Trainwreck Alex Dacy / Alex Dzimtowicz / Wheelchair Rapunzel - 50% wholesome disability influencer, 50% that cash me outside girl

[often puzzled]

Alex turns 30 in a week and continues to pretend to be maternal, but she does it very badly. Ari isn't falling for it, because kids can tell what's up. Noah is looking awfully thin, which hopefully isn't connected to Adderall.

Spoiler: Ari on stories

Still from video I neglected to download. Alex was yelling "hi tewwwwwts" (toots) through the window. As you can see in the still, Ari continued to play and ignored Alex.



Ooooh, Ari's gonna have a stubborn streak; look at that face! Anyway, Alex has revived Ari's Instagram account. I don't pull much from it, because it really just is pictures of Ari, and Alex generally puts them on her own account as well.



He's really thin.

Spoiler: Brooke gets MATI

Brooke B. needs to have a gravy and calm down.







But maybe Alex could try not being such a bitch?

Spoiler: misc

Proof of life for Cairo, who is clearly enjoying the sun. Unlike practically everyone else with a thread here, Alex does appear to take care of pets. She had another dog for a long time, who eventually passed away after a long and happy life.

Spoiler: grid post and video

Post:



Video:

Alex yells at Ari. Ari ignores her and crawls off toward Noah. I was interested that Alex is plainly surprised to see that Ari's pants have a heart on the seat. This supports my personal theory that Grandma Smith does most of the clothes shopping:

Spoiler: mother of the year

Ari is trying to go down for the night; Alex growls and makes random noises at her and then wonders why she won't go to sleep. Alex has apparently never been around children in her life-- seriously, I'm not talking about not having babysitting experience or whatever, she just honestly appears to treat children as a species she's never previously encountered. It's odd.

Alex never fed Ari when she was small but has been trying to get video of herself doing it lately. Ari is already old enough to want to feed herself, and she's not interested in Alex trying to give her a bottle. You can hear the frustration in Alex's voice at the end, when she basically tells the cameraman "CUT!"

Spoiler: garage talks

There was more from the garage, selfies and video. None of the rest was really worth preserving. I love how she casually mentions that she eats in the garage. The Smiths must be so sick of her, but at least this proves how much they're willing to tolerate for Ari's sake.

NOAH WATCH: present and thin. Ari really adores him, so I hope he's okay. I don't like the dude, but Ari sure does.

 

[Flourishing Pinecone ❧]

The bottle feeding was so stupid, Ari doesn't need a bottle, and if she wanted one for comfort she could hold it herself.

For people who raised babies, is it normal for your kid to just straight up constantly ignore you? I get that Ari wants to explore and is enjoying playing by herself these days, so she might be ignoring Alex cos she's absorbed in other things. But it always seems like she just doesn't register her voice.

 

[TismFarmer]

The bottle feeding was so stupid, Ari doesn't need a bottle, and if she wanted one for comfort she could hold it herself.

For people who raised babies, is it normal for your kid to just straight up constantly ignore you? I get that Ari wants to explore and is enjoying playing by herself these days, so she might be ignoring Alex cos she's absorbed in other things. But it always seems like she just doesn't register her voice.

The only ones I had who straight up ignored me like that are very autistic. That isn't Ari's issue though, she just doesn't see the point in Alex. I notice Noahs is reading to her in one photo, I wonder if Alex ever does anything like that? It doesn't seem so...

 

[everybody in Portugal]

The only ones I had who straight up ignored me like that are very autistic. That isn't Ari's issue though, she just doesn't see the point in Alex. I notice Noahs is reading to her in one photo, I wonder if Alex ever does anything like that? It doesn't seem so...

Of course she doesn't see the point.. she's WAY too young to understand how fulfilling keeping houseplants can be.

 

[glass_houses]

The only ones I had who straight up ignored me like that are very autistic. That isn't Ari's issue though, she just doesn't see the point in Alex. I notice Noahs is reading to her in one photo, I wonder if Alex ever does anything like that? It doesn't seem so...

Ari could be scared of Alex, too. Not because Alex has hurt her, but because to a tiny bub, the twisted, shrieking creature in the giant moving chair could easily be seen as monstrous. Little kids are scared of the weirdest things; I was terrified of a kind and gentle grand aunt who adored me, because she had incredibly sunken eyes in her old age, the poor woman.

 

[Pudgy Bear Claws]

The bottle feeding was so stupid, Ari doesn't need a bottle, and if she wanted one for comfort she could hold it herself.

For people who raised babies, is it normal for your kid to just straight up constantly ignore you? I get that Ari wants to explore and is enjoying playing by herself these days, so she might be ignoring Alex cos she's absorbed in other things. But it always seems like she just doesn't register her voice.

I can only speak of my own kiddo, but he was always happy to interact with me no matter what was going on. Maybe there was a time or two that I'm not remembering but I really can't recall any time he just straight up ignored me if I was nearby or talking to him (well, until he hit his teen years).

I know Alex is attempting to hold the bottle so she can mumble about what an awesome disabled mom she is but normally Ari should be encouraged to mostly feed herself and hold her own bottle by now.

 

[LonesomeDud]

Christ where do you even start with that. Alex that is just paying someone to be your friend who wipes your ass. No one wants that. No caregiver wants that, no friend wants that. Super weird.

Homies help homies, and it isn't a hugely big deal to help your disabled friend with an ADL. You probably wouldn't think twice for a real friend. It's just Alex. She's the problem. She's dislikable.

As for old Noah, he looks like he has the sort of leanness you get from massive amounts of cardio. Seems fine.

 

[glass_houses]

Homies help homies, and it isn't a hugely big deal to help your disabled friend with an ADL. You probably wouldn't think twice for a real friend. It's just Alex. She's the problem. She's dislikable.

I'll admit to having cleaned up some nasty biohazards for sick friends/family/work over the years, but I've never had to wipe anyone who wasn't a bub or toddler.

 

[Flourishing Pinecone ❧]

I'll admit to having cleaned up some nasty biohazards for sick friends/family/work over the years, but I've never had to wipe anyone who wasn't a bub or toddler.

Wait until your parents start ageing

(if that sad emoticon becomes a sad Chris please don't link my life experience with elderly parents to Chris' experience...)

 

[Free the Pedos]

The only ones I had who straight up ignored me like that are very autistic

Another case of exposure to the Farms in utero. Tragic.

 

[athousandrustynails]

Homies help homies, and it isn't a hugely big deal to help your disabled friend with an ADL. You probably wouldn't think twice for a real friend. It's just Alex. She's the problem. She's dislikable.

As for old Noah, he looks like he has the sort of leanness you get from massive amounts of cardio. Seems fine.

At no point will I be wiping my friends arses, they can get a home carer for that lol. My point was more about her being cool with her home carers drinking on the job because she wants it to be more of a friend situation. That's just weird no matter what kinda relationship you have with your actual friends.

But then she did baby trap a boyfriend specifically so she could have a home carer that will also fuck her, so it's a moot point overall.

 

[Jimmy Dean Bowl]

As for old Noah, he looks like he has the sort of leanness you get from massive amounts of cardio. Seems fine.

He should have buff arms from lifting Alex multiple times a day, I'd say that's the only cardio this dude gets.
He's lost a lot of weight in just a few months and looks unwell and unkempt. I fear Addy Daddy has made a reappearance.

As for Cool Mom - shining a bright light in your baby's eyes is the most retarded thing I can think when trying to get a baby to sleep.
Then proceeding to assault her little ears by asking an inane question about hair, all for social media so she can say she is part of her child's bedtime routine.
There is no maternal instinct in this woman whatsoever.

 

[Stroppy Trollop]

I think Ari ignores Alex for a few different reasons but primarily because Alex is disabled and in a wheelchair. Her profound physical disability and her mobility aid are a great hindrance for Ari--they make Alex inaccesible. It's like... picture able-bodied Noah, sitting in an armchair and sitting beside him, is Alex, in her wheelchair. Now, imagine Ari--whom is just learning to walk, staggering around like a tiny adorable drunk, wandering over to Noah and Alex. So, here comes Ari, grinning ear-to-ear, ready to crash land and be caught before she takes a spill. Who's going to reach her first? Who's going to swoop her up? Most importantly, who is Ari going to choose to head toward? By no means is it a competition when it comes to these types of interactions, but in this type of scenario, Alex literally can't compete--she's too disabled. I also think Ari ignores Alex to a degree because, as others have mentioned, Alex is hella annoying with her overly-loud, repetitive, sing-songy, vocal fry. It would go a long way for Alex if she would just tone it the fuck down and speak to Ari like she's an actual person. I also think it's age-related. Toddlerhood means non-stop and on-the-go exploring. Ari ain't got time for Alex's shit! I also think it's a lack of bonding between Alex and Ari. Think back to those extremely bleak days of Ari's early infancy in the Chicago apartment. We could all see how Ari was failing to thrive. Alex's disability--and her various personality disorders--prevented that deep bond from forming. When you literally can't do any of the day-to-day basic care of your own high-risk preemie infant, there's going to be consequences. Given her rough start, it's a miracle Ari has done so well and is hitting her milestones and seems like a such a lovely happy girl. To which I give all the props to Noah's parents because, yes, even tho' Noah has stepped up, they'd all be completely fucked--if not for his parents.

 

[Sparkling Yuzu]

I think Ari ignores Alex for a few different reasons but primarily because Alex is disabled and in a wheelchair.

I agree. Babies form a natural bond with their caregiver but they have to be able to actually... care (physically).

 

[Barbarella]

Babies bond with mothers who feed them (not performatively), who change their diapers and look into their eyes and smile, who lay them on the bed and laugh with them and make faces; who read to them, then pick them up, who bathe them, who kiss boo-boos, who dress them, who pick up the paci when it drops, who hug their baby and fall asleep together even if your arm has no support! (If you know, you know.) It’s all about touch the first years.

Alex can’t touch. She can’t pick up. She can play peek a boo but she can’t tickle when the game is over, or throw a light blanket on to play. She can’t be a mother and Ari will never see her as one. If Alex lives long enough they might have a sisterly relationship but Ari is never going to see Alex as a loving authority, because she wasn’t capable of doing the things that start it.

Her voice is awful but Ari is growing up with it so she isn’t bothered. The wheelchair is part of Alex-she doesn’t understand it yet but it’s there. Those things along aren’t preventing Alex from being a mother, it’s actually the act of touch and care that she can’t do that has. At her age now it’s holding her up as she stands, moving her away from dangerous things, then then all the physical things that will come that Alex can’t do, like potty training. That instills trust in a child and makes a mother.

Ari isn’t ignoring her for any other reason than Alex is not important in her world, or what a human baby understands as mother. Noah is, maybe grandparents are but Alex? No.

There may be a time when talking is enough but by then there is no mother bond, so maybe sisterly advice. But if Alex is having so much trouble swallowing it may portend the end. She will go to her grave thinking mother means the act of giving birth, and will never understand it’s a thousand actions in a day she can’t do. But she graced the world with a lovely baby and sadly, the best thing she could do is leave.

 

[Jimmy Dean Bowl]

...she graced the world with a lovely baby and sadly, the best thing she could do is leave.

This is poignant and oddly beautiful.

 

[Xenomorph]

I have a feeling this poor kid has something going on with her that nobody knows yet, her exposure to medications she shouldn't have been, drinking and Alex shit DNA..I just hope she dodged bullets but idk odds are never good...im also terrified she is slowly starting to look like Alex more and more..

 

[athousandrustynails]

I have a feeling this poor kid has something going on with her that nobody knows yet, her exposure to medications she shouldn't have been, drinking and Alex shit DNA..I just hope she dodged bullets but idk odds are never good...im also terrified she is slowly starting to look like Alex more and more..

this is like a reddit tier pearl clutch. Chill out. The kid looks and acts completely fine

 

[Xenomorph]

this is like a reddit tier pearl clutch. Chill out. The kid looks and acts completely fine

How? You dont know if they are fine yet so many more milestones to clear Im not talking about the bullshit CPS crap I'm talking about the fact you dont know what those drugs did to her yet.

 

[often puzzled]

Relatable mom content from Alex: late brunch on a Friday morning. There was a cute video of Ari getting into the chocolate sauce on Noah's place and him cleaning her up, but I didn't grab it in time. It was sweet and dad-like, though.









This last one is interesting, because it's a great big lie. She says she missed the medication for the whole 7 months, which we know is not true. She put off going to the ob/gyn for several months, even once she knew she was pregnant, and my theory is that she didn't want to give up the twerk juice. That's how we ended up with her claiming (lying) that she didn't know she wasn't supposed to get pregnant while taking the medicaiton.