Keep in mind Phil was having what essentially amounted to dates with Aireaidlord, has a LOT of gay/ambiguous dudes in the inner circle, acted like a jilted lover around Rhamboe when he wasn't paying attention to him, made weird passes at him and drunk late night apologies... There's also the whole "suddenly insecure and looking for validation about his looks" thing he does when he knows his chat is 100% a sausagefest...
We had been laughing at him for a year over this, and his obvious closet queen tendencies when he talked to some Lauren chick on twitter. Of course, we laughed at that too! Damn, Phil, cheating on poor Khat like that. You're MARRIED, dood! But in his words, he's not Mike Pence. So he can talk to real women, but if Badbunny comes to cloutchase he just stoically ignores her.
He is a closet queen, he just doesn't know what to do to play it off like he isn't. Craddlerobbing a nympho for cooking and cleaning and ew don't show me your vagina is exactly what a gay man wanting to appear straight would do, if he was clueless. Panda didn't mention just not getting fucked as much as she'd like, it was more along the lines of not getting fucked at all. Phil's job was streaming. They could have easily been fucking 3 to 5 times a day, and she was almost always eager.
It's just the two sides of the coin. First was George Takei trying to appear straight out of family guy: mmmm bob and vagene, love it. Now it's a kid trying to appear mature and still straight. Keep in mind Phil made a point of debunking this theory by saying he has nice romance with Kat. Implications that they do a two pumper on his day off, but I kind of don't buy it. Kat's a pretty good beard at least.
Look, Panda would have sent him spicy texts and wanted to hear what he was gonna do to her. She was pretty damn horny, and she was the type to send spicy pictures. Phil must have lied his ass off to seal the deal. In contrast he now incorporates some elements of the lore he fed Kat, that he was a sad spiralling alcoholic in his daily woe is me segments. "I was just drinking way too much, man!" As opposed to the refined gin chugging sessions he has nowadays. His beard deal with Kat is one he can easily uphold, and his "ewwww teets and cooch ew ew ewwwwwww" approach is an easier, more natural one for him. He doesn't feel the need to reassert himself as very straight any more.
Further proof, back when SynthOvine was around, and he was a kinneticut fgc member who really knew Phil, he confirmed that Panda was his first known liaison. Before that, he brought no girls to events, and didn't seem to talk to any either. Plus you only need to take one look at his greasy, stuck polish plait to tell that this man doesn't wash, and a man who doesn't wash isn't fucking.
It's an unwashed man, who has been sus around dudes, living with his lovely supermodel-but-fat wife who spends 90% of her spare time in her room or at the Jim. I've seen convictions with less evidence.