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Why don't you use Wine or virtual machines then? Since Valve made it's feature console based on Linux, it also developed Proton, which works fine.
I don't really have a good answer for that, just that I'm used to Windows and already had it installed on it when I was using it as a media player of sorts. Was also curious as to how easily I could customize a Windows installation. Have some other things that I'm dealing with tech related that took priority over setting up a dual boot or wiping the machine and going the VM route. If anything I might end up running Linux most of the time and only booting into Windows to grab updates, keeping it installed in case there's something that I absolutely cannot do on Linux.
 
i went to sakuracon (girugamesh) solely to buy from vendors and on Saturday not only was there a fire across the street and a gas leak later that evening, i went to the ER for the first time (i'm good all i needed was a liter of IV fluid and some anti nausea medication)
as much as i usually gripe with him my dad drove all the way up for 4 hours to come get me :) <3
(on Thursday the line lasted 4 hours btw. we were there from like 9 to 1 am)
 
4 days til the deadline on this internal promotion esque job I applied for. It's the public sector so they're probably required to actually wait til the deadline before sending out interview invitations, but at this point I just don't expect it. Previous tenant of the job quit due to sheer incompetence, but of course they have a long job history unlike me so they were given a shot whereas someone who's basically already doing that job clearly ain't capable.

Other than that, the usual ping-ponging. "Wow life is great, enjoy every little moment, don't get depressed over lack of progression!" followed by "oh shit I'm gonna die lonely and broke". I get these glimpses of motivation to join a sports club or something but I never act on it. It has dawned on me that very few people actually follow through with their plans and I've seen first-hand how that one little decision can lead to great things. Dude went from no hobbies to dancing and doing choir in the span of a week.

My mom was finally given a chance to relocate 50ft up the aisle to a better fitting, cheaper home, but that apparently caused a rift in the family. Then my lifelong bully aunt sent her a written letter asking to try again, for the 8th time, and she didn't wanna do that either. Really underlines how stuck in their track people generally are.
 
i went to sakuracon (girugamesh) solely to buy from vendors and on Saturday not only was there a fire across the street and a gas leak later that evening, i went to the ER for the first time (i'm good all i needed was a liter of IV fluid and some anti nausea medication)
as much as i usually gripe with him my dad drove all the way up for 4 hours to come get me :) <3
(on Thursday the line lasted 4 hours btw. we were there from like 9 to 1 am)
oh to elaborate btw, i went to the ER for completely different reasons, i hadn't even made it to the con. i only heard about the fire from the paramedics. insane year (this was the first time i went back since 2018)
 
thought I paid off my student loans only to see it had accumulated a dollar in interest in the time it took for the payment to go through so I had to send a payment of a couple dollars. I had Friday off but my weekend got pretty fucked up by me being in a position Thursday night where I wasn't able to sleep until 5am and I never got a decent night's sleep all weekend. Late to work again because my roommate was super slow getting going in the morning, it'll be nice when I get my own car again but that might not be until the fall or next year. At least my work is understanding.
 
Welp, my thing with the wöman didn't work.

Like I expected, her issues with time and family problems defeated us.
It wasn't for lack of trying, or for lack of me being patient with her; don't wanna say too much, but her daughter's reaction to both Mom and Big Sister spending time away from her was severe and worrying, and she has to focus on getting the kid (and the sister, and herself) to a healthier mental place, which is completely understandable. If I saw the relationship affecting my kid, I would stop it and focus on dealing with that, too.

It's better that it happened now, early into the relationship, rather than later when there would be heavier feelings involved.

Still, fucking bummer.
 
Out of a job for a while. I want one more than anything applying every day. Girlfriends boomer parents think I’m just a deadbeat. So I wrote a short poem about it. Might add to it in the future

I forgive and give -have taken the high road for sure
But how much more of the same me must I have to endure
I see clear and love for keeps, not shaking this fear of what’s the world worth when it just wants receipts
The swamp of my mind I must cross in time but even at the end people just see I’m still not dry



I’m so glad she has faith in me. I don’t deserve her.
 
Feeling pretty good. I got my license years ago but only drove off and on since and nothing for the last few years. I picked up a few refresher lessons and I'll be honest I was pretty shaky at first but my instructor told me I was fine today after 3 lessons. So now I just need to buy a car. I can't wait, driving opens up so much freedom.
 
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I thought my router died. Of course, it's been dropping connection a LOT lately. Perhaps it just needed a reset, but it's also kind of old.

But after a while, it just came back to life. Still, nothing more fun than trying to figure out router instructions when you haven't touched them in a minute (oh, the SSID is on the SIDE? Well, fuck me all the way to Toledo.)
 
So, for some reason, my Word documents aren't saving properly; they keep failing to save stuff that I've spent often extended periods of time writing down. Just opened up a document that I was working on earlier, and it's deleted nearly 2-3 hours' worth of writing that I had done. So, that really nice.

And yes, I've checked out my history and stuff on my computer; it just vanishes completely, no idea what the hell's going on.
Sorry to ask, but did you check the Roaming folder? I've been able to recover a couple things there.

I feel mad. I'm not sure why. I simultaneously feel mad at everything and nothing. I just feel stuck and that I should be further along in life by now.
Just keep cranking. And I'm not being flip - head down and grind will, with time, give you some traction and information for going forward.

Yesterday my father lost his battle with a particularly aggressive form of cancer, just about 6 months after his diagnosis.
I guess losing a parent is never easy, especially when they go so early from something that nobody could control or prevent, but I’m still trying to be happy for the fact that he isn’t suffering anymore. It’s still the toughest thing I’ve ever experienced though.
2025 has been the worst year of my life so far. I just hope later on something will happen to redeem it in some way.
Damn. I'm sorry.


I just wish my mom would admit to me that she just fucking hates me. I wish she'd tell me why and just be honest.

It won't fix anything but I want some "closure" I guess.

I'm working towards acceptance, way I view it is I'm thinking of a lot of what I'm living/lived through as "grief".

I feel like if I'm able to accept these things it might make Hell burn a little cooler.

It hurts seeing all the families and couples out during the holidays. It hurts a lot. I am extremely lonely, I have been trying to meet people to no avail.

I need to get back to my squats.
You many never get that answer. Do yourself a favor and decide not to need it. Grieve and go.
 
Sorry to ask, but did you check the Roaming folder? I've been able to recover a couple things there.

Yes. For whatever reason, even that didn't catch the current version. No idea why; at the very least, I've been able to manually recreate what I had previously, so it's not the biggest of losses, but it was still pretty annoying.
 
Yes. For whatever reason, even that didn't catch the current version. No idea why; at the very least, I've been able to manually recreate what I had previously, so it's not the biggest of losses, but it was still pretty annoying.
If I have to use an unreliable computer for actual work, I just do all the text in vim or Notepad or something with frequent saves, then paste it all in as plain text and only apply the formatting all at the same time at the end.
 
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