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[Look over there]

Just found out yesterday that my dad is in the hospital, some dirty nasty fucking cunt gave him a cold and now he's on a downward spiral and might die because he's got no immune system due to treatments for leukemia. He has a very strong chance of dying so I'm trying to plan a trip as soon as I can to see him. No one fucking told me where he was, not a fucking one. I'm disgusted.

I'm so sorry man. I'll say a prayer for both you and your father.

 

[Gravityqueen4life]

i cant believe i keep coming back but i need somewhere to vent. my mom told me she took screen shoots of my dads bankcard history and will use it against in court if he tries anything. i asked her if she stored it on her computer and she says no. just her phone. i ask her to make copies and even send it to me so i can archive it but she refuse to have any of it. even a friend of my father told her to make copes but she refuse. says she will print out on Friday once she buys new ink to the Fax. i hope the phone wont break until than.

my middle brother called. he acts sort of like a mediator for my dad since he has been living on his own since he was 15 and not been around dads downward spiral. he was with mom when she found him on the hotel room and even saw the bank history of my dad. he still defends him. saying he is sick, needs help and we need to stick toghater. me, my mom and the youngest brother yelled at him of all the awful things he has done and he still keeps repeating himself. he even went so far as blaming mom that she looked at dads bank account saying she should not have done that. i wanted to punch him right than and there but had to hold back. called him naïve, retarded and dad will soon lie and cheat him out money as well. mom was crying the entire time too and he still had the balls to defend that piece of shit. but even mom went full retard. saying i should not be "mean" to my bother beacuse he dosent know any better.

everyone is so dumb man. except the youngest who said he will kill dad (in minecraft) if he tries and enter our home (in minecraft).

 

[Look over there]

everyone is so dumb man

Rob J Madin - 'Everybody On The Internet's An Idiot'

A song I did. Download it here: https://itunes.apple.com/gb/album/everybody-on-internets-idiot/id657525838 (Also available from most other online stores).

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Hope things turn out alright

 

[Frofo Baggis]

My cats been missing for 4 days. I can only assume the worst

Update: She came back

 

[naaaaiiiiillllll!!!]

All the Great Men are dead, and I’m not feeling so well, myself.

I know the feels bro. The only “answer” I have is we need to be the Great Men ourselves and do the best we can.

 

[Smaug's Smokey Hole]

i dont know how it works in Sweden but in other countries, they force the next of kin to pay off any debts if the person dies or disappears.

i honestly think my father wants to die but to afraid to do it the old fashion way.

Inheriting debt was made illegal quite some time ago in Sweden. The scummiest thing that will happen is that the creditors(banks etc) will try to take anything of value after his death, like property, cars, heirloom jewelry, interesting pottery and idk, maybe a collection of fishing gear and hunting rifles. Generally anything someone have as insured is what they will be aware of and looking for if they go for the executive auction route and selling it off as "lösöre" so antique stores can refresh their inventory. I'm not bitter about that.

Whatever they say they will present it as an offer to solve a problem that isn't yours(his debt, that can never be yours legally). It is not an offer you can decline but you can challenge it and force an evaluation of the things they want. Maybe grandma owes the bank 30k and they want to take her house after her death to cover it, that's not fair at all and should be challenged. You can then cough up the money for the debt and keep the house or clean it out and sell it to pay off the debt and keep the remainder. (depending on where you are in the will/next of kin, this can get complicated if there's no will)

edit: I am not a lawyer of course but the bank/creditors will bank on you not being one either, just be aware that there are options.

My advice is: if you dad is in possession of anything valuable that is near and dear to you, you should quietly rob your him on his death bed and claim he probably pawned them to get into NFT trading.

edit: I was feeling really bad a day or two ago but I have been cleaning like crazy, went and bought a new set of mop heads and a new soap at 7am, I have been scrubbing door frames and tiles for hours, my breathing is hoarse from the fumes but having sparkling clean corners and a new smell everywhere seems to have really helped.

 

[AnOminous]

Inheriting debt was made illegal quite some time ago in Sweden. The scummiest thing that will happen is that the creditors(banks etc) will try to take anything of value after his death, like property, cars, heirloom jewelry, interesting pottery and idk, maybe a collection of fishing gear and hunting rifles.

Creditors can generally collect against an estate, especially on secured loans like mortgages, but they generally can't enforce against relatives. This is a little complicated in that many states still have "filial responsibility" statutes actually on the books, but it's almost unheard of for them to be enforced. The one state that still does, albeit rarely, is Pennsylvania, and the legislature is currently considering doing away with this.

However, because there are such laws, unethical creditors will try to trick people into paying on these debts, so they can then argue they voluntarily assumed them, which is why you never pay these lying fucks a penny without talking to your own lawyer first, who will probably tell you to tell them to go fuck themselves.

 

[JosephStalin]

Yesterday for the first time since February was able to walk two miles to the local wellness center for last physical therapy visit and walk back, four miles total. No problems, felt very good. Later that day walked to mother-in-law's house and back, third of a mile each way, then while downtown getting car fixed walked around and did some errands. Altogether walked about five miles yesterday. Tired in the evening but totally expected.

This morning walked about three miles. Tomorrow morning going to walk up and down a hill twice.

Just grateful to get some more pieces of my life back after sciatica took so much this spring. Things left fast, came back slowly. But they came back. Outside of the occasional twinge, just about fully healed. Do some exercises for the back after walking, plan to continue indefinitely.

Physically, this has been the hardest year of my life. But have made it through, looking for a better 22. Could have been one hell of a lot worse.

 

[Smaug's Smokey Hole]

Creditors can generally collect against an estate, especially on secured loans like mortgages, but they generally can't enforce against relatives.

Just a hypothetical question about american law: Can they still collect from a relative if they are in possession of a valuable item that was part of their inheritance but the item was gifted to them many years before? Let's say someone was given a necklace worth 100k from their aunt 10 years ago, the aunt dies, it's still listed as hers through some means - ancient insurance info, the part of the will gifting it to her niece stands unchanged since 1968, I don't really know this is why we need the block chain. What can and can't you give away?

The niece didn't exactly get a receipt for it just like you wouldn't get a receipt if I gave you uncle Rusty's oil drum gril. Under what circumstances if any can creditors go for the necklace(in the event that Dead Aunt owes 1 billion dollars so everything must go, niece is still in the will being gifted the necklace but she's had it for 10 years already)?

sorry, I'm sneezing so god damn much while typing that it gets weird.

 

[AnOminous]

What can and can't you give away?

You can't fraudulently transfer property to avoid a debt. I'd think ten years would be long enough past that it wouldn't be considered such a transfer, but I have no idea what the will would do. Probably it would vary state by state and you'd need an estate lawyer to answer it. Usually if someone wrongfully takes from an estate, i.e. there was one heir in the house at the time who went picking through the belongings for things to take, someone entitled to it could file a claim in probate and then have an incredibly ugly family fight about it.

If the material isn't even in the estate because the testator gave it away ten years ago, I don't think they could undo that. Maybe if she stole it or just borrowed it and never returned it.

 

[Sped Xing]

I had a shower epiphany that one of my old friends only stopped being my friend because I actively shunned him. I wasn't even aware I was doing it, but I'd not answer the phone or reply to messages and avoided places I might run into him.

Spoiler: Read my blog

So I thought, "that's odd. I can't remember him having offended me in any way." I decided to do an inventory. I sat down and wrote all the close friends I had six years ago before I fell on my head. I tried to be fair to myself-- only people whose houses I'd been to, whose company I sought out, and would talk to about things more meaningful than weather or random office-friendly humor. I didn't include their spouses, even if I had a good rapport with said spouse.

I came up with eighteen people. Twelve of them fall under the category of "I just ghosted them for no reason I can recall." Only one did I choose to stop speaking to because I'd decided I didn't like him anymore. I really only talk to one of the eighteen anymore, and that only online.

Is this part of getting older? I can't say I really *miss* any of them, and I'm pretty unambiguously much happier now than I was then. Still, it seems odd, and it didn't occur to me until I responded to Omnanimous about medical debt that this trend started about the same time I got my bell rung.

I hereby diagnose myself with accidental lobotomy. "Must be some frontal lobe damage."

Creditors can generally collect against an estate, especially on secured loans like mortgages, but they generally can't enforce against relatives. This is a little complicated in that many states still have "filial responsibility" statutes actually on the books, but it's almost unheard of for them to be enforced. The one state that still does, albeit rarely, is Pennsylvania, and the legislature is currently considering doing away with this.

However, because there are such laws, unethical creditors will try to trick people into paying on these debts, so they can then argue they voluntarily assumed them, which is why you never pay these lying fucks a penny without talking to your own lawyer first, who will probably tell you to tell them to go fuck themselves.

I still receive invoices from a hospital bill I wasn't able to pay (thanks so much VA) in 2015. My understanding is they're trying to get me to voluntarily assume debt I'm no longer liable for. Accurate?

 

[Smaug's Smokey Hole]

You can't fraudulently transfer property to avoid a debt. I'd think ten years would be long enough past that it wouldn't be considered such a transfer, but I have no idea what the will would do. Probably it would vary state by state and you'd need an estate lawyer to answer it. Usually if someone wrongfully takes from an estate, i.e. there was one heir in the house at the time who went picking through the belongings for things to take, someone entitled to it could file a claim in probate and then have an incredibly ugly family fight about it.

If the material isn't even in the estate because the testator gave it away ten years ago, I don't think they could undo that. Maybe if she stole it or just borrowed it and never returned it.

Oh it wasn't about fraudulently avoiding debt. I didn't want to lead the question too much but I was thinking about what you can and can't give away without registering it somewhere(that's the blockchain joke), yet it will be acknowledged that you gave it away. Without a contract or a receipt.
Land, cars, houses and all kinds of other things needs to have a registered owner of some kind, but a necklace does not even if it is worth a lot of money. You would want to insure it and register that you have Family Heirloom in your possession but it is not a legal requirement as far as I know.


Well, there's gift taxes in countries that have those I suppose...

 

[AnOminous]

I still receive invoices from a hospital bill I wasn't able to pay (thanks so much VA) in 2015. My understanding is they're trying to get me to voluntarily assume debt I'm no longer liable for. Accurate?

You'd have to look up your state, it varies from the lowest at three to the highest at 15.

This has a list:

Statute of Limitations on Debt Collection by State (Best Guide) | SoloSuit Blog

Summary: Been sued for a debt but you think the statue of limitations has expired? Use SoloSuit to fight the lawsuit and assert the statute of limitations properly. Here's the thing, nothing lasts forever, not even debt. That's why we made this authoritative guide on the statute of limitations...

www.solosuit.com

If you had to sign a contract it might specify what state although it's probably where you got the treatment. But creditors like to specify states with longer statutes if they can.

 

[Jonah Hill poster]

Today I just realized that come next year, I have about five months left after I finish my undergraduate certificate program in CIS, and now I have to start planning my early possible rejection acceptance into grad school.

Meanwhile, I have been able to get into the gym in the last few days, so it‘s a relief to finally get some well-needed exercise.

 

[Some Badger]

I’m worried that I’m spending too much time on here and affecting my productivity. I don’t have a lot of work lined up for this month so I’m kinda just coasting off my earnings and living below my means till Christmas. I can’t bring myself to draw or practice animation; I can’t focus at all, really. Getting hyperfixated on covid news and stressing over my employment prospects next year has left my mind in a fog.

 

[Neurotypical Mantis]

i haven't eaten all day and had some bomb spaghetti + tomato sauce and parm. i feel like those shrimp in the biotank videos who are full of carrot

 

[Sped Xing]

You'd have to look up your state, it varies from the lowest at three to the highest at 15.

This has a list:

Statute of Limitations on Debt Collection by State (Best Guide) | SoloSuit Blog

Summary: Been sued for a debt but you think the statue of limitations has expired? Use SoloSuit to fight the lawsuit and assert the statute of limitations properly. Here's the thing, nothing lasts forever, not even debt. That's why we made this authoritative guide on the statute of limitations...

www.solosuit.com

If you had to sign a contract it might specify what state although it's probably where you got the treatment. But creditors like to specify states with longer statutes if they can.

Four years across the board in Texas, wow. Who do they think they're kidding?

Sue me, faggots.

 

[Phalanges Mycologist]

My nose is running today, and I still have that midget using a a jack hammer inside my skull - On the plus side I got a A* on one of my assignments including practical work that I am really happy about,

 

[Sped Xing]

My nose is running today, and I still have that midget using a a jack hammer inside my skull - On the plus side I got a A* on one of my assignments including practical work that I am really happy about, the only remark I got was "If this wasn't made from Mild Steel, I'd be pushed to say this wasn't original" and I am extra proud of that because apart from the Anvil I used I made every tool myself, including leather and powdered stone abrasives.

Your autism is the cool kind, just saying. If you don't have a thread about your metalwizarding, you should make one.

 

[MerriedxReldnahc]

The crisis from monday has escalated from "everything is weird" to "I have been analy eviscerated and lube was not involved". Basically doing a lot of damage control for someone else's mistake that got me fucked over, hopefully things can be fixed

*update that no one cares about*
I'm not in trouble anymore and the guy who fucked up is very much in low esteem now. I feel bad because I liked him but he made a decision that screwed over not just me specifically but the whole business. I feel much, much, better now.