Lolcow Melinda Leigh Scott & Marshall Castersen - Sue-happy couple. Flat earth conspiracists. Pretending to be Jewish. Believe Kiwi Farms is protected by the Masonic Order. 0-6 on lawsuits. Marshall is dead.

[Drowningman]

I hope it gets as crazy as Pamela's.

Which one is the crazier one I ask myself often. You never know what to expect next.

 

[Useful_Mistake]

Which one is the crazier one I ask myself often. You never know what to expect next.

Well, Mel hasn't attempted to sue the CIA while alleging that Biden was null's puppet, so I'd say Pam is still crazier.

 

[LoverofPi]

The definition of "fail" is to "not achieve one's goal". If others have goals in the course of events that intermingle with your course of action than you can't rightly say someone has failed because others' goals are not your goal.

But you can cause them to fail or they can cause you to fail.

For example, if my goal is to walk to the bank and deposit $50 I had saved into the bank to pay a bill and on the way person A robs me of $10 and I only get $40 into my account, then I cannot say "I failed to deposit $50 into my bank account".

No. You failed there. Due to outside forces, but you failed at the stated goal.

But, if on the way I stop for an ice cream cone even though I knew I needed the money to pay a bill and I only get $47.50 into the account then one could say "I failed to deposit $50".

In that case you also failed, but due to internal factors.

The word "fail" denotes the idea that one was intentionally sabotaging their own course of conduct by their own choice, free of outside pressures or circumstances.

Yeah, the word fail does not denote that at all. Self sabotage is not implied by the word failure in the slightest and many people fail despite their best efforts or the efforts of those around them to succeed. Failure due to outside pressures and circumstances doesn't void a failure. It can explain it, but it doesn't make it not happen.

Where did you come across the idea that the word "failure" denotes an intentional self sabotage, Mel?

 

[Burmese Rice Farmer]

Where did you come across the idea that the word "failure" denotes an intentional self sabotage, Mel?

It's not hard to imagine that a lot of her failures are due to intentional self-sabotage, I guess that's where she picks it up from

 

[TamarYaelBatYah]

But you can cause them to fail or they can cause you to fail.

You can't cause someone to fail and others cannot cause you to fail.

Again, the definition of "fail" is to "not reach one's goal". The definition is not "achieving a goal together" or "achieving one's goal while combatting outside influences".

Obviously, if someone is interfering with your path, you change your goal to something more realistic.

If woman A buys a building to open up a Bed and Breakfast and then she finds out that a music store buys the building next door and makes too much noise, then she changes her location and buys elsewhere.

Her goal is to set up a Bed and Breakfas. She chooses Location A. She can change her plan to set up a Bed and Breakfast at Location B. Still, she maintains her goal: set up a Bed and Breakfast.

Someone can influence your course of direction or plans, but they cannot cause you to fail.

It's not hard to imagine that a lot of her failures are due to intentional self-sabotage, I guess that's where she picks it up from

I haven't self-sabotaged anything. Everything I have set out to do in life, I accomplished, in my own time, on my own conditions.

I set out to earn my Bachelor's degree, I did it.

I set out to get married, I did it.

I set out to get divorced, I did it.

I set out to get remarried, I did it.

I set out to have children, I did it.

I set out to publish a book, I did it.

I set out to have 6 home births, I did it.

I set out to home train and homeschool my children, even as a single mom, I've done it for 14 years in counting.

I set out to learn flute and violin, I did it.

I set out to learn classical guitar and decided it wasn't for me.

I set out to learn Spanish, biblical Hebrew, and German and I did it.

I set out to learn how to cook, I did it.

I set out to go to law school and earn a JD and I decided it wasn't for me.

I set out to learn what righteousness is, and I did it.

And most importantly, I set out to be TAMIYM, and praise YAH, I did it!

Looking good so far.

Hopefully I'll get my PhD sometime in the next 30 years. I have multiple books to write too.

many people fail despite their best efforts

Many people fail because they do not set realistic goals OR they cannot discern when it's time to change course and set a new goal.

Jesus, you have deluded yourself here badly. You are playing chicken and assuming you cant get hurt because you are judgement proof. Sanctions are not a "civil debt". They are more like a "criminal fine" when imposed by the court. Think less owing Null money and more owing the State because of unpaid parking tickets. When you sign at the bottom of all your meaningless drivel that you send to the court, you are submitting yourself voluntarily to the rules of that court, which include punishments if you break them.

And just like an unpaid parking ticket it never goes away and eventually the State shows up to demand their pound of flesh. Usually at a steeper price then it was originally. Dont even know why I am helping you. Probably because I think you are too stupid to take my warning seriously.

The traffic tickets in VA say that you'll have a hold put on your DMV record until you pay it. Nothing about jail time.

That is true even without any shutdowns, so, yeah that's also a good guess. Personally, I think the judge will rule sooner, though. He seems like he wants to just get it over with already, that's the feeling I got from his most recent order.

Meh, last time he left my stuff on his desk for awhile until I called the clerk and asked if it got thrown in the waste basket. Not exactly in those words though.

I think he gets tired of reading my stuff so he leaves it for last.

Are you going to teach them 'quality over quantity' when it comes to marriages and relationships too?

Yes, but probably not in the way you're posing that question.

Lots of people like to boast how many years they have been together (quantity) but little is mentioned in these boastful statements whether or not the marriage has been full of betrayal, dysfunction, sin, evil etc (quality or lack thereof).

I will certainly teach my children that it's okay to leave an unrighteous situation in exchange for a quality relationship with yourself or another person. I will also teach them it doesn't matter how many times it takes to find a righteous or TAMIYM person. I hope they are able to stay with the first person they marry, for life, but I'm also seasoned enough to know that one had to be prepared for change when it meets you at the door.

The difference between my story and my children's is that it will take them fewer times than me to find a marriage Covenant because they have the benefit of my experience and wisdom that I gained. One reason Solomon wrote Proverbs 31 is he had a lot of experience with women. One reason I know so much about compatibility in relationships is because I have a lot of experience from talking and interacting with men. My mom lacked the knowledge of how to advise me against certain men. My children get the benefit of what I have learned. I created a formula for weeding out evil types of guys from my experiences.

The other advantage my children will have is that they probably won't be as eager to find a partner as I was because they have my home to hold onto while waiting. Fatherless and motherless women and men tend to move toward marriage faster because they lack the love and resources parents might otherwise give them.

therefore,

My goal here is not attention. That's what dating sites are for. Plenty of men on those to entertain me!

goal was to deposit $50. You did not do it. You did not succeed, therefore, you failed. It's as easy as that.

Do you talk to yourself this way during your private meditations?

 

[Baby Yoda]

I set out to learn Spanish, biblical Hebrew, and German and I did it.

You don't speak Spanish or German fluently.

 

[TamarYaelBatYah]

You don't speak Spanish or German fluently.

I know enough German to read scholastic articles (the primary reason I learned it). Lots of Germans publish on topics of interest I read about.

I am fluent in Spanish. I started when I was 14 years old and grew up in Northern Va where 30% of the population is Hispanic. Gave me a good opportunity to use it which helped me learn. I have been told by more than one Hispanic person that I have no accent in Spanish (can speak with native tones/pronunciation). It's because I have a musical ear.

what languages do you speak??

 

[Dizzyuntildeath]

You can't cause someone to fail and others cannot cause you to fail.

Again, the definition of "fail" is to "not reach one's goal". The definition is not "achieving a goal together" or "achieving one's goal while combatting outside influences".

Obviously, if someone is interfering with your path, you change your goal to something more realistic.

If woman A buys a building to open up a Bed and Breakfast and then she finds out that a music store buys the building next door and makes too much noise, then she changes her location and buys elsewhere.

Her goal is to set up a Bed and Breakfas. She chooses Location A. She can change her plan to set up a Bed and Breakfast at Location B. Still, she maintains her goal: set up a Bed and Breakfast.

Someone can influence your course of direction or plans, but they cannot cause you to fail.



I haven't self-sabotaged anything. Everything I have set out to do in life, I accomplished, in my own time, on my own conditions.

I set out to earn my Bachelor's degree, I did it.

I set out to get married, I did it.

I set out to get divorced, I did it.

I set out to get remarried, I did it.

I set out to have children, I did it.

I set out to publish a book, I did it.

I set out to have 6 home births, I did it.

I set out to home train and homeschool my children, even as a single mom, I've done it for 14 years in counting.

I set out to learn flute and violin, I did it.

I set out to learn classical guitar and decided it wasn't for me.

I set out to learn Spanish, biblical Hebrew, and German and I did it.

I set out to learn how to cook, I did it.

I set out to go to law school and earn a JD and I decided it wasn't for me.

I set out to learn what righteousness is, and I did it.

And most importantly, I set out to be TAMIYM, and praise YAH, I did it!

Looking good so far.

Hopefully I'll get my PhD sometime in the next 30 years. I have multiple books to write too.




Many people fail because they do not set realistic goals OR they cannot discern when it's time to change course and set a new goal.




The traffic tickets in VA say that you'll have a hold put on your DMV record until you pay it. Nothing about jail time.



Meh, last time he left my stuff on his desk for awhile until I called the clerk and asked if it got thrown in the waste basket. Not exactly in those words though.

I think he gets tired of reading my stuff so he leaves it for last.


Yes, but probably not in the way you're posing that question.

Lots of people like to boast how many years they have been together (quantity) but little is mentioned in these boastful statements whether or not the marriage has been full of betrayal, dysfunction, sin, evil etc (quality or lack thereof).

I will certainly teach my children that it's okay to leave an unrighteous situation in exchange for a quality relationship with yourself or another person. I will also teach them it doesn't matter how many times it takes to find a righteous or TAMIYM person. I hope they are able to stay with the first person they marry, for life, but I'm also seasoned enough to know that one had to be prepared for change when it meets you at the door.

The difference between my story and my children's is that it will take them fewer times than me to find a marriage Covenant because they have the benefit of my experience and wisdom that I gained. One reason Solomon wrote Proverbs 31 is he had a lot of experience with women. One reason I know so much about compatibility in relationships is because I have a lot of experience from talking and interacting with men. My mom lacked the knowledge of how to advise me against certain men. My children get the benefit of what I have learned. I created a formula for weeding out evil types of guys from my experiences.

The other advantage my children will have is that they probably won't be as eager to find a partner as I was because they have my home to hold onto while waiting. Fatherless and motherless women and men tend to move toward marriage faster because they lack the love and resources parents might otherwise give them.



My goal here is not attention. That's what dating sites are for. Plenty of men on those to entertain me!


Do you talk to yourself this way during your private meditations?

Spoiler: The black truth

P.S. Leaked police bodycam footage of Melly violently resisting arrest and getting tazed and her head slammed into the side of the cop car when?

 

[Deadpool]

You can't cause someone to fail and others cannot cause you to fail.

Again, the definition of "fail" is to "not reach one's goal". The definition is not "achieving a goal together" or "achieving one's goal while combatting outside influences".

Obviously, if someone is interfering with your path, you change your goal to something more realistic.

If woman A buys a building to open up a Bed and Breakfast and then she finds out that a music store buys the building next door and makes too much noise, then she changes her location and buys elsewhere.

Her goal is to set up a Bed and Breakfas. She chooses Location A. She can change her plan to set up a Bed and Breakfast at Location B. Still, she maintains her goal: set up a Bed and Breakfast.

Someone can influence your course of direction or plans, but they cannot cause you to fail.



I haven't self-sabotaged anything. Everything I have set out to do in life, I accomplished, in my own time, on my own conditions.

I set out to earn my Bachelor's degree, I did it.

I set out to get married, I did it.

I set out to get divorced, I did it.

I set out to get remarried, I did it.

I set out to have children, I did it.

I set out to publish a book, I did it.

I set out to have 6 home births, I did it.

I set out to home train and homeschool my children, even as a single mom, I've done it for 14 years in counting.

I set out to learn flute and violin, I did it.

I set out to learn classical guitar and decided it wasn't for me.

I set out to learn Spanish, biblical Hebrew, and German and I did it.

I set out to learn how to cook, I did it.

I set out to go to law school and earn a JD and I decided it wasn't for me.

I set out to learn what righteousness is, and I did it.

And most importantly, I set out to be TAMIYM, and praise YAH, I did it!

Looking good so far.

Hopefully I'll get my PhD sometime in the next 30 years. I have multiple books to write too.




Many people fail because they do not set realistic goals OR they cannot discern when it's time to change course and set a new goal.




The traffic tickets in VA say that you'll have a hold put on your DMV record until you pay it. Nothing about jail time.



Meh, last time he left my stuff on his desk for awhile until I called the clerk and asked if it got thrown in the waste basket. Not exactly in those words though.

I think he gets tired of reading my stuff so he leaves it for last.


Yes, but probably not in the way you're posing that question.

Lots of people like to boast how many years they have been together (quantity) but little is mentioned in these boastful statements whether or not the marriage has been full of betrayal, dysfunction, sin, evil etc (quality or lack thereof).

I will certainly teach my children that it's okay to leave an unrighteous situation in exchange for a quality relationship with yourself or another person. I will also teach them it doesn't matter how many times it takes to find a righteous or TAMIYM person. I hope they are able to stay with the first person they marry, for life, but I'm also seasoned enough to know that one had to be prepared for change when it meets you at the door.

The difference between my story and my children's is that it will take them fewer times than me to find a marriage Covenant because they have the benefit of my experience and wisdom that I gained. One reason Solomon wrote Proverbs 31 is he had a lot of experience with women. One reason I know so much about compatibility in relationships is because I have a lot of experience from talking and interacting with men. My mom lacked the knowledge of how to advise me against certain men. My children get the benefit of what I have learned. I created a formula for weeding out evil types of guys from my experiences.

The other advantage my children will have is that they probably won't be as eager to find a partner as I was because they have my home to hold onto while waiting. Fatherless and motherless women and men tend to move toward marriage faster because they lack the love and resources parents might otherwise give them.



My goal here is not attention. That's what dating sites are for. Plenty of men on those to entertain me!


Do you talk to yourself this way during your private meditations?

You should set out to kill yourself.

 

[Baby Yoda]

what languages do you speak??

Ensename tu culo.

 

[Cynically Insane]

This is my favorite part of her latest filing:

If you guys are just too stupid to see what a god damned fucking genius Mel is at language I don't know what else to tell you.

 

[LoverofPi]

It's not hard to imagine that a lot of her failures are due to intentional self-sabotage, I guess that's where she picks it up from

That makes sense, it's just curious to me she's taken that as a necessary component/ implication of the usage of the word "failure"

You can't cause someone to fail and others cannot cause you to fail.

Yes, you can, and yes they can.

Again, the definition of "fail" is to "not reach one's goal". The definition is not "achieving a goal together" or "achieving one's goal while combatting outside influences".

Neither of those things are what I was talking about. They are in fact the opposite if what I was talking about.

Obviously, if someone is interfering with your path, you change your goal to something more realistic.

If woman A buys a building to open up a Bed and Breakfast and then she finds out that a music store buys the building next door and makes too much noise, then she changes her location and buys elsewhere.

Her goal is to set up a Bed and Breakfas. She chooses Location A. She can change her plan to set up a Bed and Breakfast at Location B. Still, she maintains her goal: set up a Bed and Breakfast.

Someone can influence your course of direction or plans, but they cannot cause you to fail.

Of course they can.
If you are participating in a car race, and someone crashes into you and you cannot complete the race, you failed to complete it. It's not your fault, there was no deliberate sabotage by anyone, but there was a failure. If someone sets fire to that bed and breakfast before you have opened it, they have caused you to fail. That doesn't make it an unrecoverable failure, but it doesn't change that a failure happened.

Your odd philosophy and redefinition of failure is strange, Melinda. Failure is just a fact of life, it can come without any form of sabotage, from any angle. Instead of trying to pretend you haven't failed, accept that you have, learn from it, and move on.

I also find it odd that you feel failure can only come from self sabotage, since failure happens to anyone or anything, including inanimate objects.

Many people fail because they do not set realistic goals OR they cannot discern when it's time to change course and set a new goal.

Again, failure is part of learning when to change course. Why is failure so scary, Melinda? It's okay to fail sometimes. Much in life is learned through failure.

 

[Sir Dank-a-Lot]

*even when they are adults

Answer my question. You said “Says the person with an inferior education level”. Do you know my education level or are you lying? Pick one.

 

[Kosher Salt]

Again, the definition of "fail" is to "not reach one's goal". The definition is not "achieving a goal together" or "achieving one's goal while combatting outside influences".

Obviously, if someone is interfering with your path, you change your goal to something more realistic.

Changing your goals to avoid "failure" is called "moving the goalposts." It's still failure.

Setting realistic goals is only half of the problem. You also need to be realistic about your failure to meet them.

 

[Viridian]

Your odd philosophy and redefinition of failure is strange, Melinda. Failure is just a fact of life, it can come without any form of sabotage, from any angle. Instead of trying to pretend you haven't failed, accept that you have, learn from it, and move on.

I also find it odd that you feel failure can only come from self sabotage, since failure happens to anyone or anything, including inanimate objects.


Again, failure is part of learning when to change course. Why is failure so scary, Melinda? It's okay to fail sometimes. Much in life is learned through failure.

Isn't it interesting that Cousinfucker's refusal to accept a failure as a failure, by moving goalposts and denying the failure ever actually happened, matches exactly with the patterns of behavior malignant narcissists have been documented to exhibit in response to failure?

 

[White Baby]

Isn't it interesting that Cousinfucker's refusal to accept a failure as a failure, by moving goalposts and denying the failure ever actually happened, matches exactly with the patterns of behavior malignant narcissists have been documented to exhibit in response to failure?

Her kids are fucking doomed. I feel so bad for them.

 

[LoverofPi]

Isn't it interesting that Cousinfucker's refusal to accept a failure as a failure, by moving goalposts and denying the failure ever actually happened, matches exactly with the patterns of behavior malignant narcissists have been documented to exhibit in response to failure?

Add to that her redefining and reframing of words to suit her specific purposes, her admitted feelings of grandiosity, her accusing those critical of her as merely being envious of her (varaiants of "You're mad because I have a degree and you don't!" being quite common), memory holing inconvenient or embarassing details, etc. etc. etc.
It's almost like she very clearly exhibits a marked pattern of behavior leading to a singular logical conclusion. And I wouldn't want to say Melinda suffers from Narcissistic Personality Disorder, but that's because I think she quite enjoys it.

Her kids are fucking doomed. I feel so bad for them.

Their best hope is to emancipate or to be taken by CPS, like Misty Ray Henry's kids.

 

[Baby Yoda]

@TamarYaelBatYah Was reading an article on my favorite news source this morning, DailyMail and found an article that reminded me of things you like. A woman is innovating art by literally, and im not joking, winking her birthing canal to open and close/focus the shutters of a camera. I know I joke about winking shithole a lot, but now art is literally about winking your pussy. See, nothing weird or creepy its just art!

Thoughts?

"An artist who uses her vagina as a camera shutter to take photographs of male subjects is among the creatives whose work features in a book providing an 'unapologetic look' at women's sexuality.

A Woman's Right To Pleasure, the brainchild of writer Alexandra Weiss and her colleagues at New York's Black Book gallery, is an erotic assortment of artwork and essays which celebrates female pleasure."

Here is a picture that she took of some dude using her vaginal canal as muscles to contract and snap a picture:

Spoiler: Picture taken Using Flaps

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-9320811/Photographer-uses-vagina-camera-photos-friends-ex-lovers.html

 

[TamarYaelBatYah]

know I joke about winking shithole a lot, but now art is literally about winking your pussy. See, nothing weird or creepy its just art!

Thoughts?

That's absolutely brilliant.

I don't condone public nudity BUT if she paints vaginas (based on her own private collection of nude pictures), I don't see that being a violation of The Torah.

The vagina is a very complex creation, and one I think most men have not taken the time to understand. Many women don't take the time to understand their own vagina. This limits their ability to experience pleasure and own their sexuality.

The vagina is a beautiful creation and a powerful one, I can see it being an inspiration for art. Especially celebrating that no 2 vaginas are the same. Or so I've read. I saw a woman do a whole painted art series on different labia from a frontal view to celebrate the fact that each woman's labia is her own unique shape.

This past year, in one of the virtual academic conferences I was invited to, a fellow scholar introduced the idea that each man's soulmate has a vagina that was made just for his penis. That when he finds her, his penis is back "home". He based this on the verse "you are now flesh of my flesh and bone of my bone". This scholar's analysis of the Hebrew word for what is translated commonly as "rib" indicated that Eve was possibly formed from Adam's bone in his penis, not his rib.

Thoughts?

accusing those critical of her as merely being envious of her (varaiants of "You're mad because I have a degree and you don't!"

Why would I not keep an eye out for that?

When I was in grade school I was s straight A student, known as the "smart girl". The boys in the class who considered himself the "Alpha male" because of his height and size tripped me on the stairs to try to humiliate me in public. He attacked me because he saw me as a threat (an intelligent girl).

And that has been the story of my life throughout middle school, high school, college and adulthood. I have been teased and verbally attacked by men who felt threatened by my academic achievements and intelligence. Women too. Social class warfare against academics is a real thing. Hech, even my first husband waged war on me in part because of my academic achievements. Marshall always made me feel like an "other" too because of our educational disparities. You would think men would be supportive of their wife's ambitions.

But nope.

Unfortunately, studies show that when a woman has more academic achievements than her husband she is more likely to be the victim of mental/psychological abuse through power struggles the husband provokes. The same is true of women who earn more than their husbands, studies say. Ironic, since you don't see women doing that to men. Women see men with education and money as more desirable providers. Oh, the bullshit!

When someone treats you differently than another person and the difference between you and them is your academic achievements, it's obvious. When people makes cortical comments that have no foundation in facts, it's obvious their motive. I can discern motives very easily. I listen to what people say and can discern when they are being envious and when they are being just disrespectful.

Their best hope is to emancipate or to be taken by CPS, like Misty Ray Henry's kids.

Her kids are fucking doomed. I feel so bad for them.

My children are happy with me. They give me gratitude and praise me as "the best mom ever!" on a weekly basis out of their own free will.

When I was 13/14 years old I had a friend who was depressed because she thought she had no friends. So I threw a surprise party for her and hosted it. All the girls that came said "you're going to be such a good mom when you grow up".

I might have had a hard life but I know how to love people.

Changing your goals to avoid "failure" is called "moving the goalposts." It's still failure.

That's not what "moving the goalpost" is. "Moving the goalpost" is when someone is being narcisstically abused. You can't "move the goalpost" on yourself.

EXAMPLE of "moving the goalpost": Narcissistic Husband mocks and yells at Wife for not having the house tidy and dishes out of the sink by the time he gets home. So in order to appease him she consistently gets them out of the sink and into the dishwasher and house just how he wants it before he comes home from work. Then he yells at her for not being presentable and ready for sex the moment he walks in the door.

"Moving the goalpost" is a narcissistic abusive tactic where they dangle a carrot of approval over you so no matter what you do, you're not going to be good enough.

Isn't it interesting that Cousinfucker's refusal to accept a failure as a failure, by moving goalposts and denying the failure ever actually happened, matches exactly with the patterns of behavior malignant narcissists have been documented to exhibit in response to failure?

Your use of this article as a parallel shows that you have poor reading comprehension.

One thing most of you keep overlooking is that Narcissism does NOT happen in a vacuum. In order to be a Narcissist, you have to be projecting abuse at another person. Narcissism is not a state of being, it's a way of interacting with others in which the Narcissist repeatedly launches abuse onto others.

Speaking with others is not narcissism. None of you are being narcisstically abused by me. You're clinging to pop psychology and throwing labels at me without dissecting facts. "Narcissist" is now a pop culture word which is often substituted for "I don't like how you think or act".

The article is also a poorly written mush of psychology and moral philosophies thrown around. Typical of blog writing. It lacks the critical elements of academic style. It's word salad and word vomit.

Again, failure is part of learning when to change course. Why is failure so scary, Melinda? It's okay to fail sometimes. Much in life is learned through failure.

I've never failed at anything because I knew something from a very early age: you can't control what other people do.
I set realistic goals and I don't have the Christian mentality that it's my job to control, change or fix others.

When you can part with the belief that you can control others, you will understand the concept of not failing.

If you are participating in a car race, and someone crashes into you and you cannot complete the race, you failed to complete it. It's not your fault, there was no deliberate sabotage by anyone, but there was a failure. If someone sets fire to that bed and breakfast before you have opened it, they have caused you to fail. That doesn't make it an unrecoverable failure, but it doesn't change that a failure happened.

Your odd philosophy and redefinition of failure is strange, Melinda. Failure is just a fact of life, it can come without any form of sabotage, from any angle. Instead of trying to pretend you haven't failed, accept that you have, learn from it, and move on.

The definition I gave is right out of the dictionary.

Someone else attacking you to veer from your course of action is not "failure". The word for that is "victimized". This is one of the main differences between popular psychology and The Torah. In The Torah, the Victim never absorbs the consequences, blame or sin of their Attacker. The Victim remains innocent and the Aggressor/Attacker pays 100% of restitution to their Victim.

Your analogy with the car race also lacks the consideration of the element of time. If person A has goal B and person C does action D to prevent person A from arriving to goal B, then person A can make another attempt to arrive to goal B. So person A may have been unable to complete a goal in the first attempt but by distancing themself from person C they can still reach their goal "B" in the second attempt. Same goal, two attempts. Is this first attempt "failure"? No. It's victimization.

 

[Kosher Salt]

For someone who's never failed at anything, you sure have lost a lot of lawsuits. Coincidentally, you sure do seem to also think you know an awful lot about Narcissism.

To most reasonable people, filing a lawsuit you couldn't win would be a failure. Maybe your failure was not setting a reasonable goal of not filing lawsuits you couldn't win.