Around The Dinner Table (ATDT) forums - Parents who think they're better at treating their child's eating disorder than actual doctors

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Jesus fucking Christ. Hiding calorie boosters in food is an extreme breach of trust and highly abusive. You're basically making someone who is already wary of food even more reason to be mistrustful. I'd refuse to fucking eat if my food was being tampered with. These people are completely self-absorbed. Get your kid the psych help to address WHY they have issues with food, force feeding is only going to exasperate the issue.
 
Jesus fucking Christ. Hiding calorie boosters in food is an extreme breach of trust and highly abusive. You're basically making someone who is already wary of food even more reason to be mistrustful. I'd refuse to fucking eat if my food was being tampered with. These people are completely self-absorbed. Get your kid the psych help to address WHY they have issues with food, force feeding is only going to exasperate the issue.
Especially when you consider that the aim of this treatment should be eventually letting these kids control their eating by themselves without starving themselves to death (which is pretty essential if you want to live like a normal person). One symptom of anorexia is the irrational fear of weight gain. The patient will be afraid of gaining weight even when they are eating half of what a normal person would eat, and letting go of this fear is important for recovery.

So what happens when these parents fool their children into thinking they've had x amount of calories when they've actually had the x amount plus half a liter of heavy cream? They're only throwing gasoline to the flames, because now their child can literally see with their own eyes how eating normal food will make you gain crazy amounts.
 
Especially when you consider that the aim of this treatment should be eventually letting these kids control their eating by themselves without starving themselves to death (which is pretty essential if you want to live like a normal person). One symptom of anorexia is the irrational fear of weight gain. The patient will be afraid of gaining weight even when they are eating half of what a normal person would eat, and letting go of this fear is important for recovery.

So what happens when these parents fool their children into thinking they've had x amount of calories when they've actually had the x amount plus half a liter of heavy cream? They're only throwing gasoline to the flames, because now their child can literally see with their own eyes how eating normal food will make you gain crazy amounts.
You're right. The child will never learn how to manage their ED if they're not given the autonomy to make important decisions regarding their food. It's like when obese people crash diet on shakes and can't figure out why the weight piles back on- it's because they haven't learned any lessons, made critical lifestyle changes, and formed a healthy relationship with food. Losing/gaining weight is only a part of the battle; it's lifelong maintenance that's the struggle.
 
If you cut through the bullshit, the whole reason these parents have fallen for FBT is because it doesn't put any of the blame on the parents, no matter how fucked up they are. It encourages psycho parents to do what they do best: take control of everything and demean their child's value as a human being in order to "save them".
 
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