Are "aromantic" folk real or are they just making excuses for not having any honeys??

What I bolded is technically unnecessary but is imposed onto men as the song and dance they have to play to to titillate a woman so they won't get bored and leave. Meanwhile, you find that either finding things the both of you are willing to talk about or being able to relate to the things that the girl likes talking about is a crapshoot at best.

It's strangely actively depressing to think about.
If you have to act like a full time clown to a person maybe she isn't for you.
 
When I was younger, I used to think that wanted to date girls and have a girlfriend, but I learned that I was really just horny and not actually interested in other people. I've had multiple relationships in the past, but the only thing I find appealing about relationships is the part where I get my dick wet. People who are like that are denigrated as shallow, and so I felt compelled to go on the dating sites and find women to date. But everything about the courtship process - e.g. flowers, texting, coming up with ideas for dates, meeting parents, getting engaged, starting a family, etc, all strike me as bullshit that I have no interest in and don't want to do, and it strikes me as crazy that people actually enjoy that or are willing to put up with it for strange. I think there are many people who are like that but just don't use that label. It's not something I would advertise publicly because you get into all sorts of annoying discussions about how you "haven't found the right one yet." I will stick with my fwbs, thank you very much.
Have you considered not being mentally deranged?
 
What I bolded is technically unnecessary but is imposed onto men as the song and dance they have to play to to titillate a woman so they won't get bored and leave. Meanwhile, you find that either finding things the both of you are willing to talk about or being able to relate to the things that the girl likes talking about is a crapshoot at best.

It's strangely actively depressing to think about.
Just this post alone is enough to make someone's pussy dry. Gg fgt
 
When I was younger, I used to think that wanted to date girls and have a girlfriend, but I learned that I was really just horny and not actually interested in other people. I've had multiple relationships in the past, but the only thing I find appealing about relationships is the part where I get my dick wet. People who are like that are denigrated as shallow, and so I felt compelled to go on the dating sites and find women to date. But everything about the courtship process - e.g. flowers, texting, coming up with ideas for dates, meeting parents, getting engaged, starting a family, etc, all strike me as bullshit that I have no interest in and don't want to do, and it strikes me as crazy that people actually enjoy that or are willing to put up with it for strange. I think there are many people who are like that but just don't use that label. It's not something I would advertise publicly because you get into all sorts of annoying discussions about how you "haven't found the right one yet." I will stick with my fwbs, thank you very much.

Asexuality by contrast I do not understand at all and secretly suspect that they're either all closet gays or molested as kids.
Courtship? Is it 1870 again and no one told me?
 
there's a disorder for pretty much anything and the inability to feel romantic and/or sexual attraction is definitely one of them
sociopathy
 
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Yeah. But I imagine that the term probably gets conflated and really badly misunderstood.

There's a significant difference between someone who can't feel romantic attachment and is fine, someone who can't feel romantic attachment and that causes them mental anguish, and someone who can feel romantic attraction however is not actively persuing a relationship or does not want a relationship.

There's almost definitely a lot of people who claim to be aromantic but it's more just that they're not looking for a relationship.
 
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