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But I wonder if she pressures Becky to finish her entire plate all the time?
Does she let Becky get take-home cartons and then eat the leftovers herself?
Or does Amber finish Becky's plate right in the restaurant?
There are ways for Becky to not be gaining quite so much weight even if she's still cucking to Amber's need to eat 3 meals out per day.
I think Becky has gained quite a bit, but she’s probably not eating the candy bars, pints of ice cream and cookies Amber has stashed around the house that Amber eats on top of the meals out. So her gaining, while steady, may be slower than Amber. But she’ll get in Amber territory soon if she doesn’t stop it. She needs to learn that just because Amber bought a car, she doesn’t have to use it every day. Amber didn’t buy hER.
I doubt she pressures Becky to finish her plate. Once she’s eating, she’s concentrating on what she eats herself and how she can get more. She’s probably happy if Becky leaves some so she can take it home and eat it later. I doubt she finishes Becky’s right there, because she double-orders food and has dessert as it is. She still has to think if the server will notice. In her mind, he won’t know she eats more if Becky takes home leftovers-Amber often pretends not to finish her plate and takes some home too. Of course, all servers know that food won’t make it home and is not for a dog.
I knew an alcoholic couple who drank all day. For some reason, they felt like starting at 11:00 am was acceptable, but in reality, they always started at 9:00. They’d say stuff like “oh, we have company, how about starting with a drink today” and the other one would agree. Or whatever, there was always an excuse to start before 11:00 but in their head, it was proper at 11:00.
Amber has these games too. She goes to a movie early to make sure she gets a seat, but Gets there so early there is time for a meal. Or she’ll order double rice and a full Mexican meal with chips and ice cream but “oh, I’m so full, I need a doggie bag” and scarf that in the car.
The tricks they play are for the eyes of others, so they appear normal. But their partners usually are in onnit and figure it out. Or both.