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I have apparently manifested an avatar. I'm going to have to do something about that.

Just read through the entire thread, and you sound like a fascinating and awesome person. If I'm ever in your area I'll totally take you out for a no-hetero dinner and we can swap cheesecake recipes.

An actual question now:

If you could go back in time, what do you think you might do differently in dealing with Phil? Do you think you would have tried even harder to help him, or would you have avoided him entirely? What advice would Today Dusty have for the Phil of 2007/2008?

"Harder" feels like a poor choice of words, but I feel like I have better insight into his issues now than I did then, and a better idea at what might have been effective at the time.

And honestly, if I could go back in time, helping Phil would be... somewhere on the list, but not a top priority. Looking at you, Hitler!
 
No questions to ask here, just saying welcome and thanks for answering people's questions. Also, inspired by your avatar+username :
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I have apparently manifested an avatar. I'm going to have to do something about that.



"Harder" feels like a poor choice of words, but I feel like I have better insight into his issues now than I did then, and a better idea at what might have been effective at the time.

And honestly, if I could go back in time, helping Phil would be... somewhere on the list, but not a top priority. Looking at you, Hitler!

You sound like a cool and rad dude, Dusty. It's a shame that Phil actively alienated people like you, and preferred to only have internet enablers in their life.

When did Phil go from having you be his "dom" to having you be on his "people that literally raped me" list?
 
@Phil's Favorite Footlong, at any point in your discussion, did Phil happen to mention a hit squad we've sent after him, or the various people we have stalking him IRL?
Perhaps he mentioned a van full of neo-nazis that might have been tailing him? A Race War van, if you will?
 
Dusty - do you have hopes you can change Phil after ten years of progressively worse behavior? If so, what gives you that hope?

Also, do you believe that Phil needs a payee to control the SSDI that he will most likely be losing this November for non-compliance after his review?

Lastly, what are your thoughts on Phil lying about his gender and race to grift unsuspecting people of their time and money?
 
I have not heard of the "Sasuke diet" so I'm guessing that came after we parted company.

He claimed he only ate what he saw in Naturo - He didn't stick to it and he put on more weight while he was doing it. I have it's details if you want to see them.

Also of the back of @Smutley 's question about Phil's SSDI, do you feel he needs some form of long term supervisory care because in the 10 years since you last saw him his ability to fend form himself has seriously degraded.
 
Do you think pretty much training phil to bark on demand (by your own admission) had a lasting negative effect ?
 
He claimed he only ate what he saw in Naturo - He didn't stick to it and he put on more weight while he was doing it. I have it's details if you want to see them.

Also of the back of @Smutley 's question about Phil's SSDI, do you feel he needs some form of long term supervisory care because in the 10 years since you last saw him his ability to fend form himself has seriously degraded.


I'd like to see that.
 
@Phil's Favorite Footlong, at any point in your discussion, did Phil happen to mention a hit squad we've sent after him, or the various people we have stalking him IRL?
Perhaps he mentioned a van full of neo-nazis that might have been tailing him? A Race War van, if you will?

He has not mentioned anything of this nature.

Dusty - do you have hopes you can change Phil after ten years of progressively worse behavior? If so, what gives you that hope?

Also, do you believe that Phil needs a payee to control the SSDI that he will most likely be losing this November for non-compliance after his review?

Lastly, what are your thoughts on Phil lying about his gender and race to grift unsuspecting people of their time and money?
He claimed he only ate what he saw in Naturo - He didn't stick to it and he put on more weight while he was doing it. I have it's details if you want to see them.

Also of the back of @Smutley 's question about Phil's SSDI, do you feel he needs some form of long term supervisory care because in the 10 years since you last saw him his ability to fend form himself has seriously degraded.

Only Phil can change Phil. I can maybe say something that sparks the desire, or helps on the path, but I cannot make him travel the journey.
So the Naruto diet is basically all ramen? Sounds like the "college sophomore" diet.
I think Phil would benefit from as much support as the system will give him.
I'm opposed to lying, and to grifting. I've stated my opinion on Phil's gender identity once already, namely, how long does it have to go on before it's no longer a lie?

Which of his tattoos is your favorite?

...I have insufficient data to make an informed decision, and I'm okay with that.

Somewhat unrelated, but I want to hear more about the "attempted satanic sacrifice". Would you care to elaborate?
So... this is another of those "overly ridiculous" stories I've got. Short version, roommate knocked me out, I woke up tied to a dresser with a photocopy of a pentacle and him waving a knife. My mother training me for show business actually came in handy, and I used my stage magician training (yes, my mother wanted me to be a stage magician, won a few talent shows in high school with it) to slip out of the ropes and escape. The school declared that he couldn't have tried to sacrifice me because my largely black wardrobe (it was the 90s!) meant I must also be a satanist, and other than move my room assignment, they never did anything about it.

Do you think pretty much training phil to bark on demand (by your own admission) had a lasting negative effect ?
When did I claim to have trained him to bark like a dog on command?
 
When did I claim to have trained him to bark like a dog on command?

Somewhat of a simplification i admit but u said phil would follow you around and if you commanded him to kneel then he would kneel.
Call it master and slave, call it a trained dog, but it doesnt seem healthy for anyone even if it kept him docile.
So do you think it had a lasting effect and left it exploitable for future influences ?
 
Somewhat of a simplification i admit but u said phil would follow you around and if you commanded him to kneel then he would kneel.
Call it master and slave, call it a trained dog, but it doesnt seem healthy for anyone even if it kept him docile.
So do you think it had a lasting effect and left it exploitable for future influences ?

Okay, that was said in anger, when I was counter-calling-out Phil. I never actually trained him. It just sort of happened. All his idea. Yes, I probably should have seen it as more of a warning sign at the time, but I don't think anyone could have reasonably anticipated what he would become.
 
Thanks for answering questions Dusty, hope you have an awesome and relaxing memorial day weekend! Also it seems like you've had to deal with a looooot of crazy shit.

I'm gonna be reading the other answers before I ask, I figure anything I'd want to know has already been posted so I don't repeat.
 
Oh wow I did not expect that response from you about a pic. Suck it Kiwis.

But damn, dude, your life has been all kinds of crazy but it seems much better now. You sound really cool.

I don't think I have much else to ask about you or about Phil, but I'll keep reading this topic.
 
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