I agree, it is a lie. And they always tells us that mr right will come when you stop searching or looking for him. Not true. They lie to us because they dont want to tell us the truth. And the truth is that the gay community is ugly, shallow and full of assholes. If you arent rich, ripped and white your chances for getting a man who looks like chris Hemsworth or a man like michael fassbender are very very VERY slim. Thats the truth.
@S G The attractive, wealthy, and famous gay men have a hard time too. Look at Wentworth Miller, one of the most gorgeous, sensitive, introspective men there are. I'd venture to bet a lot of his depression has come from the little the gay community has to offer...besides sex, drugs, drinking, etc (which he even expressed). So many "attractive" gay guys wind up porn stars, escorts, and z-list models sucking dick for new gigs. With this being said...I do think things are changing. As the culture shifts towards acceptance, more gay men will probably be more comfortable to express themselves, come out, and perhaps seek genuine bonds with other gay males, romantic and platonic.
Loneliness isn’t something new nor a “gay epidemic”, it’s life. Everyone has been brainwashed to believe from an early age that we’re social animals who are meant to be straight who coupled up with someone of the opposite sex as young adults, get a job, married, mortgage and family, then grow old and die!
However, there’s people like me who know that they are different at a young age, then comes the depressions of trying to live up to expectations of our upbringing but failing big time, again that’s life until you alone decide what is your truth.
I’m gay and I’m proud of me, and honestly I don’t support the current rainbow brigade because the LGBT doesn’t represent me and they are full of crap!
Loneliness is a gay thing and never was, it’s a state of mind that affects not just humans but animals too, ask your local zoo about it. And for some strange reason, society has brainwashed people to believe that loneliness is a dirty word and a bad thing, is it though?
In my almost half a century on this Earth, the times that I have felt lonely has been when I tried to be part of the London gay scene, mixing with others who were supposedly my peers but in actual fact the most miserable bunch of sheep when sober, and yeah, I said it!
If one was into Kylie, suddenly the rest follow suit and it was all about who can out camp the other or pull the most guys,
the gay scene was about being superficial, and I don’t operate that way, which is apparently typical for Aquarians.
Having gay friends weren’t easy for me nor them as I represented their true reality, and I felt so lonely then because I found I had nothing in common with them,
and I felt bullied by them because I didn’t drink much and never copped off with anyone at the end of the night, didn’t take drugs or partake in anything that was part of the gay scene, which in my eye were negative things.
And it didn’t help that I was and still am adamant that this thing called the “gay lifestyle” is a big, massive myth. There’s no such thing as a “gay lifestyle” as there’s no such thing as a “straight lifestyle”, it’s just called a lifestyle, end off!
You don’t get bonuses, even tax rebates and/or money deducted from your bills, rents and groceries for being gay, they don’t care whose in your bed as long as you pay on time.
And honestly, this gay scene business is soul-destroying, people trying to be something that doesn’t exist, and it hurts a lot of people who feel that they don’t have what they think is expected off them, which is sad.
There’s more gay people committing suicide than any other group, but the tragedy is that the gay scene doesn’t care, I’ve seen it over the years and it’s a tragic shame. Believe it or not, a gay person’s worst enemy is another gay person.
For once, I just wished there were gay people out there who are happy to be their own person and an individual.
I don’t know why as a proud gay person in myself I didn’t get caught up in the London gay scene and occasionally I do get to talk to young gay people who’ve just came out or are thinking of coming out and I encourage them to be themselves and to do things that’s right for themselves.
I don’t want them to experience their first sexual encounter being sexually abused, as myself and a lot of people of my generation had been put through.
(And sadly still, a lot of young gay people still believe going to public toilets or known cruising grounds is the way forward, but it isn’t. I’d tried to help this young guy out about 15 years ago and he wanted to have his first gay sexual experience and I’d tried to advise him to wait until he’d found someone that he could trust and he wanted it to be me, but I wanted to be his friend, I’ve never and will never sleep with someone just for the sake of it, I know what I want for me.
He understood that but got too impatient and so decided to go to some cruising ground in Margate, where you’d lived and the following day the police found his battered body, he was only 19. Three men had tricked him into going with them and he was beaten to death and sodomised by objects, by three big anti gay thugs!)
For years I felt guilty for his tragic death and had wished that I had been flexible and had sex with him, perhaps then he’ll still be alive, but I was being his friend, someone that he could confide in and that was all, I never promised him sex and/or relationship, he knew where he stood with me, I was just his older gay friend nothing more, but I guess it’s generally human nature to feel so guilty over something so devastatingly and tragically cruel that we couldn’t prevent;
in life you can only give your own personal opinion and advise the person, sometimes through your own experience, but at the end of the day, that person that you are talking with, if they are an adult they have free will and is going to do what they want, whether you approve or not.
It’s their own decision, even when they know that there are so much evil out there.
By no means am I saying that it was my friend’s fault that he’d was so sadly robbed of his life, I just wished that the gay scene wasn’t so egotistical and more diverse to accept EVERYONE, regardless of the way you look, your body shape or the size of your penis!
This is the thing with gay men, nobody will admit how intimidating and negative the gay scene is on the inside and you’re gay. My murdered friend wasn’t a big guy, in actual fact he was only around 5ft 4” and very slim and he was mildly mentally challenged, but he was still a functioning human being but he never felt comfortable in gay venues because of the unfriendliness he felt in those places, and I get what he means because of my own experience.
I know that I’m not an attractive guy, and give me a few drinks and I’m chatting and laughing with everyone, but on many occasions in gay venues, even with gay friends I had at the time, I would be having a great time and there maybe a stranger by us and I would be friendly to the stranger to get them involve as they’re laughing at the jokes with us, but they will just blank me by walking off as if I’ve tried to pull them, which I wasn’t, I was just being friendly, and I’ve even had them tell me not to talk to them as I was ugly.
I just thanked them and carried on laughing with my mates, but gradually I had to stop trying to be friendly with strangers because it would cause fights between those spiteful individuals with my mates because they would get upset over it whereas I’m just happy to carry on.
Yeah it’s horrible being treated like that, but I just let it go because life is too short.
And it’s never the lesbians of any of the other people from the rainbow spectrum who are rude to me, it’s always the gay and the funny thing is, they’ve not been my type in the first place. Ive also been the butt of the joke, about 5 times that I know of, I was an innocent party of a group betting war of friends betting on each other who can pull the ugliest person, which I find quite funny because of the fact that I’m very old fashion when it comes to dating, I won’t even kiss on the first date! LOL
Honestly, if I had the money, I would create a place for those “misfits”, like myself, to come and socialise without decimation, where everybody can feel safe and free to be themselves, although I must admit, those shallow good looking people that has the personality of a gnat will not be welcome because my venue would be about individuals who want to make real connection, not sheep who want to grow their little black book of conquest.
Trust people, you can be gay and happy, when you stop trying to be a sheep.
Seriously, be more like myself and be proud to be an ugly old and individual gay person, it’s so freeing and less stressful
People who choose to use platforms like grindr have a serious issue. They are the most shallow, the craziest, and entitled. And those GOOD men who go on there run fast after a couple of hours, and sometimes minutes.
Good men dont date online because they know there is nothing but trash on there. And the fact of the matter is... There is nothing but trash there. You wont find a decent man in a whore house and grindr and online dating attracts a specific type of person; aka: a-hole
The issues are quite complex. The part where the author cited a survey saying 90% of gay men want a tall, young, white, muscular, and masculine man is pretty much dead on. If you're in shape, successful, and over 40 you can forget about finding someone with the same characteristics. They all want 25 year olds. And all of the gay friends I have who talked and talked about having a family over the years; none of them actually did it. None.
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