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Jive said:
she won't tell me why she doesn't' love me anymore.
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this is hard af. i'm sorry.

Be sad for a few days then go cold turkey on her, she's left you with a complete lack of closure so there's really not much to reflect on right now. Block her on everything, delete every photo of her you have, if she left anything of hers with you return it by mail. Then force yourself to be so busy you can't think about her. Do this for a few weeks then maybe you can reflect a little on the relationship itself and talk it over with someone you trust to see if they can point out anything that went wrong.
 
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It's okay to feel like shit man, we've all been there. Everyone will tell you that you'll look back on it and see that you're better off now without her and that's true, but it doesn't make you feel better in the moment. Give it all the time it needs.
 
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try talking to a random person you find attractive/personable like literally anywhere, just have a chat that goes nowhere.
 
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neger psykolog said:
try talking to a random person you find attractive/personable like literally anywhere, just have a chat that goes nowhere.
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I tried to go to a club and dance away my thoughts. I saw her there and we talked for a bit. Her friend pulled her away and told me that it was over. I don't know if I can even live in my city with her here. All of the places I can go to forget about her are places she may be. I grew up in this city and now I feel like an outsider.
 
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Jive said:
I tried to go to a club and dance away my thoughts. I saw her there and we talked for a bit. Her friend pulled her away and told me that it was over. I don't know if I can even live in my city with her here. All of the places I can go to forget about her are places she may be. I grew up in this city and now I feel like an outsider.
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Time to leave and move somewhere else. It's what I did after I got divorced.
 
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People can fall out of love for many reasons, some are incredibly face-value, like someone gaining weight, becoming lazy, or showing less affection. Sometimes, however, there isn't a definite reason or answer, and it's extremely hard to understand and move on from that.

I can't say anything to fix how you're feeling now, only that as time goes by, you'll feel better by better. Recommend keeping yourself busy, talking to new people, getting into a new hobby etc.
 
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I'm very unhappy to be back in the dating game right when I want to start having children. My plans are all fucked and I don't know how to start these plans with a new girl. I really don't want there to be a new girl.
 
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Jive said:
I'm very unhappy to be back in the dating game right when I want to start having children. My plans are all fucked and I don't know how to start these plans with a new girl. I really don't want there to be a new girl.
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I understand this, I was in a relationship for 6 years, and it's difficult to relate with woman. Though I had to break up with her, not the other way around.
 
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