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What?? Your husbands ex doesnt want their child to be exposed to this fuckery?
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This conversation below is absolutely mind blowing:
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This conversation below is absolutely mind blowing:
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If you don't like what he's proposing then don't get together with him. It might be hard, but if you feel like it's not going to work out then it's probably for the best.

What is it with these people and wanting to turn obviously unworkable situations into an utter clusterfuck of a relationship that still doesn't work and makes everyone miserable?
 
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Your partner gave you a hall pass. What an idiot. So here's the thing: if you're so compatible why can't you just go back to shtupping your one and only and stop being a whore? I mean, you claim to love your partner but I'm not seeing it if you're not willing to sacrifice.
Hahahahaha! So the bull is being cucked and the only advice these idiots can give is "Bro, you should totally be a boner killer!" How about you move on and find someone else? Either that or make peace with getting cucked and putting on a Superman outfit and just watching.
Well first, ex-wife is absolutely right. Marriage is between one man and one woman, full stop. It's a religious sacrament. So here's the secret: she'll never understand and either stop being whores and save the friendship or keep on doing what you're doing and the ex will do what she does.
I think this one speaks for itself.
 
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"Bring it up, brainstorm ways to fix that", someone said to the third wheel. It's like they need NASA level brainstorm sessions, not to mention all the poly podcasts and poly books. Not needlessly complicated at all. Most of the other ones talk about podcasts and books too. I wonder how many times these things are exclusively used to somehow break down the poly-negative party in a marriage or relationship. Just tire them out with the conditioning and make them feel like emotional abusers for not wanting to entertain the idea of their spouse getting fucked by someone else.

About brainstorming, I'm imagining that scene from Lord of the Rings where they're all together in Rivendell trying to figure out what they should do with the ring. But instead of a ring, the council is formed to figure out how to make everybody feel good in a situation where too many people are fucking at once. And in the end someone just throws them all in a volcano and boards a boat to leave this disgusting world.
 
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>I get everything I want out of the relationship except for love
Jesus Christ. I'm vacillating between so many emotions reading this post. I want to say I feel mostly pity for this person who is so fucked up she's convinced herself she doesn't deserve love and being loved isn't important. But she also describes herself as a "relationship anarchist" which makes me want to punch her in the face, and she's encouraging other people to go down this particularly depressing road of self-destruction. Just, Jesus Christ.
 
>I get everything I want out of the relationship except for love
Jesus Christ. I'm vacillating between so many emotions reading this post. I want to say I feel mostly pity for this person who is so fucked up she's convinced herself she doesn't deserve love and being loved isn't important. But she also describes herself as a "relationship anarchist" which makes me want to punch her in the face, and she's encouraging other people to go down this particularly depressing road of self-destruction. Just, Jesus Christ.
If you want to be slightly generous about it you can just imagine the type: young, socially retarded, easily influenced, and overly-empathetic - type of person who goes through life being tricked into one thing after the other and in this case, lefty/post-modern shit that begets the type of mindset where you go "sure, might as well decolonize relationships and sex while we're at it, nothing more radical than rejecting social norms that every Marxist teacher I've ever had (all of them) taught me to hate - FUCK YOU DAD". It's their fault but not totally because it takes two (or more) to tango and there are always plenty of other similarly minded people to help paddle that ship to Crazytown.

On the other hand, the phrase "you get what you fucking deserve" is usually pretty apt when observing the inevitable relationship meltdowns that occur following the introduction of New Age bullshit that went out of fashion fifty years ago but that's flared up again under a new lofty and pretentious guise complete with even a confusing and formal sounding name to boot. At least the swingers of the 60s/70s had the decency to just admit it was all about fuckin' baby, ain't nothing else.
 
Reading all these stories about unhappy, non-poly partners allowing themselves to be cucked is hard to understand from an outside perspective, but as someone that narrowly dodged a bullet, I can see how these guys (and occasionally girls) get manipulated by people they thought they loved. Poly people, and the poly community in general, pull some devious, evil shit to get their boyfriends and girlfriends to play along with their cult-like fantasy.

Storytime: I was dating a chick who, after two fucking years, asked me how I felt about opening up the relationship. I said fuck no, I'm not a Mormon, swinger, cuck, etc. And from then on, I was incredibly emotionally manipulated by her and the poly community. She told me I was confining her, and that if I truly loved her, I would let her experience love to the fullest, "because she had a lot of love to give".

She sent me books, videos, websites, that all told me what a piece of shit I was if I didn't allow myself to be cucked. She even fucking took me to a "poly friendly" therapist for the specific purpose of turning me poly. She and her friends fucking sent me "poly memes" every day, it was a complete fucking indoctrination into a cult. And this was someone I thought I loved, and cared about me. I genuinely was gonna reach my breaking point, and I was convinced I was a bad person for feeling repulsed at the idea of "sharing" my girlfriend.

Luckily I found boards like this, where sane people mercilessly ridicule the propaganda I was exposed to every day. That's what helped me get out. Don't be fooled by the Tumblr-grade wokescolding and utter stupidity. Polyamory is a cult and these people are all buying the bullshit. Swear to god this shit is gonna kill someone someday.
 

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Storytime: I was dating a chick who, after two fucking years, asked me how I felt about opening up the relationship. I said fuck no, I'm not a Mormon, swinger, cuck, etc. And from then on, I was incredibly emotionally manipulated by her and the poly community. She told me I was confining her, and that if I truly loved her, I would let her experience love to the fullest, "because she had a lot of love to give".

She sent me books, videos, websites, that all told me what a piece of shit I was if I didn't allow myself to be cucked. She even fucking took me to a "poly friendly" therapist for the specific purpose of turning me poly. She and her friends fucking sent me "poly memes" every day, it was a complete fucking indoctrination into a cult. And this was someone I thought I loved, and cared about me. I genuinely was gonna reach my breaking point, and I was convinced I was a bad person for feeling repulsed at the idea of "sharing" my girlfriend.
Why did you let the relationship go on, so she could send you stuff? I have never been in the situation, but my theory is anyone asking for permission to cheat on you, will cheat on you. Instant breakup.
 
Why did you let the relationship go on, so she could send you stuff? I have never been in the situation, but my theory is anyone asking for permission to cheat on you, will cheat on you. Instant breakup.
Yeah, I concur. Maybe if I loved the person enough I would still continue the relationship after a mere request to be non-monogamous, but there's no way in hell I would put up with it for long enough to be manipulated by her and her poly friends. Maybe I'm just heartless/inconsiderate, but I find it very hard to imagine getting stuck in that kind of situation myself.
 
Why did you let the relationship go on, so she could send you stuff?

She really sold it to me as a "threesome" type deal, that it was completely normal and that other couples were doing it all the time. It came out of nowhere, and it was hard at the time to see her so confused and baffled by my disgust. Genuinely, I thought I was the asshole of the situation because of how carefully they frame it. It's genuine manipulation. She quoted much of this website word-for-word, if you're interested to see these people's manipulation tactics. https://morethantwo.com/polyformonogamouspeople.html I felt like I was the one breaking the promise of the relationship, not her.

Maybe if I loved the person enough I would still continue the relationship after a mere request to be non-monogamous, but there's no way in hell I would put up with it for long enough to be manipulated by her and her poly friends.

When you're being manipulated you don't really know you're being manipulated until looking back. When you're surrounded by a group of people telling you cucking and goodwifing and sleeping around is normal, then you definitely start to internalize it and think that your repulsion and hate of that shit is a bad thing. I did care about her and it sucked that she bought into poly shit, but it mostly hurt that all our mutual friends were believing in the same stuff. Didn't want to lose a friend group that was otherwise nice to me. Glad I got out of there when I did but it certainly took too long in hindsight.

For reference this also happened 11 years ago, so there wasn't as much obvious cringy shit out there on the internet about the "poly lifestyle". If I had the ability back then to Google "polyamory" and find some of the videos and shit from this thread, I would have been out much sooner.
 
She really sold it to me as a "threesome" type deal, that it was completely normal and that other couples were doing it all the time. It came out of nowhere, and it was hard at the time to see her so confused and baffled by my disgust. Genuinely, I thought I was the asshole of the situation because of how carefully they frame it. It's genuine manipulation. She quoted much of this website word-for-word, if you're interested to see these people's manipulation tactics. https://morethantwo.com/polyformonogamouspeople.html I felt like I was the one breaking the promise of the relationship, not her.
Remember that emotional manipulation si considered abuse. Kinda funny how they think that = love.
Poly is a fucking sham, even if it were a threesome situation and even if you all agreed with it. You can only be in one place at one time, meaning you can only really give your full attention to one thing/person. All the poly BS is just people acting as though this isn't true. If you had 2 other people who for some reason both had kidney failures and you were the only donor, you would make it choice and it would be the one you love most.
Alternatively the one you love most will be the one you spend most of your time with, your time is limited after all and what if both people lived apart and both needed you at once? Maybe A lost their job or broke their leg, while B's mother just died. You can only spend time with mutliple people in less serious, more superficial situations. I know my arguments are absurd things, but it doesn't change the fact your time, money and energy are all limited and you can either focus on one person or spread it thin between shallower relationships.

As for friends I would ditch the friend group too. Again it's not my situation, but I wouldn't want people dragging me down or trying to pressure me into shit I don't want to do, so I would consider losing them as dodging a bullet.
 
Some scraps I came across:
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What?? Your husbands ex doesnt want their child to be exposed to this fuckery?
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This conversation below is absolutely mind blowing:
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I'm glad the one mother decided having her child around this poly woman was concerning, but I'm also asking myself why her husband was trolling Tinder in the first place...

EDIT: never mind, re-read the post and realize the mother herself saw the poly woman's husband on Tinder
 
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