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- Dec 17, 2022
I didn't give the whole conversation because the post was already very long, but we did talk about it for a while and then talked about it again when I was feeling less sick. He's the type of guy that will never be ready for kids unless he finds himself a girl that baby traps him and makes him have kids. He gave a lot of reasons for not wanting kids (the world is a scary place, kids are expensive, schools are gay, he's not good with kids, etc) which may all be true things, but I still want to have kids one day no matter what's going on in the world. I don't see the point in continuing the relationship, it becoming serious, and then I sit around and hope he eventually comes around.This seems somewhat rash to me. Did he really give any detail on why he doesn't want kids? I believe something like can be changed. I feel like most people who say they don't want to have kids are usually either for petty reasons or something they didn't think much about beyond "uhh kids are gross and annoying" or "this will take up free time I don't believe i'd want to give up", especially when you're in your 20s and maybe haven't really been around kids or again, haven't given it much thought. Seems a shame to give up on a seemingly good relationship when you aren't absolutely sure he isn't willing to budge on this, I mean you can't force someone to want to have kids with you but just from what you said it seems like you didn't talk about it super deeply. I knew another friend who had a break up for similar reasons thought the roles were reversed.
I know there are guys out there that are 100% for having kids and will commit to it even if we're living in crazy and gay times.