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- Jan 24, 2018
when an adult that isn't related to you lives in your house and says something upsetting it hits different. so basically every kid that has divorced parents who got remarried understands this kind of shit happening, it isn't life ruining and the worst step parents do a lot more than hurt feelings. The fucked up thing is that ellen is angry at her step-mom instead of her mom and dad for putting her in this situation to begin with.I guess my point is that I remember my parents saying things that hurt as a kid but it wasn't like they were evil and purposely trying to be a jerk. Sometimes poking fun at someone can go too far and parents may not even realize it really bothered their kids until tears are shed or years later when the kid is older and says "yeah I always hated that".
families that are trying to blend together post-divorce get the worst advice, they are told to treat new siblings like their own family. some families can take a joke and don't get upset when they are the butt of a joke. treating someone like ellen that way is going to make her go insane. otoh the level of sensitivity and pretending that ellen required would probably have damaged the other kids in the household if it were applied equally. all children are extremely weird, and they tend to be weird in exactly the way their biological parents were weird when they were kids. I don't think blended families ever actually workI'd agree if it was just the kids doing it but the adults joining in on it too is fucked up. Especially because she seems to imply that the step-mother would start the bullying and they'd all jump in.