Dave from boyinaband is an abuser, polyamorous and a hebephile (youtuber)

[Odie Esty]

writing a letter to the family of your abuser and telling them they're complicit in his abuse is probably not gonna win you any points with them

 

[Shrugcarpet]

As someone who is a fan of Boyinaband I kinda need more evidence than just a letter. Sure, nice guys can be dicks and all that and I can even show people links of him being friends with Pewdiepie and doing gaming streams with him as recently as 6 months ago with Among Us.

It is legal to have sex in UK at aged 16 so hardly grooming.

I'm pretty sure that if Dave was some mass predator who abuses everyone he meets then Felix would be the first to call him out.

I think he lives in or around the Brighton area btw if anyone cares to find more information.

 

[CreamyHerman’s]

Why is it that there is a influx of retards posting today? That's the true crime tbh

 

[GhostButt]

receipts ≠ wall of cropped screenshots
after the vinesauce non-debacle, please just go to the cops if something truly happened, otherwise you're just stirring shit

 

[Shrugcarpet]

Hi Lisa(Lisal?). You are famous on Instagram.

Lisal/Lisa account archive.

Archive of messages on a 72 week old Instagram post.

Also Aliona Mitt from Russia/UK did similar message below that with less than 10 likes. Oh and Marta Jaskulak (archive) had personal experiences according to comments. Check the comments honestly and it will link you to personal Instagram accounts.

 

[JimJams1998]

Is there any solid proof he did any of this? Any recorded audio calls or candid videos were he displays this behavior? I read the screen caps and its just some random who's name you blocked out texting another blocked out name that claims to be his old gf, but never gives real details and half the stories sound like "I had a bad dream about him and he didn't mind read and make life perfect for me " typical zoomerette nonesense. Gunna need some hardproof of him being a pedophile before I listen to any other claims, and "abuser" has been stretched so far that it could mean anything from throwing his spouse down the stairs daily to limiting himself to only spending $1500 a week on her. Zoomer bitches are dumb and histronic and have too much social media access so abuse claims need to be actual legal abuse for me to give a single fuck about.
Edit: Seeing the instragram posts about lisa (?) it sounds like more horseshit, if you have names and proof for legal authorities take it to them first. This "I'm just so scared of this effeminate beta boi" is horseshit, either it goes to the police and then we get deets as the case progresses, or stfu because you have nothing.

 

[Dirk Willems]

Man, Dave, Dan Bull, Rob Scallon. Remember when Andrew Huang wasn't so fruity and made songs about toilets? Yet another reminder that all men are mortal.

 

[Hff201]

This is some Twitter callout bullshit.

There's shit in here that would be funny if you could provide proof, polyamory usually leads to some entertaining antics, as does ecelebs being caught with their pants down; the fact there's no evidence suggests OP is a bitter ex, a moralfag, or both.

Also for the record I think this "dating younger fans is a heckin' problematic yikes" shit is gay as fuck, groupies have been a thing for decades. If you have reason to believe he's slept with underage girls then tell the police so they can deal with him; otherwise you're just a clout chaser.

 

[Caesare]

edit: that shit on imgur, which I can't get past with an adblocker, is from 2009!!!!!!!! jfc

I noticed the date after I read it, but I knew it was ancient as soon as I saw "she added me on MySpace".

It is legal to have sex in UK at aged 16 so hardly grooming.

Same for around 90% of American states. (I didn't know he was british til you said something).

 

[Dona Morte]

While I sympathize, I think this should be handled with mod verification.

I suggest this is handled with a restraining order/ blocking at cursory reading.

 

[Shrugcarpet]

Posts on Instagram suggested to me there was something on Reddit. I went to his official Reddit and there was nothing. Twitter has no recent posts with his name tagged. Like if you want justice then go on fucking Twitter and tag his name and anyone who is affiliated with him. Not suggesting you do but at least group together as one braincell. Youtube video would even give you something. Instead you go on Kiwi Farms.

 

[Product Placement]

I ain't clicking those links , archive them and post the images on the site directly. That would be a good start in fixing what ever mess you just posted

 

[Chongqing]

No one cares.

 

[Shrugcarpet]

At least this ex girlfriend had the balls to do a music video response citing racism. (Archive)

 

[Chaos Theorist]

This aint twitter, we like proof of claims. No male above the age of 18 should be calling themselves a "boy" tho.

Shawn Micheals does whatever he feels like

 

[Dilligaff]

If he is abusive and you have proof, you go to the authorities and let them handle it. Sometimes the authorities are shit and that doesn't work out, I get it, but one way or another you ought to have some solid proof to show.

Also, as an older woman, let me tell you that if a man is abusive or whatever at 35, his family probably can't do much about it. Tattling on him to his mommy makes you look like butthurt children.

If you do bring us better evidence though, the best we're willing to do is laugh at him.

 

[Zeva_Adom]

Man Josh please close the registration permanently. We are in the eternal kiwi-september

 

[7 Girls]

Since you're quite upset about the quality of the post - I will close it and after made one with proper archives, not cropped screenshots etc. Maybe I hadn't handled this well cause I don't know your forum that well but it's still a real concern with a pattern confirmed by a double-digit number of girls.

 

[Bixby Snyder]

All that fucking writing and couldn’t even title it right

 

[T0oCoolFool]

I want you to know that we tried to handle this privately and quietly - we sent a letter to his family in attempts to stop him but without any results. He's still targeting his very young, female fans (he has 3mil subs on yt). Please publish it on your forum.

Er, what exactly do you expect the family to do? Like, I'm trying to think of what I would be expected to do if my family received a letter from digruntled ex girlfriends complaining that my uncle was a sex addict that dates younger women. Like yeah, I don't think it's good but what could I say to my uncle? "Hey uncle Barry, stop dating younger women, it's gross!" What would that accomplish besides me wasting my time? I really want to know what these ex girlfriends want or expect the family to do in this situation.

As you know, David is now a 35yo polyamorous man with over a decade of provable history of dating girls much younger than him, including his highly gullible, obsessive, young fans. As you know, he once dated Rachel, who was 17 when he was 23.

Look. I don't think a 23 year old dating a 17 year old is a good idea, and I'm not gonna be friends with anyone who does this shit. But I also have to acknowledge that in most places of the world, 17 is considered legal and even in places where it's 18, most people aren't going to give a shit about a 17 year old hooking up with a 23 year old. You can find it gross, but this letter's tone makes it sound like he was sleeping with a 10 year or something.

Let us add that this relationship in many countries would be considered as pedophilia

C'mon, give me a break. I get that it's gross for a 23 year old to date a 17 year old, but in no part of the world would anyone consider this a pedo relationship. What a slap in the face to real victims of pedos. This sentence makes it seem like this is just a vindictive ex.

He has a pattern of preying on his young fans - after they admire him and write to him on his social media, he starts to date them. He then tells them how much he loves them ->, that they are replaceable, and finally discards them for new ones as soon as they disagree or refuse to do whatever he wants.

So he pumps and dumps women. Wow, what an asshole! But still, who cares? Maybe before post-nut clarity, he really means what he says and does feel lovely dovey. Then he has sex and realizes he doesn't like them anymore. It's shitty, but shitty boyfriends is not the same as being a power abusing pedo. Here's what you do when you sleep with some guy that ended up being an asshole: learn from it and move on with your life. Take it as a lesson to be more discerning and to not let your emotions or being starstruck guide who you sleep with.

We know this is difficult for you to read, but it needs to be said. He also has a provable porn addiction that includes him being attracted to pre-teenage girls and women who dress to look like children. It's sickening. Especially considering that he dedicated his career to "helping" struggling young people and ended up harming many of them.

Listen, I hate porn and think it has completely ruined our society and this generation of men. It's gross and has turned men into degenerate freaks. If he's watching legal shit though, then who the hell cares? I hate how addicted men are to porn these days, but at the end of the day, this shit is being pushed on everyone by billion dollar corporations. It has become normalized for men to watch it, and it's been deemed empowering for women who star in it, no matter how degrading it actually is for them.

Point is, I don't agree with porn at all, but I also know sending a letter about it to this guy's parents isn't going to do shit when most guys watch the same stuff.

He has a pattern of dating and sleeping with a specific group of girls - younger (most of his recent girlfriends were 10 or more years younger than him) over whom he has power and control, and who are never his equals. What we mean by that is young, poor girls, often students with no big careers yet, whom he can impress by his "success" and money. He exclusively chooses girls with a vast gap money, and influence so he can manipulate and mold them. Most of us (outside of Shona) were too scared to speak about it due to this reason.

Notice that this letter brings up 'age gaps' but never states their ages (except the one 17 year old). Men that date younger women are typically creeps, but if it's legal (Which it must be since the letter NEVER brings up their actual ages) again who cares? Where is he abusing his power? This guy is not rich, and having 3 million subscribers isn't shit. He isn't in any authoritative position at a job, so it's not like he's able to affect these women's livelihoods. By this letter's own words, he tries to impress these ladies with his YouTube influence, these ladies get duped thinking 3 millions subscribers is a lot and fall for him.

Again, we have examples of him being an asshole, but WHO CARES?! Like omg, most women will date at least one asshole in their lives, most of us learn from this and move on.

He coerced multiple young girls into being polyamorous, even if it was something they had never considered before him. He advertises it as a superior way of living which is highly inappropriate if not abusive. He tells his partners that they're replaceable, disappears if they don't do everything he wants, and treats them with zero empathy. We meant nothing to him outside of his pleasure, his wants, and his entertainment. When girls want to leave, he either blocks them before they can confront him or uses his depression and suicidality as cards to force them to stay until he gets bored of them.

Polyamorous relationships are degenerate and never work out. That said, it's trendy right now and seen as totally "empowering" and a new form of sexual liberation. Hell, this part of your letter would piss off a ton of Liberals for being sex negative. Anyway, I think poly people are incredibly naive and stupid, but once again, this is more evidence of him being a player or asshole, not a pedo power abuser.

I'm sorry you and other girls felt like you meant nothing to him, that does suck. But, and I mean this nicely, get the hell over it?? Accept you fell in love with a jerk and move on. Even in this letter, you guys talk about how bad he made you FEEL but there's no actual abuse.

He uses his depression to control girls by justifying why he treats them like garbage or playing the victim card. He always refuses to take any personal responsibility and accountability for how cruel, vindictive, callous, hurtful, and abusive he is. If you ever wondered why years of therapy never really helped him, it's because he cannot face who he really is, and he's unable to take ownership of the things he did, painting himself in bright light in front of his therapists. That's a ticket to nowhere.

This entire part is just emotional drivel. He's a jerk that never wants to admit he's wrong... and? Most of us here can name several people in our lives that are like this. You don't see us writing letters and crusades against them. Jesus, is the concept of just not hanging out with shitty people dead?

He used, abused, and left so many girls that he could, at this point, write an alphabet from the first letters of their names. Please remember - he advertises himself as a male feminist to the entire world - while in reality, he is an abuser of multiple young girls.

Male feminists are cringe and liars, yeah. Still haven't seen any evidence of this ABUSE.

He acts similarly with his friends - treating them badly, as replaceable. Lying about them to make himself look good or to get what he wants. For example when after having no contact for more than a decade with his bandmates, out of the blue he tweeted that they used to ignore his self-harm which was a lie (confirmed and confronted by his bandmates on twitter and on reddit years ago). Darren admitted that they talked after and both apologized but Dave never acknowledged that and left that tweet on his frontpage for almost two years now – sending his twitter mob on his past friends who have normal lives, and Dave got thousands of sympathy tweets from young girls that strongly relate to the problem of self-harm. He does things like that to get attention and pity all the time.

What does him being a shitty friend and bandmate have to do with him being a pedo power abuser? Again, this is just emotional drivel meant to make the reader hate him without actually showing this alleged abuse.

Again, we are sorry that you had to read it. We are not his "haters", not witchhunters, and not strangers. We don't want anything. Like you, we used to care about him. But he has to be stopped. Ours and yours enabling of this has to stop. Deep into your hearts, you know what we're talking about, and we know that you realize how cruel he can be. He needs to face himself and meet the responsibility for the people he hurt before even more young girls get severely damaged, which they will then carry for the rest of their lives.

We know you love your son/brother. We know you just want him to be happy. But he's not happy, he destroys people. He's an abuser, a groomer, a pedofile.

So let me get this straight, he's apparently a pedo power abuser groomer that has many young victims, yet you guys don't want create a witch hunt, you just want him to stop and get better? If he's really this big bad guy, then you guys should doing your best to cancel him and get him in jail. But no, you want him to "do better". More proof that even you guys don't buy your own bullshit, anyone that thought a true abuser and pedo could get "better" is a fucking moron.

Please don't blame yourself for any of it. It is not our intention at all. We are powerless. He needs to be stopped. Please, we beg you, as women, please, please, make him stop.

And again, what exactly do you want his parents to do about this? His personal sex life and how he treats his friends is none of their business or concern. Like can anyone here imagine? "Son, please stop banging bitches!" lol

Below, you can find a little bit of proof of how he treated people, confirmed and proven by multiple of his ex-girlfriends and friends that he had hurt and replaced over the years.

You guys have proved nothing except that he's a typical male feminist poly freak, and a self absorbed asshole. What "evidence" provided shows he's a loser that is beyond help, but it doesn't show he's a "pedofile, groomer, and abuser". Isn't this guy in the UK? Asking because you can sue for libel there much easier than in the USA, and you idiots have made some serious accusations with zero proof. Good luck to you if he decides to sue you.