I don't know where people are getting their information about foster care but as
@Tazz said, the state 100% will pay for foster care children to go to college. It's not even about them applying themselves and having good grades and all that shit that someone else said. If you're a foster care child, you get college, but only in THAT state. I've had to process countless files about this and my friend's brother got into a great and expensive Uni here purely because he was a foster child. They don't pay for 100% of things, but they hands down cover tuition and board if applicable.
There is usually a 6 month grace period given to a student with loans where they must inform their lender that they'll be returning to college within the next 6 months or they'll be seeking employment - otherwise the loans have a set payment date and on midnight after said date it's considered delinquent. There's pretty much no grace period with loans because there are so many ways to contact the lending institution and work out a plan, etc. Its also important to note that if Amber had an account of her own and she wasn't paying her loans back not only would her credit be ruined but they'd be garnishing her account by now which leads me to believe that her loans aren't as big of a looming thing as she makes them seem and definitely not as big of a thing as everyone has been speculating them to be. Make absolutely no mistake, there are definitely loan forgiveness programs for different degrees and even things someone like Amber (who didn't get a degree) can look into but if she wasn't communicating with her lenders or making any sort of payments we'd hear about it a lot more. Financial aid is federal so if you have any assets or accounts they'll know about it. There is also a huge difference between loans and grants. Grants, most of the time, are free and students don't have to pay them back. Loans are, as the name suggests, loans and need to be paid back. Your college debt is based off of loans, but there is also a set amount that you can take out each year that's based off of both grants and loans.
Residency for Finaid purposes is established in a number of ways but the biggest is to just register to vote or have a state drivers license. If you can't do that, even at tech or CC's they offer out of state tuition options so I don't know why that's even a talking point? Furthermore - $19,000, if that's the correct amount, is actually relatively low considering she should've been eligible for the full amount of loans and knowing Amber she would've taken the full amount, which leads me to believe she either has another source of income she's not mentioning to us but had to report because again, federal shit, or only went to school for a very short amount of time, shorter than she's said in her YouTube videos, actually. Iirc, did she say she went for 6 months? Because based off her loan amount I believe that would be only 3 if she took out the full amount each time and her school was based on a quarter system.