Age Gap Relationships - You can't stop me from doing your grandma... but I'll stop myself, because I respect you

[Shadfan666xxx000]

Around that age I was in a similar situation with a girl who was 5-6 years older than me (and was also above me in my company) who was very actively interested, and she looked young for her age, she got a fair bit of attention from other guys too because she was pretty extroverted and admittedly had a kickin butt.

I wasn't really comfortable with the idea though because the concept of getting involved with an assertive older women seemed suspect to me, like there was going to be Freudian stuff going on there and it was going to turn it into some kind of weird codependent mother/big sister deal that wouldn't really be healthy for anyone involved in the long run.
I wasn't sure if I was just being cynical though.

Thankfully your story has confirmed to me that I was almost definitely correct as to how it would've turned out, and probably made the wise choice.

There isn't anything wrong with being with older women casually, it's just that if the younger guy is a little insecure or doesn't know what he's doing she'll absolutely turn him into a lapdog and he's probably never going to develop into an independent man.

I can get that for someone twice your age (older women are the best wingmen you can get) but an age gap of 5 years isn't that bad for you. If anything, at your age it's a major boon and it wouldn't stop you from being dominant at all.

 

[Darkholme's Dungeon]

I think it takes a certain level of maturity to accept advice from people with more life experience than you [...]In the end, the age thing just means that you have more experience and can somewhat help them more because you went through most situations first.

In his defense, some advice is not applicable to the opposite sex. But even if you listen to advice you should be thinking if it's applicable to you and how. Of course, there's the obvious advice you should take regardless like "Don't snort crack all day" unless you're Hunter Biden or some rich idiot with more money than sense.

I can get that for someone twice your age (older women are the best wingmen you can get) but an age gap of 5 years isn't that bad for you. If anything, at your age it's a major boon and it wouldn't stop you from being dominant at all.

Anything within 7 is pretty normal in my opinion.

I wish there was more data on the success of age-gap relationships. They obviously aren't identical in terms of dynamics. My aunt was a decade older than my uncle, but she really fucked up by divorcing him at 47 over minor shit like how he cooked. He's remarried and she's been spiraling ever since my cousin refuses to interact with her over the divorce.

 

[XANA]

Honestly, I think it's a case-by-case basis, just like high school sweethearts that either get married and stay married for a long time or have a dysfunctional relationships. That is not to say that old/middle-aged people getting together with people who barely turned 18 aren't worthy of being side-eyed.

Older boy/girlfriends tend to be more successful and stable in life as opposed to someone fresh out of college. Maybe they have advice. Younger boy/girlfriends can bring a spark of life that will pull the other out of a daily routine (eg: help them discover new hobbies, give them a change of scenery, etc.). Of course, you have the occasional person who is waiting for the other to die in order to inherit their assets. Maybe larger age gap relationships can work out if both parties are willing to work with each other and are obvious about where they expect the relationship to go/what they can expect out of the other person.

Opposites attract, but not in terms of personalities. This goes regardless if age gaps are close together or further apart.

 

[Clarence Big Boss]

As long as both of you are at the legal age of consent where you live. And if the other person isnt more than 10+ years, then its fine to me. I just think its bizarre to date someone who's old enough to be your mom or dad. Unless if you're both over 50 years old. Then I guess its okay, because youre both just old at that point.

 

[Johnny Eastwood cash]

Why should I care