Lolcow Melinda Leigh Scott & Marshall Castersen - Sue-happy couple. Flat earth conspiracists. Pretending to be Jewish. Believe Kiwi Farms is protected by the Masonic Order. 0-6 on lawsuits. Marshall is dead.

[Toasty]

Define "Used" and you're still fat and no one is willing to have sex with you.

Dude, she has 6 kids, so gonna have to disagree here. And we know that her cousin was dtf.

 

[Marshal Mannerheim]

How could a Lolcow scream when typing on here is silent?

You don't understand figurative language?

There's a name for that.

 

[Oughtism]

Yes, but probably not in the way you're posing that question.

Lots of people like to boast how many years they have been together (quantity) but little is mentioned in these boastful statements whether or not the marriage has been full of betrayal, dysfunction, sin, evil etc (quality or lack thereof).

I will certainly teach my children that it's okay to leave an unrighteous situation in exchange for a quality relationship with yourself or another person. I will also teach them it doesn't matter how many times it takes to find a righteous or TAMIYM person. I hope they are able to stay with the first person they marry, for life, but I'm also seasoned enough to know that one had to be prepared for change when it meets you at the door.

The difference between my story and my children's is that it will take them fewer times than me to find a marriage Covenant because they have the benefit of my experience and wisdom that I gained. One reason Solomon wrote Proverbs 31 is he had a lot of experience with women. One reason I know so much about compatibility in relationships is because I have a lot of experience from talking and interacting with men. My mom lacked the knowledge of how to advise me against certain men. My children get the benefit of what I have learned. I created a formula for weeding out evil types of guys from my experiences.

The other advantage my children will have is that they probably won't be as eager to find a partner as I was because they have my home to hold onto while waiting. Fatherless and motherless women and men tend to move toward marriage faster because they lack the love and resources parents might otherwise give them.

I will admit that I asked the question somewhat facetiously.

Regardless, I can't help to think that the only reason for your beliefs on this topic is that it is the only way for you to seem tamiym - a sort of retrospective justification of questionable behavior and/or bad decisions. The narcissistic streak in you cannot admit true failure, only the errors that made you "stronger".

I will ignore you comparing yourself to Solomon but.. I can't help myself but to stay on the subject of Proverbs 31, and 31:6-7 in particular. Some would argue that much of the betrayal, dysfunctionality, sin, and evil in contemporary marriages are fueled by such reasoning. Do you agree?

Also, I would like to hear more about the formula on weeding out evil guys unless its already been discussed in the thread previously.

I'm not writing any of this to insult you. I do think you have some redeeming qualities compared to other people discussed on this website, but because of the litigation all those qualities hold little to no weight. After having posted over 2,500 messages here, one could say that you are a bigger part of the KF community than many of your biggest detractors. You've admitted that the forum brings you joy from time to time. Are we as evil as some of the men you've laid down with? If not, is going after the farms really the best use of your time?

 

[TamarYaelBatYah]

When the participants involved have different expectations, goals and understanding of what is going on. One may only want sex, the other may be understanding that there is a relationship, future and possible children implied. If the one just wanting sex leads the other to believe that they want the same outcome in order to just get sex, the other partner has been used for sex. I can't believe an adult needs this explained. You tell this shit to teens who are considering having sex.

What you are describing is a narcissistic abuse tactic called "future faking". Narcissism is statistically more common in men. So yeah, more men have historically and statistically abused women by "future faking" about relationships.

However, if the woman was a willing participant in the sexual act she can't be "used for sex". Consensual sex doesn't happen to a woman. Why do you completely ignore a woman's desire for sex in the process?

The belief that sex is something that happens to a woman instead of with a woman is a philosophy that goes back to Aristotle.

Your statements also assume that all women want long term relationships with men they have sex with. As women have gained more rights and access to money they have gravitated away from patriarchal concepts which make women believe that they need men to raise children and survive.

Even if a woman experiences narcissistic abuse like "future faking" or being "discarded", that doesn't mean she has been "used". She was a willing part of the sex too.

How do you know the religion of @fnaarf 's parents?

Just like I knew that she slouches when she sits

 

[ComedyEnjoyer]

Wait did I miss the mountain jews breaking up? I loved Marshal

 

[White Baby]

Just like I knew that she slouches when she sits

I don't consent to your astral projecting.

Your statements also assume that all women want long term relationships with men they have sex with.

Where did they assume that? They're basing it off of your repeated desire to start a family and be a strong matriarch. This would obviously be incompatible with a man who is "future faking", as you've put it. Plenty of women have consensual sex for no other reason than to enjoy some temporary intimate contact, and there's nothing wrong with that as long as they're being safe.

 

[Chariot Of Mara]

Wait did I miss the mountain jews breaking up? I loved Marshal

Several times, actually.

@fnaarf Even a broken clock is right twice a day.... though in Mel’s case here she’s lucky if it’s once. She probably still thinks I’m a nudist wiccan.

 

[LoverofPi]

What you are describing is a narcissistic abuse tactic called "future faking". Narcissism is statistically more common in men. So yeah, more men have historically and statistically abused women by "future faking" about relationships.

BPD is more common in women and BPD people future fake too.
But it's best not to try and lean to heavily into Cluster B personality disorders and their associated behaviors, Mel. You already don't like when your own cluster B tendencies are discussed, so why give us more reason to examine them?

You on the other hand were raised by Christians. Not even a similar walk by any means.

So were you, Mel.

 

[TamarYaelBatYah]

So were you, Mel

Neither of my parents were Christians

BPD is more common in women

Inaccurate. 100% inaccurate.

But it's best not to try and lean to heavily into Cluster B personality disorders and their associated behaviors, Mel. You already don't like when your own cluster B tendencies are discussed, so why give us more reason to examine them?

Don't you have other atheistic women to talk to? I'd like to see some new people on this thread. You're constant nagging is annoying.

off of your repeated desire to start a family

I never once said that having children necessitates a long term relationship with a man

Wait did I miss the mountain jews breaking up? I loved Marshal

Uh, like months ago

 

[Toasty]

Your statements also assume that all women want long term relationships with men they have sex with. As women have gained more rights and access to money they have gravitated away from patriarchal concepts which make women believe that they need men to raise children and survive.

Nowhere did my statements assume this. My statements were gender and situationally neutral. You yourself have assumed this. Moron.

 

[White Baby]

I never once said that having children necessitates a long term relationship with a man

No. You didn't. Like I said. They're basing it off of YOUR desire to start a family with a man. Whether or not that entails you having even more kids is not the point. The point is that a person of ANY gender is "used" or "future faked" for sex when their desire to start a family is taken advantage of by a sexual partner who does not want a long term relationship or a family. This has happened to you multiple times, has it not?

 

[TamarYaelBatYah]

They're basing it off of YOUR desire to start a family with a man.

I never made that statement anywhere. So again, you've been caught making up bullshit.

This has happened to you multiple times, has it not?

No, not at all. Exactly what I said. You make up narratives for your own narcissistic supply.

Nowhere did my statements assume this. My statements were gender and situationally neutral. You yourself have assumed this. Moron.

They weren't gender neutral at all

 

[White Baby]

I never made that statement anywhere. So again, you've been caught making up bullshit.

You give me a headache with your nonsense sometimes. So you're telling me none of the men you've fucked or married have used you for "future faking"? Because that seems like actual bullshit to any person who knows how the average man-thot works.

 

[Toasty]

They weren't gender neutral at all

Ok, you go ahead and quote me and show me where they weren't. I'll wait.

 

[LoverofPi]

Neither of my parents were Christians

Mel, you're trying to tell me that despite it being the majority denomination in the US, neither of your parents was a Christian? I suppose Christine is just talking out her ass then.

Inaccurate. 100% inaccurate.

Now who's stealing lines? But seriously, BPD is more commonly diagnosed in women. There is a push to reverse that trend, same as there is a push to reverse the trend of more men than women being diagnosed with NPD.

Don't you have other atheistic women to talk to? I'd like to see some new people on this thread. You're constant nagging is annoying.

Scored a touch. And don't blame me. If you stopped being so consistently wrong I wouldn't have to come in here with corrections. It's "your" in this case, on that subject.

I never made that statement anywhere. So again, you've been caught making up bullshit.


No, not at all. Exactly what I said. You make up narratives for your own narcissistic supply.

Mel, please stop misusing terms you do not understand. It's very frustrating and not very funny. Go back to telling us how viruses are a special type of matter that make you sick through their vibrational frequencies.

They weren't gender neutral at all

Wrong. Toasty's comments were entirely gender neutral. That you read gender into them is your own bias. This is why trying to lie when we have a record of what was said is a bad idea, Mel.
I mean lying in general is a bad idea, so hard to keep all the bullshit straight, but especially when you lie on a forum with a record.

 

[TamarYaelBatYah]

You give me a headache with your nonsense sometimes. So you're telling me none of the men you've fucked or married have used you for "future faking"? Because that seems like actual bullshit to any person who knows how the average man-thot works.

I left every single one of my exes.

Each of the guys that I was with wanted a long term relationship and/or marriage with me. I would never have sex with any guy who didn't say that up front. I've never had a one night stand or flings or hook ups.

 

[White Baby]

I left every single one of my exes.

Each of the guys that I was with wanted a long term relationship and/or marriage with me. I would never have sex with any guy who didn't say that up front. I've never had a one night stand or flings or hook ups.

Doubt.jpg but ok.

 

[TamarYaelBatYah]

suppose Christine is just talking out her ass then.

Who is Christine?

 

[ComedyEnjoyer]

Uh, like months ago

You aren't nearly interesting enough to follow outside your complaints which are very funny. Marshal cursing us to rot with pestilence was much more entertaining than the inane babble you flood this thread with about how you being a repulsive whore is 100% justified and Torah abiding.

 

[TamarYaelBatYah]

You aren't nearly interesting enough to follow outside your complaints which are very funny. Marshal cursing us to rot with pestilence was much more entertaining than the inane babble you flood this thread with about how you being a repulsive whore is 100% justified and Torah abiding.

Then why are you here?

Go find the videos and enjoy them.