How are you doing? - Kiwi Farms Wellness Check

[A Grey Cat]

Update still no electricity x I'm staying at my dad's attic of all places. it's small and there's almost nothing to do but read the few books I brought with me and use my phone but it's better than sitting in the dark doing nothing. Got a place to charge my phone at least, hope someone fixes this electric crap soon.


Edit moved my game console into the place and launched a mobile hot-spot on my phone you know at this point I might as well move what I can from my old place and just settle down here... At least till I can find something more permanent.

 

[Monkey Shoulder]

My plan to substitute alcohol and literally any social interactions with "friends and family" for work and more work has been thwarted, and now I have to stay sober out of sheer will instead of necessity, and my excuse to never meet anyone has stopped being a thing.
God damn it

 

[Pale Empress]

Got "involved" with a close coworker these past couple of days. It's a complicated situation. They are, for lack of a better term, my mentor. They trained me at my job and we work together for all of our shifts, I've had a crush on them for most of this time, and shoved those feelings away because they've been in a relationship (albeit an unhappy one) for most of the past year, which they finally broke off last month.

We went to a friend's house for the last couple of days and ended up sleeping together for the past two nights (no sex, but a lot of heavy petting and making out). I'm uncertain about how to pursue this. I don't typically do "hookups" (admittedly this wasnt technically a hookup) and as I said before, I've had feeling for them for a long time so i'm thinking I'm just going to let it lie and see if/how it progresses. I don't want to jeopardize our friendship and I don't want to fuck with my own head over unrequited pining, so why complicate things, I guess.

 

[Nick Obre]

Got "involved" with a close coworker these past couple of days. It's a complicated situation. They are, for lack of a better term, my mentor. They trained me at my job and we work together for all of our shifts, I've had a crush on them for most of this time, and shoved those feelings away because they've been in a relationship (albeit an unhappy one) for most of the past year, which they finally broke off last month.

We went to a friend's house for the last couple of days and ended up sleeping together for the past two nights (no sex, but a lot of heavy petting and making out). I'm uncertain about how to pursue this. I don't typically do "hookups" (admittedly this wasnt technically a hookup) and as I said before, I've had feeling for them for a long time so i'm thinking I'm just going to let it lie and see if/how it progresses. I don't want to jeopardize our friendship and I don't want to fuck with my own head over unrequited pining, so why complicate things, I guess.

Don't be the rebound.
Doesn't end well.

 

[Ultrapenguin]

My plan to substitute alcohol and literally any social interactions with "friends and family" for work and more work has been thwarted, and now I have to stay sober out of sheer will instead of necessity, and my excuse to never meet anyone has stopped being a thing.
God damn it

That's half the problem these days, there just aren't enough other outlets. It's not that hard to not drink/get high/eat/whatever if you're actively stimulated and invested in something, but unless you're a braindead slug you're going to run out of those options pretty quickly since modern life feels like living in a fucking aquarium a lot of the time. Plus even if you have the will to change or do differently you wind up doing it alone since everyone else is just as or more fucked up as you are.

While passing by I've noticed the cars parked at local AA meetings multiply a good 4x in the last half decade. There's something really sick about the fact people have nowhere else to turn except substance abuse to kill off all those pesky incongruous stimuli that come with being a human being in the modern world.

Got "involved" with a close coworker these past couple of days. It's a complicated situation. They are, for lack of a better term, my mentor. They trained me at my job and we work together for all of our shifts, I've had a crush on them for most of this time, and shoved those feelings away because they've been in a relationship (albeit an unhappy one) for most of the past year, which they finally broke off last month.

We went to a friend's house for the last couple of days and ended up sleeping together for the past two nights (no sex, but a lot of heavy petting and making out). I'm uncertain about how to pursue this. I don't typically do "hookups" (admittedly this wasnt technically a hookup) and as I said before, I've had feeling for them for a long time so i'm thinking I'm just going to let it lie and see if/how it progresses. I don't want to jeopardize our friendship and I don't want to fuck with my own head over unrequited pining, so why complicate things, I guess.

"In an unhappy relationship" and "recently broke it off" usually means a guy is in a turbulent time with a crazy chick who they're in an on and off situation with.

Virtually always the dude winds up going back with who he was with originally or moving on and abandoning their new side piece. If someone is going to go into that, I'd go into it expecting it at least.

 

[Kerwin White]

Things are as bad as they've ever been. I'm not the type to KMS, but if I could die of a vax injury in my sleep, or if Big Vlad could just nuke us already, I'd be really grateful.

 

[The Gifted Kid]

So I just found out today that my roommate gave away six months worth of recyclable cans and bottles to a bottle drive last night. I know I shouldn’t be as mad about this as I am but she didn’t even bother to ask me about it. On top of that she’s now mad at me because she thinks I don’t have a heart or something. I guess she doesn’t realize that I use the extra money we get from the cans and bottles to pay for groceries and stuff. I'm just going to learn from this experience instead of complaining about it any more and I'll start putting big labels on stuff that reads “DO NOT GIVE AWAY/THROW OUT” in big bold letters.

 

[Nick Obre]

So I just found out today that my roommate gave away six months worth of recyclable cans and bottles to a bottle drive last night. I know I shouldn’t be as mad about this as I am but she didn’t even bother to ask me about it. On top of that she’s now mad at me because she thinks I don’t have a heart or something. I guess she doesn’t realize that I use the extra money we get from the cans and bottles to pay for groceries and stuff. I'm just going to learn from this experience instead of complaining about it any more and I'll start putting big labels on stuff that reads “DO NOT GIVE AWAY/THROW OUT” in big bold letters.

Look I get the idea of accumulating your cans and bottles to trade them for money, and that it's rude to give them away without asking, but why did you have six months' worth of them?

You were getting dangerously close to just being a hoarder there lad.

 

[Shamefur Dispray]

Got "involved" with a close coworker these past couple of days. It's a complicated situation. They are, for lack of a better term, my mentor. They trained me at my job and we work together for all of our shifts, I've had a crush on them for most of this time, and shoved those feelings away because they've been in a relationship (albeit an unhappy one) for most of the past year, which they finally broke off last month.

We went to a friend's house for the last couple of days and ended up sleeping together for the past two nights (no sex, but a lot of heavy petting and making out). I'm uncertain about how to pursue this. I don't typically do "hookups" (admittedly this wasnt technically a hookup) and as I said before, I've had feeling for them for a long time so i'm thinking I'm just going to let it lie and see if/how it progresses. I don't want to jeopardize our friendship and I don't want to fuck with my own head over unrequited pining, so why complicate things, I guess.

Don't stick your dick in company ink
or maybe don't rub your clitoris on company.... busi-ness?
you get the idea

 

[The Gifted Kid]

Look I get the idea of accumulating your cans and bottles to trade them for money, and that it's rude to give them away without asking, but why did you have six months' worth of them?

You were getting dangerously close to just being a hoarder there lad.

Lol I know. Honestly it's partly my fault since I kept putting it off and it was starting to take up space. Still tho people need to keep their grubby lil' whopper jr. hands off my cans...

 

[Overly Serious]

Not well at all. I feel dead inside, about as close to an island as any man can get in this world, being unable or unwilling to relate to anyone irl, and online relationships feel pointless. Oh well, guess there's nothing that can be done about it other than to just, push on and hope this feeling subsides. Same as every other time.

I think a lot of us feel like that right now. We're like those desert plants that appear dead for a long time, waiting for rain. Sometimes for years. It's a way to protect outselves from letting the anger or the loneliness or the boredom from really change us. Just shut down and hope something will come along so we can feel alive again. I'm sorry you feel that way. Try to find some spark inside and kindle it like you're trying to get a fire going - find things to do or someone to meet even if you have to do something out of the ordinary. We are not desert plants and we can only keep up that isolation for a limited amount of time. Life is short - I hope you shake this off. Winter isn't helping (assuming you're in the Northern hemisphere with us). I'm doing a little the same as you - setting up routines that keep me functioning and somewhat productive until Spring. Hang in there, buddy. A lot of us are islands right now. I'm trying to figure out how to build bridges myself.

Got "involved" with a close coworker these past couple of days. It's a complicated situation. They are, for lack of a better term, my mentor. They trained me at my job and we work together for all of our shifts, I've had a crush on them for most of this time, and shoved those feelings away because they've been in a relationship (albeit an unhappy one) for most of the past year, which they finally broke off last month.

We went to a friend's house for the last couple of days and ended up sleeping together for the past two nights (no sex, but a lot of heavy petting and making out). I'm uncertain about how to pursue this. I don't typically do "hookups" (admittedly this wasnt technically a hookup) and as I said before, I've had feeling for them for a long time so i'm thinking I'm just going to let it lie and see if/how it progresses. I don't want to jeopardize our friendship and I don't want to fuck with my own head over unrequited pining, so why complicate things, I guess.

The tightrope between going too far and letting it fizzle out to friendship can be a difficult one. Other poster is right that you don't want to be the rebound. But sometimes the rebound is actually an escape that helps prevent backsliding. Really you're going to have to judge it yourself based on how they're behaving. If they keep talking about their ex that's a bad sign. If you can help them stop talking about the ex (I mean genuinely, not just make them afraid to do so around you), then that's a good sign. Only advice I can actually give is try to be strong about it and to make it clear to them that you genuinely like them and you'd be happy to date, but not happy to just hook up. Let them know your worth. It sounds like they genuinely are attracted to you and like you, so that's a good start. Try to keep things slow but moving is probably what I would do. Assuming your crush is a male then it's not wrong to keep them stringing along a little. Making them pursue you just a little bit makes them feel like they actually have someone whose respect and interest they want to earn. And that compensates a little for any loss of feelings of worth they derived from their ex's validation of them. Don't be cruel - the opposite. But make clear they need to impress you a little if they want all of you. Make them feel like they've lucked out and found someone better than their ex if they can avoid fucking it up.

While passing by I've noticed the cars parked at local AA meetings multiply a good 4x in the last half decade. There's something really sick about the fact people have nowhere else to turn except substance abuse to kill off all those pesky incongruous stimuli that come with being a human being in the modern world.

I lost a friend to heroin. I explained to someone else that what makes it hard to get off substances is not always the substance itself, but that there's nothing else in your life.

Things are as bad as they've ever been. I'm not the type to KMS, but if I could die of a vax injury in my sleep, or if Big Vlad could just nuke us already, I'd be really grateful.

I hope things get better. If you keep feeling like that, talk to someone.

 

[TomServo]

It's a year to the day since I quit smoking cigarettes. So, I'm pretty pleased with myself. Other than that, I have a great job, good friends and a wife that I adore. It's also spooky season and that's my favorite time of year. I couldn't be happier.

 

[MadDisaster]

Not doing well today. Muh mentals. But I hate talking to friends about it, because I don't want to worry them or be a downer. Can't focus on anything for distraction. All my drawings this month have been failures. Just one of those hopelessly sad moods.

 

[Quantum Diabetes]

I dropped my shitty therapist and got a new one, Jesus she’s cute, it’s kinda like a young Olivia Newton John.
The last one was a prematurely old Jewish chick (only 2 with a nose that looked like a flaccid penis.
Hopefully I lose this one because I end up fucking them.
Wouldn’t be the first time. Fingers crossed.

 

[AnOminous]

It's a year to the day since I quit smoking cigarettes. So, I'm pretty pleased with myself. Other than that, I have a great job, good friends and a wife that I adore. It's also spooky season and that's my favorite time of year. I couldn't be happier.

It's almost 21 years since I quit smoking and one of the best things I did, while starting was one of the dumbest. I'd repeatedly failed after having grand plans of doing it but finally succeeded after just one day suddenly quitting and using Nicorette until I could wean myself off that.

 

[Some Badger]

I got a new boss in my department during the week the site was down. Pretty okay guy tbh. I'm probably going to resume my job search with the confidence that I'm leaving this department in good hands now that we have a full staff for the first time in two months.

 

[Ughubughughughughughghlug]

I started therapy a while back to deal with constant anger and panic attacks. It hasn't helped much. I did start going to church again.

Therapy is nice to have someone extra to talk to, but it often just puts my obsessions at the front of my mind (on one day of the week when I would be in the best mood), and these dudes don't actually have advice, they just have you talk about things.

 

[WolfeTone]

My spine is crumbling to dust

send goldbelly pies

 

[Vingle]

Feeling good. I have gone up about 6 kg/13 lbs, in the morning before eating. Add 2 kg/4 lbs with foods at the end of the day.
I do lift a little bit heavier in general. even bench press and overall more stable. As in not swaying as much with the barbell.
I did hit my personal record of 200 kg/440 lbs on leg press yesterday. To be fair, I felt that I could add on even more weight, but that's not always the right thing. Slow and steady is the way to go.
Only doing 60 kg/132 lbs on squats, but yea. That's more involved than leg press, balance and shit. Meanwhile leg press is a machine just to supplement the squats.

Food budgeting is somewhat confusing, because I eat so much now. So currently relaxing on my "have fun money"

 

[Jonah Hill poster]

Just applied for graduate school so I can take a computer science-based program. I’m now waiting to hear back from them, but currently I’m looking into other alternatives for jobs if I don’t get accepted in.