Genesis 3:16 is a curse, not a command. It's not something to replicate, it's a punishment. Further, it is a curse given to Chavah and Adam, not all men and women. The "you" there is singular. As in, "you" Chavah.
Every nation that has oppressed women or silenced their views has eventually decayed and fallen away.
Now, usually people try to counter with something like "then why do women have pain in childbirth?". Look closer! It does NOT say that the punishment is "pain in childbirth". It says INCREASED pain in childbirth. Evil actions create hard childbirth labors for YHWH's people.
The Hebrew Bible is not patriarchal. That's a
historical reconstruction invented by Rabbinical Judaism and reinforced by Pauline Christianity and Catholicism.
The reason only Tamar and Bathsheba are listed in the genealogies of The Messiah are twofold: (1) Tamar and Bathsheba were not virgins. It is against The Torah to bring a bad name on a Virgin daughter of Israel (Deut. 22:19). Most of the women in ancient Israel married as Virgins. Their parents were expected to protect them in their parental houses until marriage. They didn't expose their daughters to go it alone in society. In order to protect the women their names were ommitted.
The absence of their names is not their lack of importance, it's for their protection.
Speaking against someone's wife is offensive and a sin in The Torah. There is a prohibition against Slander in The Torah. That is why it is written: "Many sins will be forgiven but blasphemy against The Ruach will not be forgiven". The Ruach is a female, the Wife of Elohim. You talk against her, you're toast.
(2) Second reason Tamar is mentioned: she lay with Judah. Reminding the reader that The Messiah came from Judah goes back to Jacob's prophecy in Genesis about his son Judah bringing in the Messianic line.
You're also wrong that there were no male concubines in The Hebrew Bible ("Old Testament" you call it)
Proof:
This paper is a companion to "Is Woman an 'Object' in The Torah?". It explores biblical deviations from marriages that involve love in The Hebrew Bible. The paper highlights the Hebrew terms Master-אדני, Baal-בעל and
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For more on what I said above you can read here. It's a lengthy topic, and the theme of my publicly published research:
"Gender Equality in The Torah"
"Is Woman an object in The Torah?"
I've accidentally have eaten things that have defiled my body. I used to celebrate X-mas. These sins are forgivable. The Torah says blood can atone for them. I claim the blood of The Messiah as my Atonement
This paper is a response to an article written by Jews for Judaism entitled "Leviticus 17:11". The article questions the validity of Yahushua’s death as a sin sacrifice. In this paper I will defend the position that the death and blood of
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My children love me in return. They tell me. They show me by their actions.
My 5 year old runs around telling me I'm the "best mom ever". My 14 year old told me "mom, if everyone was like you the world would be a better place". Children SEE.
The key part there is: "harmony in the same abode(s) together". I believe a married couple can be also a LAT couple as long as the intent is made clear: "I'm going to house A for 3 days because you are being a jerk.".
Both people communicate and agree to maintain Monogamy. Separations aren't used for silent treatment, ghosting or infidelity.
My situation with Marshall is COMPLICATED. I have huge moral dilemmas I am facing. Life choices I have to make. Children are involved. Financial issues are involved. It's not an easy answer! Everytime I make a choice, Marshall bargains. He's really really good at saying sorry. We also have a lot of sexual chemistry. All these factors. Not easy!
But my 5 year Shidduch anniversary with Marshall is coming in July. Can't believe it's been 5 years already. But I told myself that I have to decide for good by then. No more going back and forth with telling him I'm leaving/abandoning the Covenant after that. Either I stay for good, reach a point of acceptance and find a way to live with him, our differences and all. Or I go for good to live in peace with the positive and potentially negative consequences of my choice.
Like, you want to be my male concubine? Or you're an ex of mine?
The way some of you come at me, I gotta wonder! LoL