I finally gave an ultimatum to my boss (basically, promotion/pay raise or leave). But my job is graduate school, where both of us have a stake in people finishing, they don't want to invest resources in people that don't graduate but obviously graduation is a way bigger deal for the graduate themselves. It's a situation with very little leverage, that is.
Generally people say you should have your next job in hand because an ultimatum is basically the same as quitting, and I'd have to worry, what would I do for a career now? As is I have a ton of leisure, if only because I don't do anything, so will I really be any happier working in a 9-to-5? And I lose a potential large salary increase from the credential. But I was miserable all of the time, miserable to the point of being barely functional.
He's asked to meet with me, which I think would mean there's some more thought in the response than just telling me to fuck off/do it faggot.
Edit: What's worrying me more now was that in a mood of hate I responded to a text, "off-business," from a superior (student ahead of me) to fuck off. It wasn't related to our work, but you can't do something like that and not expect them to take it out on you. I had long believed the dude had used me and spread slander about me because I refused to help him after he kept repeatedly showing up late to work on things. Earlier the same day I popped off and swore at and insulted a stranger on the street for wearing a mask. It was like, you know when a boiler is exploding and the rivets start popping off, violently, could take an eye out? That's what yesterday was, sudden explosion of bolts ricocheting around.
