I spoke with a friend of mine who apparently is trans, who saw some of my tweets and wanted to have a discussion with me.
(Now, my tweets aren't hateful towards trans in particular, but they're very pro women's rights and "keep men out of female places" etc.)
He is a volunteer at a youth centre for LGBT+ youth who agreed that we shouldn't give kids hormones/testosterone and shit. So yay of that!
He got increasingly more annoyed at me during the conversation, while brushing off any of the concerns I had. The things he said the trans community actually wanted were all reasonable enough. Proper healthcare, having their IDs changed to go with their new gender identity (I personally really don't care if someone gets Mx on their passport) and to, and I quote "live their lives in peace". He also claimed that people are "just mad" at transgender people and are not allowing them to "live". Because they're not hurting anyone (Cue sad violin music.)
Even after all this abuse from TRAs people, especially women, get online, I still think there's a handful of people who are
actually transgender (the ones that have gender dysphoria) and they just want to live their lives and be left alone.
Anyways, after a lot of poor reading comprehension on his part, he said this conversation was going nowhere because I kept saying transgender women were just pretending. What I in fact said was that I think there are a lot of men indeed pretending to be transgender for nefarious reasons. I named convicted rapist "Karen" White as an example. I told him I wanted him to address men like this because unless he talked about the men who are actual predators claiming to be trans, this conversation would indeed go nowhere.
He then told me he doesn't watch/read the news because it's too depressing.
If you don't watch/read the news or are on social media then how can you possibly know why people are pushing back against this trans movement?
Of course you're going to play the victim and pretend that you're never doing anything wrong because you're safe in your little bubble and you and your friends never do anything bad. The media doesn't help portray trans people very favourably, but it also doesn't portray "TERFs" very favourably either. However, more often than not people and companies still side with TRA because of iNcLuSiViTy™.
He then tried to use this bullshit reasoning of "women can also be perpetrators of rape" argument on me, which is a moot argument as 95% of all rapes in countries everywhere committed are committed by men. And that this is not a convincing argument to just let any man claiming to be a woman waltz in to women only spaces. I told him that self ID hurts statistics like this because if a man (who is more likely to commit a rape), identifies as a woman, for convenience sake or not, they might be put in the sex offender register as a woman, further strengthening that nonsensical argument TRAs like to use.
He did make a distinction between medically transitioned trans women and trans women who still have their dicks. He said with the latter, he could see why they shouldn't be allowed in women's spaces. (Granted, how could you check if the former still has a dick? Just keep them both out.)
The entire conversation was disappointing. I found the lack of acknowledgment that his community wasn't perfect extremely infuriating, but also understandable if you don't watch/read the news
(go watch/read the news asshole).
Also, not once in the conversation did we talk about trans men. Funny how that happened.
I do think a lot of transgender people are pretending and/or confused. I find it really hard to believe that the nearly 41,000 results on GoFundMe for "Top surgery" are actually experiencing body dysmorphia. And a lot of the men are just AGPs.
TLDR: trans people pretend they're all perfect and everyone hates them just for trying to exist. So nothing new here.
