Coming Out to Friends as a Transphobe

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About a year ago we had a team meeting where all this gender shit was discussed, the facilitator (externally hired, mind you) asked us all to introduce ourselves in the format of "Hi my name is theshep, my pronouns are he/him, she/her, they/them or 'whatever neopronouns you'd like'"

We went around the circle and when it got to me I stood up and said "Hi my name is theshep, I don't play this pronoun game" and sat back down. The facilitator was speechless and didn't know how to respond. I chalk that up as a win.
 
Even if you still like your friends, it might be best to also consider falling into a social group that supports your opinion on the matter. It's good to have friends with different views but if you think they may dump you for yours, then I wouldn't bother if I were you.

Luckily I myself am blessed with friends who consider themselves liberals but are pretty open-minded. We have a mutual respect despite our differences. But I also have some friends I wouldn't dare discuss politics with. A friend of mine once dumped a close buddy of 8 years simply because he didn't want to get the vaccine ffs.
 
Outside the anglosphere almost no one will even pay lip service to them except maybe higly americanized upper class soy people who just copy whatever Muhrican media says its fashionable mindlessly.


Nobody really likes trannies, or gays for that matter. Most people will tolerate gays and trannies existing ( until its someone related to them) but the atmosphere of fear of criticizing it or be labeled as a pariah for saying you don't like trannies or making jokes are their expense is not a thing i have ever experience (irl, outside the interwebz, that is). People who try to play the sjw and white knight trannies is most likely to be mocked for it.
 
Your friends may already know the truth and not care. This is especially likely to be true if they are into anything like LARPing or tabletop board games. These are notoriously sex-pest-adjacent activities.
Do you have a woke social group
Yes. It comes with the territory if you do want to do any labour organising activity, or pro-environmental, or pro-animal-rights activities.
how do you handle being a transphobe?
I am already 'out' as a TERF and all sorts of other 'problematic' things. My friends don't raise a stink about it because I actually do labour organising and other real life activities which are useful to the Left.

If you make yourself useful within the Leftist power structure, in this way, you're basically untouchable within it unless you do anything blatantly fucktarded (feel up a minor, say the gamer word on main.) Mark Fisher, for example, wrote about cancel culture and annoying trannies and he's still a Leftist demigod, same with Noam Chomsky. Likewise JKR can spout off all she likes and all she gets for it is Twitter salt. No one is actually turning down her donations or cancelling her bank transactions. And I don't think they ever will. The tide is turning and in no small part due to the evidence Kiwi Farms has amassed. Semper Fidelis
 
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My sister vaguely knows, my best friend knows (and is so non-confrontational that she shuts down if the topic comes up, so I try not to talk about it around her out of respect) and I have a few online groups where I can be open about it. My irl "friend" groups don't know, though, but I'm also realizing that friends who make me feel bad and are total shmucks aren't really people I should keep around as friends, so they ultimately know so little about me that the transphobia thing doesn't even matter.

It's hard to reconcile having "bad" opinions and "good" friends, but true friends will either put up with you when you disagree or even be open to discussion about it. I've lost friends because of my beliefs, but it's their choice to leave. You can't hold onto something that wants to be let go, y'know?
 
In my experience, they’re pretty quick to realize you’re right, or if they don’t agree, agree to disagree and forgive you for wrongthink.
My best friend is a little less “transphobic” than me and will use preferred pronouns (although I can tell it’s often a struggle for her and there’s always a little pause before the “she” or “he” that accompanies swapping a word that comes naturally with one that does not) but agrees with me in theory that (they)WNBAW and that there are many more MTF predators and pervs than we’ll be shown by the MSM.*

I started the conversation by showing her screenshots of an MTF in our town calling actual women “roasties” and “bleeders” and “cunts” on Facebook for not helping trans people enough (and an actual girl getting dogpiled in the comments for taking issue in the kindest and most pozzed way possible).
Obviously, she thought that was fucky, and then you can go from there and show just how much of it boils down to shit sexist stereotypes and how the ideology hurts kids.
It’s then not that hard to bring them around because my side (GC feminists, which I recognize many/most farmers are not) objectively just makes more sense and there is so much proof out there showing just why that is.

All my friends are female and left-leaning if not fully libtarded (including myself) and these conversations have all gone very well, even if they don’t come around to being as zealous about it as I am
(and you can’t blame them for that when their hobbies do not, in fact, include following this community pretty closely—like, without really digging into it oneself, some of these issues and tropes and official party lines do come off as hard to believe without firsthand knowledge, since they’re often so absurd.
For example, my dad has no loyalty to these people whatsoever and I still had to show him hard proof of predatory dudes being placed in women’s prisons because it sounds so unbelievable.)

*notably, I asked one of my other good and old friends if she thinks TWAW the first time we ever talked about it or anything related to it and she gave a hard “No.” and had reasons how they hate us cause they ain’t us, in a nutshell, so that was fun

But really, if you have good left-leaning friends who know you well and understand you wouldn’t feel a type of way that does come off bigoted to those leftists not in the know without dang good reason and hard evidence to prove your concerns are valid, it shouldn’t really be an issue, but it is scary the first time you bring it up.
 
Certain friends there’s room for nuanced discussion, other friends it’s a black and white screech fest how I literally want to MURDER troons with no room for nuance.

I exert only on the first one, the others are a lost cause.
Distanced myself but on the rare occasions I see them I simply smile and nod.

Not really interested in a bunch of handmaidens and troons reeeing at me when it’s entirely unproductive.
 
Everyone knows that I'm a "transphobe" and with the exception of one or two people everyone is pretty much on the nu-left side, some of them have trannies around them and they all fully support the troon movement.
Something that didn't surprise me in the slightest is that almost everyone pro-tranny that have had prolonged contact with troons and their ideology have some grievances that they would like to air, but they're afraid of saying anything around their comrades or in their woke workplace. If only they knew someone that wouldn't tell anyone or try to cancel them or have them fired...
 
Honestly, the best thing that can happen is for them to experience a troon on their own. They'll be much more open-minded after that.

Case in point: one of my friends' friends started dating a she/they guy who's the most passive aggressive, manipulative dick in town. My friend played the pronoun game for a bit and then this guy's behavior just got worse and worse...and he always fell back on the "but I'm an oppressed trans woman!" bullshit. It opened my friend's eyes to a lot of hypocrisies in the "community" and gave her some room to talk about some doubts she'd been having before.

Alternatively, introduce them to KF through a "normal" thread and let them be exposed to tranny shit themselves.
 
I started with easing into it by saying "women have it hard, no wonder a lot are trying to opt out by getting outside of the binary." Worked 100% of the time. If you can get people to admit non-binary is absurd, then "being a woman isn't a costume" is an inevitable conclusion.

Also it probably helps that most my friends are some flavor of slightly left-of-center Christians and/or not white. Both groups are culturally TERFs.
 
My family members are fortunately biological realists, just like me. Friends that decided they wanted to either join "The Cult of Trans" or were overly rabid about it were cut off like a dead limb on a tree. That was more of a painless experience than I expected. Any of my other friends either don't bring it up because they agreed to disagree with me or they agree with me as fellow biological realists.
 
My favorite way to introduce wokies to dissenting beliefs about trans people is to ask them if they believe Chris-chan is a woman. Thanks to the motherfucking incident he's been thrown into the public eye and most people with half a brain can see he's a fucking loon.
The two most common responses I get to the question is "yes, no matter what someone does you should validate their gender" which is near indefensible, or the No True Scotsman fallacy. "Chris-chan isn't a real tranny because he stated that he was only doing it to creep on lesbians!" D'you think he fucking invented the concept?
 
How does the subject of trannies even come up IRL? I realize both the fervent anti-trans screechers and the insane trannies themselves are incredibly vocal on the internet, but in reality, talking to people who have hobbies, occupations, friends, family?
There's so much shit to talk about - I can't think of a single social gathering I've been to in the past decade where anyone ever brought up trannies.
 
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