The unfortunate reality for these kids that Kev and his gang of groomers is that if they do fall into this cult that they will never have a normal relationship in their life.
Like all cults, the cult leaders hide reality behind vague, cryptic language by distorting and changing the meaning of words such that it differs significantly from what a normal person would understand.
For instance, "I am dating so many people" implies to the normal person that Kevylnn was out at the mall or whatever and some handsome man came up and asked him out on a date, or that Kevlynn has a cute little match.com account and has been on a few first dates and has a nice little collection of numbers for second dates. As everyone here knows, this is not only laughably far from the truth, it is painfully and cringe-worthily far from the truth.
"Maybe if you're not t4t" is the closest thing to a true statement that Kevylnn has ever made, because this is the true reality of the situation. Women gay or straight want nothing to do with you and the only men you are going to get are fetishists who will never give you a stable, long-lasting, fulfilling relationship.
"Mostly polyam" is also part of the bait-and-switch. Normal people don't want to be passed around like a used tissue paper in order to have a fulfilling relationship. Even swingers only really do it for the sex, but go home to a "mono-romantic" lifestyle.
So the lie that is told to groom kids is "It's easy enough to find love after transitioning" when the reality is "as long as you are willing to live in a sex commune and have no prospect of a long-term, fulfilling relationship with anyone; The sex will be awkward and weird as you will mostly be a for-free prostitute for the cult hierarchy; and by the way that "love" you were promised only exists as a social construct ".