post I didn't screencap which she subsequently deleted in which she elaborated on how she'd always been markedly introverted.
I think a key point that probably does get lost when people talk about 'masking' in autism and the likes is that it isn't just a case of having different selves or even imitating others. But, rather it's about intellectualizing or rehearsing it heavily alongside not understanding - at least instinctively - why you should do something. Furthermore, there is a common view that you'll hear about how it means people "can't tell" or something, but that's not true. You can tell, it's just that it's a bit like troons and passing; you look at a 'Zeke' and think "this fella looks bit odd," but absent the requisite knowledge you don't necessarily end up adding the "because she's female." It's the same with "masking" in autistic girls, they give away signs like being unusually stereotyped or rigid in their mannerisms or speech. For example, they learn that you should react a certain way when people tell them good news and then they react in exactly that way to all good news. This will come off as being odd or maybe insincere, but again you don't think 'autism.'
If you forget this caveat, then 'masking' just becomes an excuse to exempt yourself from ever having to display any particular behavioral pattern. This renders your supposed autism entirely subjective and impervious to criticism.
Of course, that's precisely what's going to happen on reddit/tumblr etc.. You can then combine that with the "you don't need to be/show/have X to be Y!!!" type rubbish, a sentiment which forgets that if you don't show/have/be X then you ought at least show/have/be at least Z, W, U and V. Thus allowing anyone who is positively disposed towards labeling themselves as 'neurodiverse' or autistic the license to do so. Hell, you can even get yourself formally diagnosed, since you can just project yourself into the diagnostic criteria then borrow its language (without even thinking about it) so that any psychologist who wants for a bit of skepticism will be happy to give you the desired diagnosis. And if they don't? It's because they're just behind the times or narrow-minded or whatever, so you should just go see another one, maybe the one your penpal on tumblr got her diagnosis from.
It can be an issue even amongst more reponsible activists or clinicians, where they can get too caught up with the problem of underdiagnosis that they destroy all diagnostic rigor. It's probably unavoidable, you can't help but assume that what was good for you must be good everyone.
In my personal experience, the problem with masking is that it's extremely tiresome and I don't care that much about what random asshole urbanites may think of me since there's no possibility of recipocrity if later on they want to genocide me because I looked at them wrong or because I walk too fast for their likening
I know this is a fact many of you oversocialised NPCs hate, but the day has 24 hours and mental stamina is a limited resource. We don't live in a perfect world of rainbow and bubblegum, I'm not going to mask for you, you're fucking dumb and I don't give a shit of how you may feel about it.
#MakeAbleistsUncomfortable is trending on Twitter and to no one's surprise it is a gigantic cow magnet. I advise everyone to check the hashtag out; maybe you'll find your new favorite cow there who knows. Anyways, this one was my favorite:
My sweet summer transphobe, do you not realize what you have found? Why, that is none other than the elusive, the forgotten, the almost-mythical ErinCoffeeStar. Who in the span of about 3 days put out enough multimedia content to start his own little runtling of a thread before going completely dark. A great personal favorite of mine, I was always disappointed he flamed out so quickly. 2021 good?
This tranny's popularity has crossed borders and my obsessive woke friends are talking about him which got me interested so I went sniffing and he has a reddit account where he posts "sissy" thirst traps
This is one of those cases where true scum does seem like an accurate descriptor. The poster is an FTM who is feeling sorry about how she can't be her true male self.
What format should videos that we upload be in? I tried an MP4 but it came back with a "video format not supported".
Most troons can't figure out that they need to shave their stubble if they want to not look like a fucking sasquatch wearing a dress. The idea that someone else isn't a tool for their pleasure is too high of a concept.
is it just me or is there also a thing with trans men starting to wear glasses? Like is there something inherently masculine about glasses that I've missed?
Glasses help change the shape of the face and make it squarer and wider (if you get the right frames). They can also mask the different eye sizes relative to the face between men and women. That's all.
Another factor is contacts vs. glasses. Some women see contacts as "more feminine" because you can wear makeup without smudging it on the lenses and having to clean them all the time. Wearing glasses is seen as "more masculine" when you are wearing them instead of contacts and makeup.
Then there's the usual angle of "transition to what you're attracted to".
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I have no idea where the mods draw the line. They will boot the rare, occasional obvious AGP weirdo, but only because that weirdo makes them look bad. Somehow Heather, who is 62 and commenting on women 30-40 years his junior, is still allowed to be there.
I've posted this profile before but he updated it. More selfies in a disgusting room. Are those required to troon out properly or something?
The poor (actual) lesbian users of HER, just browsing for tits and coming across Ann's ~sexy~ pic. Aside from the usual delusion, you can't convince me there wasn't malice behind that post -- you WILL look at my dick!
I'm interested in all the guys who just want to find "friends to go shopping with and learn makeup from UwU." Obviously they think this comes across as cute and friendly, rather than like a creepy man who doesn't want to get kicked out of the Victoria's Secret changing room next time. But maybe they also earnestly think that women have some sort of secret makeup and fashion knowledge between them that they never divulge, not even on YouTube for money?
This tranny's popularity has crossed borders and my obsessive woke friends are talking about him which got me interested so I went sniffing and he has a reddit account where he posts "sissy" thirst traps
The poor (actual) lesbian users of HER, just browsing for tits and coming across Ann's ~sexy~ pic. Aside from the usual delusion, you can't convince me there wasn't malice behind that post -- you WILL look at my dick!
I'm interested in all the guys who just want to find "friends to go shopping with and learn makeup from UwU." Obviously they think this comes across as cute and friendly, rather than like a creepy man who doesn't want to get kicked out of the Victoria's Secret changing room next time. But maybe they also earnestly think that women have some sort of secret makeup and fashion knowledge between them that they never divulge, not even on YouTube for money?
We do. And we wouldn’t
In all seriousness though, you can learn all of a woman’s dressing and makeup secrets online these days, but that requires actual effort. Most of these guys are at a hyper disadvantage. There are “rules” for dressing a boyish body, it was quite fashionable in the 1920s and 1990s, but women who have boyish bodies tend to be very slim and muscular.
even if a guy is slim and muscular, he likely needs plus sized clothing. Plus sized women are anything but boyish looking and the clothing is cut to deal with a whole different body type which just isn’t going to be flattering.
honestly, there’s probably plenty of women willing to teach them the tricks of the trade, but the sort that make it into the farms aren’t to sort that are gonna talk to cis women about anything.
And now this makes me wonder. There is this fantasy that women compete with one another in the looks department. And I guess that’s true a bit, but it’s not as it’s portrayed in movies, much more subtle and much less focused on what men think after you leave your teen years. I wonder if some of the cis hatred we see with some FtM is because they see us as competition for other men (or women), but because their brains are male, they are seeing this competition way WAY different from how we do. They probably do see us as competition for spaces they want and for lives they want. And so instead of climbing the corporate ladder, they yell some made into the ground for being TERFy and hope that all the cute woke guys/gals will date them instead.
Interesting thought, what say you?
Tbh. This guy's face passes very well. Way better than Blair even. And his face proportions aren't far away from mine or other actual women I've seen. The only thing that unnerves me is the absurd amount of makeup he uses.
I was browsing the dumpster fire comment section on Vanessa Vokey's video, and his NPC fans were flooding it with "why are you so obsessed with trans people and genitals oh em gee", when his entire channel is just about being trans, and he was obsessed about genitals enough to chop his dick off in an attempt to have something resembling a pussy. Just a thought.
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Why do they always have these dead eyes? Like I'm pretty sure he was autistic as hell as a dude, but it's accentuated by the Chris-chan tier outfits and the shit pony tail.
On this site we're conditioned to think primarily of AGP coomers, because lolcow. But some trans women do actually know how to wear clothes and makeup and carry themselves in a typically feminine manner. If I ran into NikkieTutorials at the mall (assuming I didn't know who she was) I doubt I'd clock her in a million years, even without her makeup, and she's enormous. Some women are just tall.
Come on now. I don't mind Nikkie at all, she's probably the best case scenario for trans people and she seems like a decent person, but she can be clocked from space. She isn't just tall, she is built like a man in every way. I live in a country with very tall women, and they don't look like this.
And of course FtMs are something else entirely. I find it significant that when Zeke Smith was outed, most or all of the other players were visibly floored.
It's a reality show, they were acting. They lived together and they've seen Zeke half-naked, no way most of them didn't question the weird chest and the hips, let alone the female mannerisms and way of speaking. It's actually much easier to clock a tranny when they're in a group, because they stand out compared to the normal people. I regularly saw them at my old uni. It is pathetically easy to clock a FTM in a group of lanky dudebro students, even with a full beard. Just look at the 5'2 dumpy guy who sounds and acts like an effiminate gay man.
Funnily enough, I didn't realise Nikkie was a troon until he came out. I'd only seen him a few times, and that was mainly as head shots, but seeing him sat opposite Ellen is a real eye opener. He looks like a giant compared to her.
Earlier today, Reddit's favorite groomer drewiepoodle shared his DIY 'mones fresh from the catgirl pharmacy. It is NOT a fetish! Step right up minors, he's got a needle with your name on it.
Earlier today, Reddit's favorite groomer drewiepoodle shared his DIY 'mones fresh from the catgirl pharmacy. It is NOT a fetish! Step right up minors, he's got a needle with your name on it.
I was browsing the dumpster fire comment section on Vanessa Vokey's video, and his NPC fans were flooding it with "why are you so obsessed with trans people and genitals oh em gee", when his entire channel is just about being trans, and he was obsessed about genitals enough to chop his dick off in an attempt to have something resembling a pussy. Just a thought.
Her 'smallness' is an illusion, here's a video that features Lux inside of her car... and well, you will get a sense of how big she is... manlet size basically.
