Kinda upset.
A girl I befriended on a penpal site over a year ago; when I really needed to find people, up and ghosted me for six months and finally just came back out of nowhere and admitted it was in fact intentional ghosting.
We really clicked before, and it was a lot of fun talking to her; of course, romantically we didn't work, but finding a passionate new friend was still always enjoyable.
Well, she comes back, admitting to ghosting and that she's been through rough times. Understandable, but I told her time and again ghosting is the ONE THING that always upsets me. And it always has the opposite intended effect when tried on me, because it irritates me so much. It's quite possibly one of the worst things anyone can do to me. People, friends especially, can always tell me anything, but don't expect me to read minds; I never thought this was too much to ask.
Not only that, but she disregarded everything we had been talking about prior and just wanted to 'start over' and worst of all 'keep it casual'. With me. The guy who can always turn a sentence into a paragraph when talking to people. This is just what happens when dealing with me.
So basically, to sum up, she ghosts me for 6 months and comes back making demands, or expecting me to just go along with it until it invariably just happens again without warning.
I wrote and rewrote my reply to her to try not to sound bitter, but to bring up why this bothered me. And when I finally had it, of course even that's too much and now she doesn't want to talk at all and just retreats further.
Man, then talking to me as the friends we once were clearly isn't what you're looking for. I'm not the type to flat out just humor people who clearly need real help and tell them what they want to hear. It might not be what you want to hear, but it's these kind of words that truly make us grow and overcome. It certainly never happens when people give us what we're asking for, especially when we're not even really sure what it is we want.
I'm upset this happened. I never said I didn't wan to talk to her, listen or anything, nor that she upset me past just opting to ghost rather than giving me a heads up on her life at the moment or feelings, just that 'casual' talk with me isn't something I do well without muting who I am, or that me not immediately submitting to her demands like being out of contact, being brushed off time and again when I was genuinely worried about her when she flat out vanished out of nowhere, didn't matter at all.
In any case, I tried to recommend her either some real life therapy, or at the very least, maybe a forum community to join in the meantime. Believe me, registering here did help me back in late 2018, so if she wants to have fun and casually converse with people who won't overly saddle her, maybe it could be just what she needs for now.
I can't give her that.