Just cut him off completely. You might like him and see him as a friend now. There is nothing positive you can do for him working for him or even talking to him. Based on some youtube comments you made you were totally naive to think Jeremy could help him. You can't help him either. You aren't a psychiatrist, family member, and can not impact his situation in a positive way. Even if your heart is in the right place your mind isn't. You allowed yourself to connect emotionally to this person to the detriment of him and yourself. Just look at the amount of time you have dedicated to him. Watching his videos, drawing pictures of him, talking to him and his family. You can't help him. If his family can't help him what is someone across the ocean going to do?
He needs to bottom out and go back home or end up in some kind of group home. You shouldn't be validating him in any way. He's literally a danger to people in his area. You have seen how angry he gets over something as trivial as telling him to throw out food. He has flat out said "I need to rape women." He said it as casually as someone says good morning to someone when going into work.
What Dan needs most right now is to break out of his rut. He needs a serious reality check. You actually have the opportunity to help him more than anyone else at the moment in that regard. You actually want to do something positive? Tell him you have been fucking with him this whole time. Tell him Jeremy has been right all along and you've been trolling him this whole time. Tell him the pictures were making fun of him in the same way the DJ Silly songs made fun of him. Let him see just how wrong he can be and make sure to point that out to him. It might sound cruel but it is just the kind of slap in the face he needs. Give him nothing left but his family to fall back on with Kim cutting him off. The right time is now. It might go against your instincts but it is the right thing to do. Do it for yourself as well. I'm sure you can find more productive things to do with your time. You've dedicated enough time to him already.
You are right that I was naive to think that Jeremy could help Dan. I gave him the benefit of the doubt because I knew that Dan and him knew each other since school. I only started talking to Dan in November of last year, just before he went to Vegas to meet up with Jeremy around that time, and I didn't really know much at that point other than they were friends. I knew he came back because they had a falling out, but since I'd only been talking to Dan for a few weeks I didn't feel like pressing him for details.
I was talking to Dan for about a month before I started drawing for him, and he talked to me respectfully before I was even doing anything for him. His reaction to the first drawing I did was overwhelmingly positive, and he encouraged me to keep on going, and I ended up doing one drawing every single day for about three months. Before this, I hardly drew at all.
The last month or so I've slowed down production slightly, usually doing a Dan drawing every few days, because I wanted to spend a bit more time on the drawings and because I was finding it hard to complete drawings on days which I was working, which lead to some of my drawings looking rushed to me. It was just a personal challenge to do this though, it's never that I felt that Dan would have been disappointed or angry if I didn't meet my arbitrarily set deadlines.
I realized soon that Jeremy was no good for Dan. Jeremy was not right about anything, including that I have been "trolling" him. Jeremy is an alcoholic, wannabe "Pick Up Artist". He is a moron who thinks he is a genius. He would always goad Dan to coming out to Vegas "Oh Dan you should come out here, you're always welcome here anytime, my house is your house" kind of vibe, and as soon as Dan gets down there, just because he doesn't take orders from Jeremy and do exactly what he wants, after a few days Jeremy kicks him out the house and Dan is left wandering around Vegas, sleeping in Bus Stations and trying to go to Homeless Shelters for food and such.
Jeremy enticed Dan to come to Vegas, promising him that if he "performed" on the strip, he'd be earning hundreds of dollars per day. The genius had this all worked out and calculated in his head. Dan did jumping jacks for hours and didn't earn a cent, unsurprisingly, and was desperate. He was basically in tears. I felt bad for him, and his family wouldn't buy him a ticket back to L.A. (they did that last time he was in Vegas though) and because I was going to send him a small gift for his birthday just as a nice gesture anyway, instead of doing that I got him a $20 bus ticked back to L.A. I had it to spare, I wouldn't have done that if I needed the money.
As far as I can tell, Jeremy is the only "friend" Dan has ever had, and even then, Dan told me that he would avoid talking to Jeremy for anywhere up to a year or more, but then he'd remember the good times from school and miss him. I guess it's kind of similar to the Kim situation. When he's with her, it's mostly negative. When he's not with her, he sees their relationship through rose-tinted spectacles.
As for Dan moving back home, I have encouraged this a lot, and for a while it seemed like he was really going to go for it. He was obsessed with his hometown and posting about it for days on end, but when the "incest incident" happened between himself and his sisters, that seemed to put a stop to that fantasy. It's also the trial that's keeping him in L.A. just now anyway, and Kim.
I just don't think I can bring myself to just cut Dan off like that cold-turkey. I think you have all made some very good points here. I don't think that my being a "yes man" has everything to do with our "friendship". We have talked about some real stuff, and he's let me know a lot about his life growing up. Things that he hasn't discussed in his videos or anywhere else. There are things that have happened during Dan's life that make understanding why he is the way he is easier. I don't mean to alleviate the responsibility of Dan's actions though, they are, of course, his own.
Dan had his pre-trial yesterday, and the trial itself starts in May, and will take about a week. I want to be there for Dan until then at least, and see what happens. I know some of my work is satirical, but I would actually like to see Dan doing well for himself, or at least better than now. I don't think that if I cut off all contact with him abruptly that will be the "slap-in-the-face" or "wake-up call" he needs. I really don't think it would change his current behavior. I don't think that my being here has that much of a negative effect on him either.