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I can translate, as I'm fairly fluent in narc - specifically in the narcish dialect of poor reading/writing/comprehension skills. She was referring to her videos at the end of December, versus an earlier time in the year (like anklegate, for example). Her likes were higher at the end of vlogmas versus earlier in the year, and her dislikes were lower at the end of vlogmas versus earlier in the year.... So her likes were higher, and her dislikes were lower.... So her likes were higher than her dislikes. She actually does this type of sentence twisting with most of the things she says.
[Edited to Add: I do like how she showed a screenshot of ONE video with a higher like to dislike ratio.. yet the bottom of the photo showed her channel average being 48.4%, meaning that SHE GETS MORE DISLIKES THAN LIKES. Ha! Try again, Amber.]
Inpatient isn't the miracle cure that people deem it to be. Inpatient only works for those who truly want to change their behaviour. Occasionally you can haul someone into inpatient, make them stay while they detox off of whatever shit they were killing themselves with, and they'll realize while they're there that they were insane on their D.o.C (drug of choice) and WANT to get control of their addiction and never go back to their old lifestyle. And after several years of sobriety, they are 'cured'. Not in the sense that they can go back to moderated usage (because the saying goes "when I'm in recovery, my addiction is in the background doing pushups"). Habits are never fully broken. They are replaced by better habits, and WILL come back FULL FORCE if you neglect those better habits. Eventually, the ones who end up successful in recovery and achieve long term sobriety get to a point where they are aware of the negative feelings that drive them to use. They realize they don't WANT the substance, they just don't want to feel that way anymore. They learn coping mechanisms and never need to go back to their DoC.
This isn't Amber. I mean, theoretically everyone has POTENTIAL for sobriety regarless of the number of failed attempts previously, but with the specific mentality of believing only they can know themself and what's right for them (called 'terminal uniqueness') their addiction WILL KILL THEM. She wears her mental illnesses like a badge of honour. She thinks these words are special, when they're just terms shrinks came up with so they could develop treatment options without having to spend 3 hours discussing (repetitive) particulars on each patient. She intentionally makes the worst possible decisions in order to trigger and worsen them, so she can convince everyone how special and unique she is. It's like a monkey trap. They'll make a trap where the monkey reaches his hand into a little hole to pick up food or some sort of interesting/shiny item. When the item is in the monkey's hand, his hand won't fit through back through the hole, trapping him. The monkey refuses to let go, and remains stuck in the trap. This is kinda like Amber and her sense of self. She won't let go - even to save her life - because of the perceived benefit of the prize that's keeping her stuck in the trap.
Also, don't forget that in many cases of success you see from people who come out successful from inpatient, are actually on DRUGS. Other than whatever occasional delta 8 shit she's taking (and this isn't the post to discuss the potential of harm or benefits from THC and similar compounds), there is nothing clouding her judgement. She is making all of these shit decisions SOBER (just with heavily ingrained and well-developed toxic learned behaviours). Inpatient in itself will NOT give her the epiphany people think it will.
Longterm sobriety is only about 5-8% from spontanous remission (person decides to stop and cleans up their act without treatment). 12 Step Programs have inconsistent data collection (due to the anonymity of the program) is only about 5%. Treatment centres often spout a relapse rate of 40-60% - and those numbers change based on other medical conditions, psychological factors, type of drugs they are addicted to, etc. It ALL comes down to how willing the person is to admit they are WRONG, and that they need to change EVERYTHING about how they think and behave. When that person shows massive ego and extreme ODD/Cluster B Disorder behaviours, the odds for success drop to around 0%.
The word 'sober' doesn't get to be used until you have abstained from ALL of your addictions (although passes are usually given to caffiene and nicotine addictions when determining this). Amber letting her food addiction run unchecked while boasting that she doesn't drink the occasional White Claw or Hard Lemonade anymore is NOT sobriety.
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