If you want there to be equality, true equality, when it comes to gender identity, you're going to have to realize that the end goal of that is a world where nobody talks about it because IT DOESN'T MATTER.
But that's not what SJWs want
They want to have the cake and eat it too when it comes to "representation" in media.
They not only want their special snowflakes to be treated as equal, but they want it constantly pointed out how different and special said character is, which, make their portrayal inherently unequal and incongruous to the narrative. Make special, but not special at all.
It's a Catch-22 that they are either ignorant of or purposefully pushing so that they can always be right. Whichever option is taken by media producers, the SJWs will retreat to the other side and claim oppression.
You can't win, and ultimately, neither can they. This will all stop when they figure out pandering to them works no better than pandering to any other group of radical identity-politics nutballs.