After seeing this post by trans identifying man Brianna Wu for the third time in 24 hours, I had to pause all other things and craft a full and proper response.
Fair warning, "Brianna":
You may want to get some ice handy, bc this is absolutely gonna burn.



1/9
Right out the gate, this is RICH.
Trust me, Wu, childbirth is FAR from the first time we as women and girls realize how integral our biology is to our experience as females.
Whether it’s the fact that WAY before childbirth, we’ve had to navigate the world KNOWING that sexuaI assauIt is a 24/7/365 possibility, and thus conduct our ENTIRE WAY OF OPERATING IN PUBLIC LIFE with certain precautions in place…
OR the CONSTANT conditioning of our elders telling us that all boys want is “ONE THING” and it’s our job not to let them have it (bc we couldn’t possibly want it for ourselves)…
OR the fact that wether we are in an abusive relationship or simply in the room with an angry and unpredictable man, we know fully that he toss us across the room like a racketball and there’s NOTHING we could do to stop him, so we have to strategize like hell in order not to... you know, DIE...
OR the fact that should we actually do that little biological trick you seem to think is the only thing that defines us by GETTING PREGNANT, we have to worry about EVERYTHING that intrinsically requires of us which it DOES NOT require of the man that got us there, including and WAY beyond PARTICIPATING AT ALL...
There is not a woman or girl alive who is not KEENLY AWARE that our biology is a MAJOR part of our day to day female experiences from the moment we're old enough to use a damn fork.
2/9
This part is downright… HILARIOUS.
"Women… have… never… been… denied… any… area… of… expression."
Pardon me while I spit out my coffee.
There may not be any CLEARER WAY for you to demonstrate that you have ZERO idea about the nature of experiences of women and girls than by actually typing this sentence.
Let’s go all the way down to basics (cuz lord knows, it seems like you need them) and talk about little boys and little girls.
From the second little boys (like you) are born, they are seen and spoken about for the things that they DO. “Billy runs so fast.” “Tommy is good at baseball.” “BRIAN says stupid shit a lot.”
Boys get attention and value for THEIR ACTIONS.
GIRLS (and pay attention here, cuz you clearly haven’t got a friggin clue) are seen and spoken about for HOW THEY ARE. “Sally is so nice.” “Katy is so pretty.” “Wildfire is mean and ill mannered.”
Girls get attention and value based around HOW OTHERS PERCEIVE US.
So we, as girls, are BORN INTO SOCIAL PRESSURE the likes of which would make you crumble like a cookie, honey.
As women and girls, the social expectations of us are infinite and unyielding. We are in a constant expectational “smoosh” in regards to every single fucking thing we do and are.
Women and girls are raised in a perpetual state of aiming for one inch spaces between “TOOs”:
TOO fat or TOO thin.
TOO slutty or TOO frigid.
TOO shy or TOO loud.
TOO smart or TOO ditzy.
You think you know what it is to be shamed for not behaving in the “right” way for your sex???
Try living your life in a world where NO WAY YOU COULD POSSIBLY DO IT IS EVER RIGHT.
And, because OUR PRESSURE is still based on how we ARE, it takes a lot more work to adjust ourselves to satisfy the entire fucking world, should we decide we even want to.
3/9
Sorry pumpkin, but you're flat out wrong here too.
By the age of 18, we’ve already forgotten more about “toxic male social dynamics” than you’ll ever know.
We have to pay them FAR more attention than you do, as a matter of SAFETY AND SURVIVAL.
(If you aren't catchin what I'm throwin, go reread part 1 here till you feel yourself beginning to get a clue.)
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4/9
Your brain is NOT malfunctioning from testosterone.
It’s actually a VITAL substance for your brain to BE BALANCED and function properly, and if you DID experience any malfunctions, it’s more likely because you had too little, not too much.
5/9
We absolutely live in a “boiled-ocean-world” where men can be as feminine as they want, because YOU ARE DOING IT RIGHT NOW.
Because of MEN LIKE YOU being as FEMININE AS YOU WANT, actual women are being robbed of:
Our ability to speak to our lived experiences
have safety and privacy in public spaces
participate in fair sports
access sex segregated trauma centers
have same sex doctors
be safe in prisons
OR have functional legal recourse if our sex based rights are violated in those or any other situation.
The real thing you're trying to say here is that you don't WANT to be "feminine," you want to be FEMALE, and you will burn down reality and anything concerning the needs of ACTUAL WOMEN in order to do it.
Including giving us WOMEN delusional lectures like this in order to force us into thinking we don't know exactly who and what you are.
6/9
As far as having “chemical imbalance in your brain,” go to a fucking psychiatrist and deal with it.
You have a mental imbalance?
That issue is filed squarely under “YOU,” not “US.”
Take responsibility for your own mental health.
We aren't your friggin mommies.
7/9
There might not be anything more inherently male (and quite misogynistic at that) than this closing sentence. Do you realize how patronizing it sounds to tell WOMEN that we don’t know how we really feel, because we are just… not “experienced enough” to form an opinion??? Seriously??
No, pumpkin.
We do not need to get to know you or any other man who feels the way you do in order to know that you are not women.
Nor do we need to know your “female friends” who tell you that the “only way you make sense as people is as women.”
We are already 100% certain that is EXACTLY what they tell you, because OF ALL OF THE REASONS I HAVE LAID OUT ABOVE.
Not one of them would dare tell you differently.
And I promise you, as much as it breaks your lil boy heart… they do NOT behave the same way around you as they do around each other.
8/9
So you know what, SIR, maybe you should sit the hell down and ASK women about OUR experiences before allowing this particular flavor of blather to escape your face again.
Because - quick “passing tip” for you -
it’s the most SURE FIRE way to clock you as male.
9/9