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Out of curiosity is it the r/DuggarsSnark that you have in mind?
Trainwreck Alex Dacy / Alex Dzimtowicz / Wheelchair Rapunzel - 50% wholesome disability influencer, 50% that cash me outside girl
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Nope, One is r/Mauricemandy and the other is r/peoplebetrippin both are for past members of the show Love After Lockup. They both went from funny subreddits to actually stalking. I’m guessing the Duggar snark isn’t much better?
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Have you all been sipping the kool-aid twerk juice? ![:\](/styles/custom/emotes/svg/chris-confused.svg "Confused :\")
I see delusion here. "Thank golly I've had no serious complications!" While in and out of the hospital, on breathing support, gestational diabetes.... And then proceeds to talk about the 8 million medical people and shit-ton of medical care required to make this happen. And that's before we even get to talking about or taking care of the baby.
Classic entitled cow.
And does Noah work?
*"probably definitely not a good idea" =/= no. Not even close to a no.
Her judgment is terrible, her self-awareness in this baby thing is absent, and she's a disaster waiting to happen having/for kids - all reasons to drop a promo with someone. If we're talking baby/preg products, an irresponsible person seems flatly stupid. And like it or not, being married matters to a lot of brands, and a lot of consumers when it comes to promoting mother/baby.new mother-type stuff. No doubt some low-level person in promos got the OK for Alex initially as "cool disabled pregnant gurl," hitting the diversity buttons with an attractive advocate. But a closer look reveals taking serious drugs not advised for pregnancy (oopsie!), and other things including a cavalier ("Noah and I handle my challenges by a lot of laughter, tee-hee, and also my great pregnancy poops! Can't wait to adopt a dozen kids, bc my mom will handle it!") attitude toward parenting and health. She may be a "warrior*," but she's very childish. Shit got real but she doesn't really get it.
*God knows I'm not sure I'd have the pluck she's had, so no snark there. But idgaf loses charm when it fucks up everyone else's lives, too (not just the baby; I feel for her parents.
I see delusion here. "Thank golly I've had no serious complications!" While in and out of the hospital, on breathing support, gestational diabetes.... And then proceeds to talk about the 8 million medical people and shit-ton of medical care required to make this happen. And that's before we even get to talking about or taking care of the baby.
Classic entitled cow.
And does Noah work?
But she thinks that more babies (including but not limited to being carried by her*) are a possibility. More than a possibility. She thinks they can reasonably raise 4 children.
*"probably definitely not a good idea" =/= no. Not even close to a no.
Her judgment is terrible, her self-awareness in this baby thing is absent, and she's a disaster waiting to happen having/for kids - all reasons to drop a promo with someone. If we're talking baby/preg products, an irresponsible person seems flatly stupid. And like it or not, being married matters to a lot of brands, and a lot of consumers when it comes to promoting mother/baby.new mother-type stuff. No doubt some low-level person in promos got the OK for Alex initially as "cool disabled pregnant gurl," hitting the diversity buttons with an attractive advocate. But a closer look reveals taking serious drugs not advised for pregnancy (oopsie!), and other things including a cavalier ("Noah and I handle my challenges by a lot of laughter, tee-hee, and also my great pregnancy poops! Can't wait to adopt a dozen kids, bc my mom will handle it!") attitude toward parenting and health. She may be a "warrior*," but she's very childish. Shit got real but she doesn't really get it.
*God knows I'm not sure I'd have the pluck she's had, so no snark there. But idgaf loses charm when it fucks up everyone else's lives, too (not just the baby; I feel for her parents.
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I think the person who originally suggested sterilization intended it more as "removing the machinery" than just "boarding up the factory" if you catch my drift. I don't know why she wouldn't just do that anyway. Periods are gross, inconvenient and painful, especially as we get closer to menopause. I can't imagine being so incapacitated that someone else has to change my sanitary items - I would be mortified and probably physically uncomfortable. I realize that Alex is used to people having to do these things for her but why put yourself (and your caregivers) through the hell of periods every month when you theoretically don't have to. I realize that anesthesia is complicated with her issues so I suppose I understand to a point why they never did it but it would have been the compassionate thing to do for her, especially given what we know now.
And my apologies for asking this because I'm sure it's been discussed and I didn't see it but how much feeling does she have from the chest down? Would she be able to feel if she went into preterm labor?
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I did say nothing is foolproof, but the vasectomy failure rate is less than one percent. It’s as good as you’ll get, and if it’s going to fail, it’s the first year. IF she was truly done having kids, then this would be the best bet.
That’s a good question about periods. They are messy and annoying, if I were a disabled person who couldn’t do personal hygiene, I’d opt for a way to eliminate them entirely, something that would avoid general anesthesia. Endometrial ablation w/a paracervical block would be my choice.
That’s a good question about periods. They are messy and annoying, if I were a disabled person who couldn’t do personal hygiene, I’d opt for a way to eliminate them entirely, something that would avoid general anesthesia. Endometrial ablation w/a paracervical block would be my choice.
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Yeah, they're also nuts. Someone from the sub decided to go to the Josh Duggar trial cause she lived close by and give live updates. But by the evening of the first day of trial the reality of what she had gotten herself into hit her like a ton of bricks and instead of giving an update she deleted her account. Then the sub panicked and wondered what had happened to her. A few days later she created a new account and said that she had gone silent because she got emotionally distressed after experiencing the trial. No shit, what did you think would happen?!
Back to Alex. She had a lung function check and she's at the same capacity she was at 16 weeks.
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This comment on reddit caught my eye. Uh oh. This doesn't bode well for baby.
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Intellectually competent disabled people usually don't choose to be sterilized because they want to be as normal as possible under the circumstances. Also, forced sterilization is an ugly part of disability rights history. Coerced sterilization still exists, aimed at not only the disabled but also the mentally ill and certain minorities associated with high-risk pregnancy and addiction. Powerlevel - I had a gyno try to talk me into sterilizing myself at 25. She listed off benefits such as no more periods and no need for birth control.
I guess I just have a different perspective on the whole sterilization issue. I won't say it 'triggers' me, but it does give me an uncomfortable feeling. I see it as if people are advocating for taking away the right to choose from others who deserve to make their own decisions, including ones that end up being mistakes.
I guess I just have a different perspective on the whole sterilization issue. I won't say it 'triggers' me, but it does give me an uncomfortable feeling. I see it as if people are advocating for taking away the right to choose from others who deserve to make their own decisions, including ones that end up being mistakes.
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she has no issues with sensation, her disorder is solely to do with her muscles not working
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I think it would have been most sensible for Alex to have had a mirena or a contraceptive Implant but it is her choice as a competent adult and we don't get to choose for her or demand to know why she didn't choose that.
I suspect the reason is she was broody and wanted to get accidentally pregnant.
She's just an ordinary dumb stupid girl who makes dumb stupid choices and happens to have a withered twisted body. Sorry a beautiful SEXY disabled SEXY sex having body.
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No one is saying it’s being forced. I was simply saying if she was done having kids, her best bet would be for Noah to get a vasectomy. Her being pregnant is dangerous, but she should be free to do what she wants, though it is going to come at a terrible price.
You don’t think that maybe there are some of us here as well who are disabled too? No offense but you’re definitely projecting. I 100 percent believe in autonomy for everyone no matter if it’s a bad choice or not.
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Well, that's nice, but the mistake that's being made here is the creation of children. Young human beings who need care, but will probably end up caring for their parents instead, or at best, being extremely neglected. I've seen multiple women have children because it was their 'right' to do so. Actually taking care of those children? That fell to someone else, if someone could, but often the kids end up raising themselves, and are preyed upon, exploited, and in general start their lives with a huge deficit. Even loving, attentive parents can become sick or injured, and what starts as a good life ends up going to shit.
I know people who pride themselves on raising their children despite adversity. Some of them are rightly so; many of them, however, created that adversity themselves. On one of my support groups a couple weeks ago, for instance, there was a stupid, stupid woman who was complaining about the selfishness of her own mother. This woman wanted to 'become a single parent by choice' however, as this woman couldn't even care for herself, her mother would have to both care for her and raise her baby, as well as, incidentally, care for this woman's declining grandfather. Naturally, the mother was declining to pay her daughter's in vitro costs as well as sign up for spending the rest of her life raising someone else's children. And this woman thought her mother was selfish. It was one of the most disgusting things I've seen for quite some time. There are many mothers in this support group, and multiple times a day there are posts about them melting down, being hospitalised, abusing their children through neglect and emotional breakdowns. Some of them did not realise they were suffering from these conditions before they had children, and these I have deep empathy for. But many of them did, and they had children anyway, because 'muh rights'. Fuck those women. I wish there was an afterlife, so they could burn in it.
Just because you can do something, does not mean you should. And that includes having children if you can't take care of the bloody things.
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I just thought of something. Has Alex thought of the possibility of PPD? Women without pre-existing MH disorders experience PPD and it can be really rough. Women tend to not speak up about it. She should have a support plan in place and Noah is not a good support system whatsoever
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Hopefully she has maybe an after birth doula or some kind of support like that. I would imagine when the baby is here and the reality of what she got herself into sets into, PPD is going to hit her like a ton of bricks.
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I hope she does have a support system. PPD is brutal. I struggled a LOT with both of mine. I do hope she and the baby are well after the c section, and that the baby keeps cooking till it’s time to evict. And maybe this will be a wake up call for her to not get pregnant again.
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Right, and it just happens, and it's perfectly normal to struggle with. If regular people have a difficult time with it, Alex will certainly have a much harder time because she doesn't have anyone to really help her. Parents, sure. A mentally ill partner? Can't be relied on. I'm actually worried that Noah is going to get really pissed off about how much attention the baby needs. BPD is all about needing validation, unstable relationships and erratic moods. Add in a baby and wheeeww boy.
There's a reason shaken baby syndrome is a thing. Sometimes, babies do cry a lot, for no reason. Add in the stress and sleep deprivation and that's what happens. A moment of frustration can lead to a lifetime of brain damage. Most people should just simply walk away and let the baby cry and take a few minutes for themselves. A mentally unstable person is not going to think rationally like that, nevermind the whole addiction thing which adds another horrible layer to this thing.
Drugs are going to be a priority, not a child. Addiction does that.
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If she develops postnatal depression (or worse, psychosis) at least she can be classified as essentially safe from harm to self or baby because she won't be able to physically off herself or baby.
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She could od on the Paxil. She could have Noah bring her drugs. Who knows. But I know what you’re saying.
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Alex shouldn't have put herself in the position she's in - I 100% agree with that and have said so previously. She doesn't have the luxury of doing motherhood this way and expecting it to go well because of her condition. She is immature and did something stupid that may create many, many problems for herself and others. That doesn't mean I could justify taking her autonomy away in my own mind. If she were to decide one baby attempt is enough and that her body isn't meant for carrying children, and I think she should consider this, then her looking into options to prevent that going forward would be ideal.
I'm overly sensitive on this particular topic, and I admit that. Part of it comes from knowing some awesome disabled parents, ones who have supportive partners and made long-term plans ahead of time. Alex is not that sort of person and has already started the process without forethought. So far, she's not showing signs of becoming responsible, but maybe she'll get there? I hope she proves everyone wrong; I'd love to see a happy outcome against the odds.
The other part is that this is personal. I had been diagnosed with a serious mental illness and went to my gyno, not to discuss that - Because why would I? - but to talk about my heavy periods. She had spoken with my psych team beforehand and suggested endometrial ablation, burning away my uterus lining. It's used to lessen monthly bleeding but is only suitable for someone who never intends to become pregnant. She said I'd have to be sterilized as well. Or, I could have a hysterectomy. No other options were offered, no tests were done, just these two procedures or nothing. I was 25 and in a relationship, in psych treatment, educated, and financially stable.
Her exact words were "You shouldn't be getting pregnant, so this will solve both problems". I refused, not because I wanted to have a baby at that time, and I haven't had any since because I do understand I'm not a suitable candidate for motherhood for various reasons, but because I wanted to keep my organs intact and that's not someone else's choice to make for me. Right or wrong, this experience makes me uneasy whenever I hear talk about taking away another woman's choice.
I'm overly sensitive on this particular topic, and I admit that. Part of it comes from knowing some awesome disabled parents, ones who have supportive partners and made long-term plans ahead of time. Alex is not that sort of person and has already started the process without forethought. So far, she's not showing signs of becoming responsible, but maybe she'll get there? I hope she proves everyone wrong; I'd love to see a happy outcome against the odds.
The other part is that this is personal. I had been diagnosed with a serious mental illness and went to my gyno, not to discuss that - Because why would I? - but to talk about my heavy periods. She had spoken with my psych team beforehand and suggested endometrial ablation, burning away my uterus lining. It's used to lessen monthly bleeding but is only suitable for someone who never intends to become pregnant. She said I'd have to be sterilized as well. Or, I could have a hysterectomy. No other options were offered, no tests were done, just these two procedures or nothing. I was 25 and in a relationship, in psych treatment, educated, and financially stable.
Her exact words were "You shouldn't be getting pregnant, so this will solve both problems". I refused, not because I wanted to have a baby at that time, and I haven't had any since because I do understand I'm not a suitable candidate for motherhood for various reasons, but because I wanted to keep my organs intact and that's not someone else's choice to make for me. Right or wrong, this experience makes me uneasy whenever I hear talk about taking away another woman's choice.