Based on my irl observations, most gay dudes that hang out with other gay dudes are more likely to be normies who's interests include clubbing, pop music, fitness and shit like that, and the gay dudes who don't act like that just do their own thing. and having hung out in this scene, the guys are often completive with each other, especially when it comes to stuff like personal appearence, and troons who are used to twitter hugboxing can't handle that shit I know that's stereotyping a bit, but I've been around enough to observe it in real life a few times. a basement dwelling ftm who's entire knowledge of gay people comes from yaoi and bad fanfic isn't gonna be able to fit in in such an environment, and probably won't cause it destroys their idolized image of gay men. I've noticed a trend of people of troons online attacking gay men and saying they are the "worst part of the lgbt community" and they are "privileged" or whatever, and I think this is pushback cause gay men so far haven't had their culture destroyed by troon shit yet the way lesbians have