"Current year" terms that piss you off

[Whoever]

"BAME". Suddenly everyone in the UK is using it, even right-wingers. I abhor the term "POC" but it's still better than "Blacks > Asians [Muslims] > all the other ~Minority Ethnics~"

 

[Marshal Mannerheim]

"BAME". Suddenly everyone in the UK is using it, even right-wingers. I abhor the term "POC" but it's still better than "Blacks > Asians [Muslims] > all the other ~Minority Ethnics~"

Anyone who says ”he's BAME” (pronounced bayme) is almost always a champagne socialist in my experience.

 

[Agarathium1066]

“*Laughs in <relevant noun here>*”

I’m not sure where this got started - I think in a parody meme of some subtitled VH1 confessional - but anyone who uses it instantly sounds like a retard. Boorish Twitter types love using it as a smug flex or one-up and I just hate it.

I think the first of this thing was someone stumbling over the old 'raughs/laughs in asian' meme. I doubt any of them realize it's based off of taking the piss out of engrish.

Someone uttering 'lived experience' makes me instantly log away what they're saying as identity charged garbage. I've yet to be wrong, I hope that some day it will go away.

 

[Petronella]

There's a lot of these. I'm grumpy.

Overuse of psychology buzzwords. Someone can't just be an asshole any more, they're "toxic" or a narcissist. Behavior you dislike is abuse, lying is gaslighting, minimizing your contact with someone is "gray rocking" or "going No Contact." (Also the ease with which people will advise other people to straight up cut all ties with family or leave a partner.)

When someone is telling a story and says something like "jump cut" or "fast forward" to indicate the passage of time. Or "spoiler alert" in reference to some sort of "twist" in their story/life.

I saw this more when I was frequenting TTC forums and such, but overuse of cutesy little acronyms or euphemisms. Sex becomes "sexytime" or "the baby dance," periods are "Aunt Flo," Baby Dust, DH/DD/DS, on and on. I think the one that makes my skin crawl the most is telling a woman pregnant after miscarriage(s) that you hope she has a "sticky baby."

Any sort of term intended to be gender neutral but ends up erasing women, eg "birth giver," "people with vaginas," "chest feeding."

In general, the quippy, overly dramatic way a lot of people speak these days. Everyone sounds like a Joss Whedon show instead of a normal person.

 

[Lapis Lazuli]

When people put question marks everywhere like??? This??????

Often found in Tumblr or Twitter circles.

 

[Marshal Mannerheim]

When people put question marks everywhere like??? This??????

Often found in Tumblr or Twitter circles.

Especially when those people use emoji question marks.

 

[Sperghetti]

I've always hated the phrase "*Insert group here*'s safety/lives over "insert group here*'s feelings" since it's used to shut down or deflect any dissenting opinion or criticism of their own beliefs because they know their own beliefs don't hold water.

Especially because in reality, “safety/lives” nearly always means the former group’s feelings.

I hate the conflation of comfort with safety. Being uncomfortable is not the same as being in actual, physical danger. (And if you commit suicide, that’s all you.)

 

[Mal0]

" ______ says ______ rights! "

It doesn't piss me off, it's just annoying. Especially if it's a character that has nothing to do with the subject matter they're trying to promote.

 

[Jason Wynn]

People who overuse ellipses. I see it constantly in text and it can be misinterpreted or misused so many ways. Are they using them to imply pauses or thought? Are they trying to indicate a break or segue? Are they annoyed? Ellipses don’t need to be used in texting, usually see older people doing this the most.

same thing with adding a billion emojis to your texts. It looks ridiculous, especially if you’re an adult still doing this. One of my friends does this, love her but it gets annoying having to filter out the actual message from the giant pile of emojis in each one

 

[Meat Target]

When people put question marks everywhere like??? This??????

Often found in Tumblr or Twitter circles.

People who overuse ellipses. I see it constantly in text and it can be misinterpreted or misused so many ways. Are they using them to imply pauses or thought? Are they trying to indicate a break or segue? Are they annoyed? Ellipses don’t need to be used in texting, usually see older people doing this the most.

same thing with adding a billion emojis to your texts. It looks ridiculous, especially if you’re an adult still doing this. One of my friends does this, love her but it gets annoying having to filter out the actual message from the giant pile of emojis in each one

Social media, texting, and their consequences have been a disaster for the English language.

A relative of mine is a college professor, and has told me of students who write their essays like they would texts, or with horridly incorrect punctuation.

 

[moocow]

A relative of mine is a college professor, and has told me of students who write their essays like they would texts, or with horridly incorrect punctuation.

And I'm willing to bet he gets bitched at if he dares mark them down for it, too.

Unbelievably, in my last stint in college a decade ago, students in an English class had the nerve to complain when the instructor marked them down. Like, openly, during class, in front of other students (who largely supported the complaining student). The instructor didn't cave (thankfully). I asked her about it after class one day, and she said it doesn't even surprise her anymore. She confided that she fully expected about half of the class to fail that semester because they're functionally illiterate. Note this was not a 100-level course.

 

[YMB]

Self-Care

It just sounds gay as fuck. I looked it up and apparently it's a term that's been around since the 70's but I never saw or heard anyone use it until recently in the past couple of years.

 

[Coffee Druid]

Self-Care

It just sounds gay as fuck. I looked it up and apparently it's a term that's been around since the 70's but I never saw or heard anyone use it until recently in the past couple of years.

I feel like "self-respect" could be a better term. Self care is a perfectly fine concept if it means taking adequate care of yourself and keeping good habits.

But I see it used in ways that mean it's okay to be selfish, lazy, to over indulge, or actually do bad habits. "Feeling a little down? Skip work, sleep all day, eat a large pizza. Self care!" Everything in moderation still.

 

[Michael Jacks0n]

"This isn't for you." -- RE: when anyone criticizes multimedia made by women, gays, nonwhites, etc.

First of all, every social media platform constantly shoves these songs, videos, movies, and shows down our throats by promoting the hell out of them and cramming our feeds with this garbage. If it's "not for us" [straight, white males], then why in the fuck are you so desperate at getting us to consume it?

Go to Spotify, and what happens? Your main page is no doubt a bunch of black artists with a prompt urging you to support black artists.

Go to Youtube's mobile app, and what happens? The main feed is all black and gay musicians with links urging you to follow black and gay artists.

On my Instagram feed, I keep seeing so many fucking promoted videos of unfunny female "comedians" like Lilly Singh and Amy Schumer, with the description telling me to support female artists with some cringy "how do you do, fellow kids!?" shit.

How many fucking times did they promote the hell out of Captain Marvel, Ghostbusters 2016, A Wrinkle in Time, Wonder Woman, or any other feminazi shit where the actors and people involved demanded you support stronk wahmen, or else you're a racist incel?

...that being said, clearly these movies/shows/musicians WERE for us [straight white men with wallets], apparently. If it's not made for us, then stop trying so hard to demand we consume it. If Lilly Singh's cringey jokes about being a nonwhite bisexual woman aren't funny for guys like me, then stop inserting her videos into my Youtube subscription feed no matter how many times I keep disliking them. I have absolutely no interest in LGBTBBQ+ content creators like the tea community or whatever the fuck (i.e. James Charles), so stop fucking showing me his videos in my search results when I'm looking for something else, and stop giving me random ads urging me to follow LGBTBBQ+ Youtubers.

Fuck off.

 

[Petronella]

Holy shit, can't believe I forgot this: everything is someone's "journey" now. I think a lot of this goes back to that overly dramatic, Whedon-y style of speaking that's so pervasive now. I can't just be trying to lose weight and get healthy, it's my "fitness journey."

 

[Meat Target]

"Allies". Anyone who says "you need to be an ally" just wants lackeys to do their will for them, whom they can abuse at their discretion.

The way "allies" get treated makes me glad to be a shitlord.

 

[The Last Stand]

The N-word now. It's in rap music, people sing along to it, say it while singing and people lose their shit. I get it's vulgar, but if it's in a song, if you don't want people to say it, then don't put it in the song.

That being said, it's going to come to a point where rap music may get "cancelled" because of its obscene lyrics. Then, it'll be trifling Black creativity or something. You know people want to cancel rap music, but it makes a lot of money.

White girls who USE it to sound "cute", when Black people use it, they sound ignorant. One slur shouldn't piss me off so much but it does. I don't see why White girls think being hip or Black is "cool."

Not just the history or intent behind it, but the inconsistency of how it's handled. Ghetto Black people (and occasionally the older demographic) use it interchangeably no problem. Another person in a different race says it, it's WW3.

Now, if I see or hear a White woman saying it, you're getting slapped on the ground.

 

[Marshal Mannerheim]

The N-word now. It's in rap music, people sing along to it, say it while singing and people lose their shit. I get it's vulgar, but if it's in a song, if you don't want people to say it, then don't put it in the song.

That being said, it's going to come to a point where rap music may get "cancelled" because of its obscene lyrics. Then, it'll be trifling Black creativity or something. You know people want to cancel rap music, but it makes a lot of money.

White girls who USE it to sound "cute", when Black people use it, they sound ignorant. One slur shouldn't piss me off so much but it does. I don't see why White girls think being hip or Black is "cool."

Not just the history or intent behind it, but the inconsistency of how it's handled. Ghetto Black people (and occasionally the older demographic) use it interchangeably no problem. Another person in a different race says it, it's WW3.

Now, if I see or hear a White woman saying it, you're getting slapped on the ground.

On that note;
”queer”.

 

[StarkRavingMad]

If anyone uses the term "my truth" unironically, then they are probably pathological liars.

The term, "influencer," is obnoxious.

And don't even get me started on slang like "tea" and "sis."

 

[Lapis Lazuli]

If anyone uses the term "my truth" unironically, then they are probably pathological liars.

The term, "influencer," is obnoxious.

And don't even get me started on slang like "tea" and "sis."

I thought I was the only one who hates the word "tea" and "sis" being used in the context of gossip. It sounds so gay.