How are you doing? - Kiwi Farms Wellness Check

[Friend of Dorothy Parker]

whereas I expected to go all-in and spend 24/7 at university, everyone else instead treated it like public school. In and out as fast as possible. No clubs no groups no nothing.

That's such a shame. My college experience was the opposite - school became home, and quickly, for nearly everyone. 30+ years later, I still remember the names of nearly everyone from my freshman dorm. And not for nothing, but back then there was one phone per hall, one TV for the whole (small) dorm, and almost everyone had their doors open nearly all the time. Those things made connection the norm rather than the exception - even for those (and there were many in my dorm) not naturally comfortably "social."

going to social events for the sake of meeting people is paradoxical, cause nobody who has a healthy social life would need to go to events to meet people

1. Hmm. They are social events. Socializing is the point. They may also be based in things the people there enjoy, so that's also part of it, but there's nothing goofy about going to social events and socializing.
2. How do you think people get healthy social lives? By socializing!

Sadly, my only such normie passion is cycling and making a weekly activity out of that is gonna ruin the freedom I feel about cycling. "Nope, it's 3 times a week at these hours".

Fair enough, and I am also someone who hates getting locked into routines/ expectations, but how about just go with the group when you feel like it/are available? And maybe you like it so much that the Saturday morning ride is something you come to look forward to - and therefore is less a restriction on your freedom and more a willing choice.

I'm getting ratfucked at work by someone talking behind my back, and I know who's doing it, and I just got confirmation theyre doing it. Time to wage a silent political war to save my career.

Good decision and good luck. If someone is undermining you/your rep, be smart about your counter-assault and first focus on making yourself bullet-proof before saying or implying anything about that person directly - make your own performance impeccable, meet with influential people individually & regularly, and hyper-communicate what you're doing. You probably know these things, so just consider this an endorsement from a random stranger.

 

[boards of canada]

Have to work on something with a pair of possibly the most catty women in existence. I feel drained.

Spoiler

Why don't people just voice their opinions of someone to their face, or at least not behind their back? If you do it in a civil, passive manner, then I don't see how the other party could have a problem with it. Even then, I'd rather you just say all those horrible things about me to my face than half-whisper it to your friend in some kind of elaborate social game where you want me to think you're trying to hide your gossip but you actually want me to hear it all. I fought against brown people, and suddenly that makes it all fine to ask me if I'm racist or to accuse me of such? It's okay to bring up all those deeply traumatic memories, because I'm a racist muzzie-killer and that's what makes it okay. You don't agree with me, so it's okay to ask me how many I've killed or if I came close to dying or if I witnessed someone I know die. It's okay to ask in that eternally smug better-than-you voice.
My head feels like it's going to explode. I don't know if I can handle being around them anymore because just the sight of them makes me sick. I know they'll take any opportunity to shame me or ask very inappropriate invasive questions. Or point and stare at and whisper about my leg. I've never wronged them personally. I don't understand.
I want to move on and live like other people do despite my permanent disability, but it seems that those other people simply won't let me. I'll never be like them because they see my disability as justice.

 

[Jotch]

NIGGER NIGGER NIGGER NIGGER YHWH NIGGER NIGGER NIGGER NIGGER NIGGGER NIGGER NIGGER COPE AND SNEED
(I am doing quite well and feel sneedily and wishbyou all the same.)

 

[Otis Mallebrok]

It's snowing outside, and we have district heating. Best combination ever

 

[Core Theorist]

I went outside for like 30 minutes. It was pretty boring but now I'm slightly less miserable. Gross!

 

[PaleTay]

In terms of making friends, I face the issue of not being unwilling to "stoop" to joining a local club, but I also want to meet people of my age and I won't. I've opted out of so much social media and other normal things that my chances of meeting someone else having done so are minimal. Straight up going to social events for the sake of meeting people is paradoxical, cause nobody who has a healthy social life would need to go to events to meet people, so the only ones who do are friendless for a reason. Myself included. But owning up to not having friends and doing something about it is extremely rare. The only logical solution is to find a place to go for something I enjoy doing regardless of the audience and then simply hoping I'll be surrounded by good people. Sadly, my only such normie passion is cycling and making a weekly activity out of that is gonna ruin the freedom I feel about cycling. "Nope, it's 3 times a week at these hours".

I find social events ironic because you have to know people to meet people and it really depends on the event how much people network. I've never really liked normies, they seem desperate to be liked for their consumerism instead of intrinsic drive, creativity, or loyalty and I don't always have the social energy for it unless I'm being paid or networking on behalf of someone getting paid. Or they worship people I hangout with who are just normal people with a business or internet page.

 

[Rome's rightful successor]

Just an update, I'm feeling much better. Still have a cough (though not as bad) and a my voice is still recovering but today is much better than last week.

Now I think I'm fully in the clear. Life feels fully good again.

 

[Osama Bin Laden]

i needed to hear this, so i figure someone else might as well

Spoiler: context

 

[LonesomeDud]

Update on the SH nonsense: Well, we have cameras everywhere, and the lying whore was found to have fabricated the entire thing.

Now, the funny part is, I am largely a passive guy. I did a little research, and let's just say: I hope it was all worth it. I really do. Because the party's over.

 

[Betonhaus]

I just finished sending off a bunch of documents, hopefully it works out

 

[missnaptime]

i have 3 and a half hours to write over 1000 words for an essay.

its not gonna be good, but its gonna be in on time, damn it, and then i'm going back to bed.

 

[PuffMacMuffin]

I just purchased a home, move in is taking longer than i want, also uncertain future in my country.

 

[Betonhaus]

I'm wondering when the ego death happened

 

[missnaptime]

its in! its done! is it good? probs not. will it pass? yes. a win

 

[Optavia Sales Rep]

After some touch and go, we've got a game plan for Dad's surgery and meds. The anxiety of him being in the hospital was the worst part.
I've been waiting for a correspondence for over a week. I think it's time to just write that off as a loss and move on.
Work is work.
Hit my weight loss goal ahead of schedule. Feeling pretty chuffed about that.
Just feeling a little run down. Early Holiday Blues or something.

 

[Robert w'E'd Leef]

I hate the organization i work for and am actively looking to leave, but they just offered me a significant promotion and i feel sick to my stomach because i don't want it at all and I'm going to have to decline

 

[Liquid denim]

Whenever deadlines are due I focus on a particular project for long sessions. That usually makes my right wrist hurt from all the mouse action. Normally this pain happens once a year, yet recently every week or so it hurts. The workflow is not increasing, so I am suspecting it is carpal tunnel.
My parents had office jobs, and that made them develop carpal tunnel. I'm doing wrist exercises and such to not end up like them.

 

[DavidS877]

Whenever deadlines are due I focus on a particular project for long sessions. That usually makes my right wrist hurt from all the mouse action. Normally this pain happens once a year, yet recently every week or so it hurts. The workflow is not increasing, so I am suspecting it is carpal tunnel.
My parents had office jobs, and that made them develop carpal tunnel. I'm doing wrist exercises and such to not end up like them.

I've staved it off for quite a while. Two things that have helped me is no arms on the chairs, thus no pressure points, and using a trackball. Also an ergonomic keyboard to keep my wrists straighter. Ok, the three things.

 

[Bothriolepis]

It's snowing outside, and we have district heating. Best combination ever.

We're getting our first snow of the season right now, and it feels like we skipped straight over fall and went from summer to winter overnight. Partly because of a hurricane back in September that stripped a lot of the leaves and caused some of the worst flooding ever measured here, but it's also been really warm for October and November.

It hasn't accumulated too much so far, but I always love curling up with a nice book, watching the snow come down in sheets, and listening to the wind try its best to tear the roof off my house. It's one of my favorite times of year.

 

[DenseDeerFather]

I too get hit by the snow pest so it's colder than a witch's teat but as I do every year, I like to build a snowman on the bench outside my apartment building


But first, here's Barbados. Name pending.

Occasionally someone else builds a second snowman and then there's another and another one.

Also I got a good dose of insurance payouts from the dentist. I will use this to recuperate my savings.

All in all, pretty good. I'm in a good mood for once which is freaky after a long period of apathy, distant misery and irritation. It's also funny because a lot of people I know get "winter depression" which can 70% of the time be chalked up to Vitamin D deficiency.

Edit: scratch that. His name is Snow Howard. Rocks don't work so we try again with Snow.

Edit 2: think I'm getting ill. Great.