Having Children

[Fialovy]

Funny how most of the women who ask me if I want kids someday say "I said the same thing" when I would say "no, never." I guess the power of the ovary really DOES compel you.

Truth be told I've had some awesome men (teachers mostly) in my life and I really do envy their wives for knowing how to pick 'em. It makes me want a super smart husband with a doctorate like my anthropology teacher to raise really smart kids and improve our community together. I've had good behaviors modeled for me and I need to model them for any kids I have.

It's bizarre. They take over in a really subtle way. Because of our age difference (bf is a few years younger than me) bf lets me get it out of my system by loudly demanding "babies NAO!" because he knows that I am not really interested until we have our lives sorted.

It's kind of weird how your biological clock (your other one) starts ticking and just ticks louder overtime.

 

[Niachu]

I have a close friend who feels the same way I do about kids. She apparently made a bet with her mom that if she doesn't feel the urge to have kids by the time she's 30 she'll get 150 bucks. Maybe I should get in on that...

 

[wheat pasta]

I know way too much about pregnancy. I might be sterile anyway and I have the worst luck with men.
Other peoples' children, I find to be delightful. I think that's good enough for me But I am only 20, who knows.
If I had to bring a child into my life.. I'd adopt. No doubt about it.

 

[Zim]

I like kids and am really good with them. Most of the kids (my cousins kids actually) who I'm around learn all sorts of cool things like how to make radio controled car ramps and potato guns and marshmellow shooters.

That being said, my favorite thing about the kids I'm around is that at the end of the day they aren't my kids. Other people can handle the expense, messes, and stress of raising a family. What sucks about my view on this is that I'm in my early 30's and my parents (who are fairly traditional) get on me a few times a year about settling down and as the only male in the family the fact I'm not really interested in making a Zim Jr. really dissapoints them I'm sure. I'm not closed to the idea of kids but it would take a really amazing woman to make me change my mind.

On the other hand I'm very financially successful and am a lot more secure then people I know who have kids and that makes me happy. In the end I enjoy being happy.

 

[Wall of Originals]

I would like kids one day; I would like to adopt. Someone has to inherit my stuff. But financially I can't do it and I have not come *close* to finding someone I want to have kids with. Hopefully someday someone will find me attractive enough to wife me.

 

[Surtur]

My son was not planned, don't regret it one bit.

 

[Watcher]

My son was not planned, don't regret it one bit.

Does he carry your family name beard well?

 

[Marvin]

I really don't want kids myself, but I pay taxes and I really like people to adopt as well as people taking care of foster kids. I grew up in foster care and there are a lot of kids out there who need help.

 

[Surtur]

I really don't want kids myself, but I pay taxes and I really like people to adopt as well as people taking care of foster kids. I grew up in foster care and there are a lot of kids out there who need help.

My family fostered when I was growing up, my sister was adopted. Its a good thing.

 

[cheersensei]

I'm at the point of attempting to have children, but until my body decides to allow me the chance to conceive, I will be content with just plenty of practice and hopes that one month, an egg will finally drop.

I've been told I'm good with children and would make a wonderful mother. I have my doubts and fears, and especially hope I do not end up like my mother. My husband is equally nervous, but with his size, he intimidates/scares most small children.

 

[Marvin]

I'm at the point of attempting to have children, but until my body decides to allow me the chance to conceive, I will be content with just plenty of practice and hopes that one month, an egg will finally drop.

I've been told I'm good with children and would make a wonderful mother. I have my doubts and fears, and especially hope I do not end up like my mother. My husband is equally nervous, but with his size, he intimidates/scares most small children.

Heh, well, the range of mothership scale is pretty big. Like, I guess there can be superhero level mothers, but generally, there's mothers who create serial killers, a wide range of tolerable mothers and some bizarre superhero mothers who produce lifelong perfect offspring.

Like, pretty much, as long as you keep your offspring fed and healthy, you'll be a good mother. Heh, that's the lesson I learned from growing up in foster care.

 

[Surtur]

Basically, make sure they train, take their vitamins and say their prayers brother!

 

[Grand Number of Pounds]

Have your kids embrace Hulkamania and they'll be winners at life - brothers

 

[RV 229]

Lord, no. I'm too damn lazy to take care of anything more difficult than my birds. (Not to mention I don't make anywhere near enough money for a kid.)

All I want in regards to a family is a husband and a spare $500 for an abortion should anything go wrong.

 

[Charon]

Don't like kids, don't want to spread my fucked-up genes (assburgers and possible mild schizophrenia, biological mother was a schizophrenic chemically dependent prostitute from a large family of small-time actors, bio father was a Native American gambling addict), possible likelihood of abusing kids from how I was raised & educated, don't want to add another life to this overpopulated world, and don't like how messy & smelly kids are. And being a heavy-drinking/smoking emo with assburgers and a taste for weird cars (looking at an AMC Eagle right now and just ordered a toy model of a Shelby-Dodge GLH Turbo), that does *not* bode well for good father material.

So I'm childfree by both common sense & choice...

 

[hm yeah]

for me - ain't happening, but I wonder about the whatifs. I'd have to watch myself for the shit that runs in my family - being an immature douche, picking on one's own offspring in the way a wannabe popular middle school kid picks on someone lower on the social ladder. It can mess you up to a degree.

Whatif my hypothetical child was an aspie (there's some of that in the family. God, that family member is hard to tolerate...). I would not have a shred of patience for their shit. None at all, period. And I'm usually too tired to do much. I very seldom have the energy to feel intense emotions.

I also really hate filth. I'd probably snap into OCD mode like another family member and kinda mess up my hypothetical kid by not allowing his/her immune system to develop right, constantly yelling at the brat to not touch things, constantly forcing him to scrub himself down every hour, and overall setting the kid up to be sickly and passive-aggressive.

I really do wonder what kind of parent I'd be. Apart from a refridgerator parent, that's really obvious.

 

[Vodka's My BFF]

After recently becoming a proud uncle in October, I'd kinda moved (slightly) away from my hardcore stance of never having a kid. I'm not a breeder and I will never let my navy go out there to some poor surrogate (read: friend in desperate need of cash) to have my offspring. I think one of me in this world is MORE than enough and I would never want to inflict that upon the unsuspecting public.

We'll see how things go with helping my brother and his wife watching the wee one. I take care of the little scamp during the day while they're at work, so I'll find out when he gets older if I possess any parental qualities. Kid ain't gonna get away with anything. Between all of the shit that his parents and I have done in our lives, we'll know.

But I guess if I ever get the urge to have a kid, I could always adopt because those kids need a loving home. And I am so pro-adoption.

 

[KatsuKitty]

I'm gay, so not happening. I have mixed feelings about it really.

 

[Enjoy your spaghetti]

I have a 9 year old daughter. She's one of the coolest people I've ever met. But being pregnant was awful and my income isn't that high, so it's just one kid for me.

 

[Watcher]

I'm gay, so not happening. I have mixed feelings about it really.

What about artificial insemination?